|I have been meaning to ask this for a while. Do you think it hurts or helps me to hang out/date guys that I know I won't end up with, but are fun and amusing in the now? Am I blocking my soul mate by spending time with guys who aren't? I don't mean anything committed or long-term, but I don't usually turn down dinner invitations and there may sometimes be a good night kiss or two|
I think it is totally fine to go out with guys you know aren't *the one* so long as you aren't exclusive with them, because obviously then you are closing off opportunities to meet/spend time with the *one*. There is nothing wrong with having fun with someone and for opening up opportunities for yourself. Look at it as building bridges....
Mr. fun guy may have a friend, or a brother or cousin who is the one --
Mr. fun guy may help you hone more of what you want in Mr. The One ---
Mr. fun guy may open you up to new experiences and hobbies or interests that through your eventual pursuing of --- may lead you to meeting Mr. The One....
OR --- perhaps you and Mr. fun guy part ways amicably, he may go through an awakening or self discovery and wind up in your life in 6 months as Mr. The One....
Point is, to leave all doors of possibility open.
Personal story--- my stepsister (and best friend) met her husband while dating one of his close friends at the time. They realized they weren't right for eachother, parted quite friendly (her and first guy that is), kept hanging out just as friends, and through that became close to my now brother in law (her husband) ---they have been married for 4 years now and are STILL close friends with first guy and his (now) longterm girlfriend.
So you see, leaving the doors of all positive possibilities open is a good thing --- so long as you are still focused on the energy of what it is you are desiring, which is a husband and life partner, and soul mate and don't become complacent.
....oh and nothing wrong with a good old fashioned hot make-out session ...that's just a perk my friend