Severe hip pain and vent...

[mommyof2soon2b3]

I have been in an extreme amount of pain these last few days I can't sleep and can barely walk it's terrible...I have tried putting a pillow in between my legs but it doesn't do any good...I have 4 days to go until they told me that baby could die if he weren't delivered by 36 weeks his movement has decreased severly but no one else is concerned so maybe I shouldn't worry so much...It's been very rough...I do not have ob doc STILL no one where I live will take me and even though I don't have insurance now I am still trying to find an ob...I have called around and gone to several places and no one will take me this far along and being high risk...I don't get it this is a life were talking about...I have gone into a couple different ers and they said they can't take him out because they aren't my doc and they don't have my records (which the hospital is refusing to release) I don't know what to do it's vry frustrating and makes me cry a lot any suggestions are welcomed...I have been taking herbal pills for about a week and they aren't doing any good...I have been trying goldenseal, evening primrose oil and borage flax oil(these were recommended to me to try to get things going)everything I go into labor though they just give me meds to stop it...ugh...

[comfybuns]

um, this is not going to be a supportive post to you but I need to say it. You JUST posted TWO days ago saying that you were 33 weeks and barely hanging on and asking how a baby born at this stage would be. Now you are posting that you are taking things to try and get things going??????
I decided to look through your posts and it has been one crisis after another....you were having contrax, blood clot, water broke etc....

You are very possibly putting your childs life in danger by trying to force this birth early. I have had 4 children and, yes, it is hard waiting, but the healthy baby in the end is worth it. You need to take a step back and look at your previous posts to figure out what is really going on.

[Marcimama]

I can relate to the hip pain! I wake up several times during the night and have to stretch out in order to go back to sleep. I am sorry about your coverage issues. We had some problems in the beginning with that too, because we were new on our medi-share program. It is stressful and takes the joy out of being pregnant. I hope that you are able to work everthing out.

[Muggins&Doody]

Why would a military wife not have health coverage and why is your baby going to die at 36 weeks?

[mommyof2soon2b3]

first off I am sorry that you got that impression I am being told 2 different things that I am 33 weeks by one doc and 35 by another so I guess you missed that...I am 35 weeks (according to all my ultrasounds since 10 weeks) I am sorry if my life is too caotic for you I guess it's a good thing it's not you huh?I wouldn't wish this on anyone...I don't remember saying my water broke I do remember saying I thought it could be...I have had a lot of fluid leaking but the doctor has checked and the fluid is only a little low so it wasn't my water...On the insurance thing well my husband has recently gotten out of the army so we lost the insurance...we are currently waiting on another company to cover us but for right now we don't have insurance and they told me the baby would die because of the blood clot (it's restricting blood flow and nutrients...I am not just impatient I am worried about the life of my baby...Sorry about the confusion

[bobbirs]

can you buy the Tri-Care Cobra insurance? I know when I got out I could...it is about $1,000 a month but at least it is something!!!! I hope everything goes okay!!! I will be praying for you!

I just want to give you support!!! Let me know if you need anything or if you have any other things I can pray for you!

Bobbi

Maybe post on the NICU page...they might know more!!!

[mommyof2soon2b3]

thanks Bobbi for everything your support has been very warming...I had never heard of the Tricare Cobra I will have to check into that we can't afford it but it's cheaper thatn the hospital bills lol...I am trying the best I can for me and my little one things have been so rough...I am not sure why it is that people are getting upset with me because of the problems I am having...I am trying to relax but it's really hard...I do appreciate your prayers and if you could just keep our family in your prayers that is all I ask...I am praying as well...I am going to try more tomorrow at finding a new OB doctor I may just have to go to the ER or L&D once a week til he comes but it's worth every minute...Thanks again

[doudat]

I don't think anyone here would wish any harm onto you and you child, quite the contrary!!! You are in our thoughts and prayers.

But your posts are difficult to follow, maybe because you are very upset at your current condition. You say in your first post that, at best, you are 35 weeks along and you have been trying, through herbs and other natural means, to start the labor process for a week now, so at 34 weeks by your calculations. This is worrysome as it can be very dangerous for your unborn child.

I'm sure if you have some major complications that L&D will not turn you back and will proceed to let you have this child. It's all about risk vs potential benefits and I guess at 34 weeks, it just isn't worth it.

Hang in there, just a few more weeks to go!!

[Lousli]

I'm not sure what is happeneing with the insurance thing. Are you seeing an OB at all? Does he/she have access to your medical records? Are they aware of the clotting issue? I'm really confused if you are getting appropriate medical care for an issue this serious.

If the clot is that serious, can you call your OB to have him/her talk to your new OB? I thought you got a new one when you moved? It sounds like you and the baby should be monitored pretty closely and that you should be making plans for the baby's birth. How about having your doctor fax your records (or the important part of the records) to you and take those with you, in your hand, when you go to get a new OB or peri.

You say that you can't find an OB to take you because of being high risk. Can you find a perinatologist? What are these OB's suggesting that you do when you call? I can't understand how they would turn you away with no advice or resources if you're 33-35 weeks pregnant with a high risk pregnancy and no doctor. Do they at least have a suggestion for you when you call?


That being said, I agree with the pp that trying to have a baby on purpose at 33-35 weeks is not a good idea. If a perinatologist determines that because of severe IUGR or other serious health issues a baby at that gestation would be better off outside than in, that is something they would discuss with you and would probably suggest an induction (carefully monitored, in a hospital, for the sake of the baby's health). Otherwise, a baby at that gestation is not ready to be born, and would be better off developing inside.


If you don't have an OB, and you're going to the ER, are they trying to stop labor if you're 34+ weeks along? Usually after 34 weeks they won't try to stop things from happening.

[Radhanuga]

Ok, maybe not the popular thing to do, but at least it'll help you relaxe. If you truly are broke and cannot afford coverage, don't worry about it.

Go to the hospital, have your baby and apply for emmergency medicaid. If you are really in need and low income you'll get it. They cover everything.

And I agree with everyone else, trying to induce yourself is a bad idea, your baby is obviously not ready, and doing it with problems and bad health without an OB is suicidal for both you and baby.

Call social services, most states have a MCC program, if you don't have a ride, the social services will set you up with somebody who can take you to appointments, do all the paperwork for you, find you insurance, child care, etc when needed.

Even if you are not a US citizen.

Honestly in this country you can see doctors and get good care even if you are homeless/pennyless. You just need to make the first step. CAll now.

I wish you all the best.

[mommyof2soon2b3]

Well I have called every OB doc within about 40 miles from me or more and they are all telling me that I am either too far along or because I am high risk or both...I have not been able to find a peri I am looking for anyone at this point...I have just been told to go to the ER or L&D...The last time I went to L&D they gave me a shot to stop the contractions and fluids as well...I am unable to recieve my records from my old ob I tried to get them before I left and they said they do NOT give out records to carry with you...I did see and OB a few weeks ago and she has been trying to get my records since they day I went in and they are refusing to give them to her...I have had my husband call his old unit to try to see if they could do something but that's not their job...I have since moved 4 hours from the doctor I was able to see due to not being able to afford to live in that area of the state so I cannot see her anymore...Ugh this is frustrating...I am truly sorry for anyone that is following my posts yes when I get frustrated I miss word things and am just totally upset and at a loss for what to do I only wish others could understand...I am trying EVERYTHING I can do to figure something out but I live in an area of the state that is covered in nothing but small towns(the closest big town is 90 minutes away) I am having other problems in my life as well that just make things even worse but I won't even begin to bore you with that...Thanks for all the support ladies and to let you know I have stopped taking all the herbs I was taking I didn't realize they were dangerous and a lot of them say to start taking them 4-6 weeks before baby is due so I didn't know...I am just desperate for someone to actually listen and do what they need to make sure this baby is ok...

[Radhanuga]

Did you call the social services??? You can even call a woman's shelter, they'll tell you who to call and where to go.

There are ressources out there. You just have to be willing to use them.

[katytheprincess2]

Hey mama I have worked in health care for years and thought maybe I could try to help ya out...Are there any University hospitals or community hospitals nearby? I know that the University Hospital here (University of Louisville) has a high risk clinic and will take patients no matter how far along they are. I lost my insurance when I was 8 months pregnant with my 2nd child and was very high risk (he had IUGR ect) and they took me as a patient. Most community hospitals in this area also have clinics. If nothing else you can go be seen in the local public hospital and then they can take it from there. Apply for emergency Medicaid which here is a walk in office and you know one way or the other by the time you leave weather or not you have been approved. It took me only a few days to get my cards but I told the clinic that I had been approved for medicaid and they just put it down on my chart and waited for my cards to bill anything. I am sure there is some way of getting treatment...hospital ER's can't turn you away based on insurance or your lack there of. I HTH's. Good Luck to you!

[Jenns_3_babies]

I agree. You ask to talk to the hospital's social worker (my mom works in a hospital), ask to apply for emergency medicaid, or you can call up your local county assistance office and talk to a caseworker directly. Granted, you're going to need to proof of income, that it's low and you can't pay the bills. If you apply for insurance through the office itself, you can then go to an OB that takes that kind of insurance. One thing about applying for medicaid is that if eligible, you're insured from the date that you applied on, and any previous bills up to 3 months ago they will pay for. You just need proof of it. Hey, I'm not proud of it, but I'm on state insurance for this pg. I pay into taxes, and should get the help if I absolutely need it, just like you do right now.

I'm glad to see that you're still around too. We were wondering what happened to you, if you had the baby already. Some people had posts up a while back to how you were doing.

[lesley&grace]

Oh mama, I am sorry you are going through so much, and the stress of it all cannot possibly be helping any.

I am confused though, you can't find an OB willing to take you on??? Please understand, it's not that I don't believe you, I just come from a very different health care system...here an OB would not refuse to see you because you are too far along and/or high risk. In fact, being without a care provider and being high risk would bump you to the head of the line. I've seen a number of things regarding US health care that scare the crap out of me, frankly. Not that I am trying to hijack your thread to ask my questions, I just find it appalling that there are dr's in the world who are refusing to treat someone who needs them, the only dr I know of here who has refused to treat someone is a very talented cosmetic surgeon who will not operate on smokers since he feels it's a waste of his work (whether you want a face lift or reconstructive surgery due to injury...he considers the smoking to be disrespectful to your body and thus to his work should you continue to smoke after he fixes you up). I mean, don't drs take an oath about this sort of thing????

I do hope you and your babe are healthy.

[LilMomma83]

I'm not sure what to tell you as far as geting someone to take you...but for I was without health insurance for about 4 years and if you explain your situation a lot of places will give you a "courtesy" discount...and I am not sure if all hospitals do this, but my local hospital also gives a discount and allows for a monthly payment plan if you can't cover the bill right away.

...just some thoughts...also I did not get insurance until about a month or 2 after finding out I was pregnant - I went to basically a crisis pregnancy center for my first 2-3 check ups and they had LOTS of information about resources that are available to lower income households. I felt a little wierd going in there, but they were so welcoming and actually thought it was the coolest thing to have someone come in with a planned pregnancy...whenever I see the staff around town they are so friendly

I hope everything works out - please don't put your baby in danger by trying to induce yourself...

[lauraheartslittle1]

http://webapps.ama-assn.org/doctorfi...n&zip=&x=0&y=0

Here's a list of OB-GYNs in Lawton, OK (which is listed as your location here). If they all refuse you, file a complaint with the AMA. From their website: please call [phone] and ask to speak with a staff member from the Council on Ethical and Judicial Affairs.

As for the doctor refusing to send you your medical records, have they given you a reason why? That is your personal information and you have a right to it. Here's how to get your records if your doctor is refusing. http://www.ama-assn.org/ama/pub/cate...se_copy_medrec

Go to a crisis pregnancy center, planned parenthood, your local health center, your local WIC office... if you are in as dire straits as you have mentioned (doctor saying you would lose the baby at 36 weeks... not sure I understand the hows/whys/?!?!? of that) but if that's the case... you DEFINITELY need to be under the care of a doctor/midwife/someone with some level of training on how to care for a high risk pregnancy.

[bamamom]

Originally Posted by lauraheartslittle1

http://webapps.ama-assn.org/doctorfi...n&zip=&x=0&y=0

Here's a list of OB-GYNs in Lawton, OK (which is listed as your location here). If they all refuse you, file a complaint with the AMA. From their website: please call [phone] and ask to speak with a staff member from the Council on Ethical and Judicial Affairs.

As for the doctor refusing to send you your medical records, have they given you a reason why? That is your personal information and you have a right to it. Here's how to get your records if your doctor is refusing. http://www.ama-assn.org/ama/pub/cate...se_copy_medrec

Go to a crisis pregnancy center, planned parenthood, your local health center, your local WIC office... if you are in as dire straits as you have mentioned (doctor saying you would lose the baby at 36 weeks... not sure I understand the hows/whys/?!?!? of that) but if that's the case... you DEFINITELY need to be under the care of a doctor/midwife/someone with some level of training on how to care for a high risk pregnancy.

Also, I was told by a labor and delivery nurse that if you go stand in front of the front desk at an OB's office and demand treatment, they cannot force you to leave. You just stand there and dont move.