*Weekly thread Mar 5-11* - Page 2

[mrsalf97]

I feel fantastic!

[wombatclay]

Oh WhiteWax...I'm SO sorry you're going through this. It's not fair, it's not fun, and it's not going to get better for a while. But it WILL get better. You are strong, and able, and beautiful, and you are there for your daughter and the little one on the way. You are the image of strength and beauty for them and sometimes it helps to remember that even when you feel and know that everything has fallen apart...there are these little people who believe with every fiber of their body that you are perfect and amazing and just about the best thing EVER.

But hang in there mama! You get through it day by day...just like you get through labor one contraction at a time. It might seem never ending but then it's done, and you're there, and life keeps going. So don't give up.

[Jilian]

WhiteWax, PLEASE come on over to the single parenting forum and talk to some of the mamas who have been through what you are going through. Many mamas over there seperated from their DP/DHs while pregnant. You CAN do it. The beginning is the hardest.

The women on that forum are so wonderful and inspiring and I know I wouldn't have made it through my seperation without them.

[vannienicole]

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[herbmama3-7]

Whitwax, just like a pp said you are getting through it, it is so tough, please do search out help, i.e counseling, or at least check out the single parenting forum! We are all here for you!

I have been good, baby is growing, I am measuring big too, but I thought it was just becuase this is pg #2. Does measuring big usually mean big baby: I hope not, ds was 8lb2oz and I am a small person so that was uncomfortable to say the least!

The baby was moving all around this morning, dh and ds go a kick out of watching my belly morph all around, it was so strange to see, there really is an independent little being in there, so crazy!

Ds and I are having birthdays this week, so dh took me out for a really great night, we even stayed at a hotel while the grandparents stayed with ds, then we had a little birthday party for ds, he loved all the attention, it was fun!

I am going to take a nap now, I really need it, getting over a cold, the house is a mess, but I am going to ignore it for now!!

Hang in there ladies, and I can't even imagine that we are in the 3rd trimester, I think I'll claim that in a week or two, but not yet

[WhiteWax]

Thanks guys... I'm hanging in there I suppose... I slept a little better last night...

herbmamawhat a nice birthday treat!!! sounds like so much fun!:

Jillian didn't they have you in the hospital and establish that you didn't have kidney stones? I know you recently posted that you passed kidney stones but I thought they had "determined" you didn't. If that's the case... well NUTS to them!!!!!! lol maybe I'm just remembering incorrectly.

I start my prenatal yoga on Thursday which I am sooooooo excited and thankful for right now!

AND on sunday when DexP has DD i plan on spending a smidgen of my tax return money and treating myself to a pedicure for the feet I can barley reach! I know I shouldn't really be spending the $$$ on it but you know what???? I want to!!!! and my feet are sore, dry and could use a nice soak and a rub and some pretty polish! lol

Hope every one is doing well...

Question about months.... I'm done with 27 weeks.... so I'm working on week 28.... when someone asks how many "months"... what do I say? I know there was just a big disscusion about trimesters but what about months? Do you say the month you are in or the month you completed? lol sometimes, with stranges I say the month that I'm in just because of how big my belly is!

[wombatclay]

I am soooooo tired. Not mentally tired (I don't feel like I would fall asleep if I lay down) but just physically drained...like I can't move without really thinking about it. Ugh. And my night shift just started so I'm going to be at work for another 5 hours. Hopefully no one asks any tough question!

My weight gain has sort of leveled off at the 1 pound a week mark again, but with that bonus 5 pounds I gained all in one week I still feel HUGE. I know I've got three months of serious growing ahead of me, but I feel like I've maxed out...no more! I'm as big as any woman should have to be!

Oh, and 23mo dd today poked me in the belly button and asked "Ro-ro down the hole?" all serious and focused...then she waved at my belly and said "hello ro-ro, see you later" and ran off. Very cute.

[willoLevin]

Originally Posted by wombatclay

Oh, and 23mo dd today poked me in the belly button and asked "Ro-ro down the hole?" all serious and focused...then she waved at my belly and said "hello ro-ro, see you later" and ran off. Very cute.

DS (age 3) talks to Baby Glooby via my belly button all the time. He also tries to use the tweezers from his toy doctor kit to take the baby out. He's pretty sure Glooby is ready to be born, but I keep asking them both to be patient and wait until June.

I'm definitely getting heartburn now. Last pg, I only remember having it at night in bed. The past few days, I've gotten it during the day. I hope I don't get to enjoy this symptom every day for the next 15 weeks!

--willo

[WhiteWax]

Hey ladies.... I have a generic MDC question....

<<<< Over there under my memeber name is a little bold saying.... it's very sweet and made me smile but how did it get there?

[Jilian]

Originally Posted by WhiteWax

Jillian didn't they have you in the hospital and establish that you didn't have kidney stones? I know you recently posted that you passed kidney stones but I thought they had "determined" you didn't. If that's the case... well NUTS to them!!!!!! lol maybe I'm just remembering incorrectly.

YES. They did a u/s and said they did not see any stones. They did not believe me when I insisted I had a stone. They said it was just a kidney infection and "those can hurt too". Well, yeah an infection hurts but NOTHING like a kidney stone. I've had 3 stones before this one and I *know* the pain that goes with a stone. Oh well, they're idiots. I won't be going back to that hospital ever. This was my biggest stone yet so I have no idea how they could have missed it, but I'm even more upset at how they treated me. They acted like I was being a baby and didn't know what I was talking about.

Originally Posted by WhiteWax

AND on sunday when DexP has DD i plan on spending a smidgen of my tax return money and treating myself to a pedicure for the feet I can barley reach! I know I shouldn't really be spending the $$$ on it but you know what???? I want to!!!! and my feet are sore, dry and could use a nice soak and a rub and some pretty polish!

I think that is a great idea. You really deserve it. I hope you have a great day and enjoy pampering yourself!

[vannienicole]

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[WhiteWax]

thanks .... that is really really sweet... today was a great day to see it... I'm having another BAD (just emotional rollercoaster) day.... DD is eating lunch and I just cant seem to stop crying so I am hiding out in here in the other room so she doesn't see me.

I made the mistake of telling DexP i wanted to talk a little today, that I was so lonely and just dont feel like this is all the right thing to be doing... then, I dont know, I could just feel or sense or hear his hesitaion and I said... but you dont feel the same way do?

He told me "no...." he said he missed me and all but he was doing fine.

I want to go hoooooooooooooooooooooommeeeeee:

[herbmama3-7]

Hang in there whitewax, you really are a strong, lovely momma!!

Does anyone else feel like June is F-o-r-e-v-e-r away? I feel huge and like this baby can't stretch me anymore!! I don't make a happy pregnant lady anyway, some women have the body to handle it, I sure don't!! Everyone complains about labor and delivery, but seriously that is done in hours, this pregnancy lasts MONTHS! Just needed to rant a bit, anyone have tips to make it feel like it is closer than I feel it is?

[sylvi76]

Hey everyone, it's so interesting to read about how you all are doing. Here, I can't believe how active this babe is, constantly moving. Still don't know if it's a boy or girl, at both ultrasounds, the baby was moving alot and one the tech said, oh i think i see 3 lines, and 2 minutes later, he said, well wait, maybe it's a little boy part! hmmmmmmmm. SO who knows? I thought if they saw the 3 lines then it meant a girl for sure?

Anyways. In the meantime, I can't find lightweight summer capris anywhere! In a few weeks we are going on vacation to the beach and I really need to find some cute summer maternity wear. Jeans just aren't gonna be what I want to wear on the sand, you know?

Jillian, glad you are feeling better! Can't imagine being pregnant and going thru all that! Sheesh!

[WhiteWax]

Not sure when exactly you're due, but I'm Due the 5th and it's only 89 days away...

lol personally I feel like it's horrifyingly close! but that would be a testament to my current situation...

I would try to plan some mini things to do between now and then so you have short term things to look forward too... it will help break up the time... Thats my only thought... and thanks for the kind words.

[Jilian]

I usually feel like June is really close then when I was having PTL it seemed so far away. Now that I'm feeling back to normal June seems so close again I only have 12 weeks to go, and just yesterday I was thinking that in 9 weeks I'll technically be "full term" (37 weeks). So this babe could possibly be born 9 weeks from now

[Enchanted Gypsy]

I cant believe it's the third trimester already !

I am due June 5th. Sooooo close. I must admit I am terrified of the natural birth, though nothing would prevent me from doing it that way (baring serious medical stuff).

It seems the day I went into the third tri mester I became so much more tired. The books said I would and boy were they right on...

[vannienicole]

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[sally Z]

Hi all also getting ready to move soon. Vannienicole sorry missed it before but i gather you are moving back to the US, so another one doing a big move. We are going from South Africa to UK on 23 March.

Jillian: glad you are okay and PTL stopped

Wombatclay: i have the opposite problem my dd yells and pokes baby until he wake up as she wants to feel him kick her I told her when baby is born we are not allowed to wake him! She calls him her girl brother- leetcho

WW: i am so sorry you are going through this. is there anything we can do?

[willoLevin]

I might sound morbid with this, but I wish I still had a brochure (I think it was March of Dimes, but I can't find it on the MoD website) that listed premature baby survival rates for different weeks of pregnancy. (It also showed how big the baby was for each month of pregnancy.) I kept that brochure tacked up over my desk during my first pg.

Am I the only one who keeps these numbers kind of like a beacon in her head?
"At 28 weeks more than 96 percent of babies survive; at 24 weeks the rate is 50 percent; and at 22 weeks, two percent." or "After 23 weeks’ gestation, a baby has just a 16% chance of surviving with intensive care, and a 64% risk of serious disability. At 24 weeks, survival is 44%, but by 25 weeks, the survival rate is 63% and risk of severe disability is 40%." (taken from one Canadian medical web site and one British science news story today)

I am crazy relieved to have completed 25 weeks of pregnancy and to know my baby now has a statistically decent chance of surviving if, God forbid!, I went into labor now.

I'm really sorry if this freaks anyone out. I think this is a symptom of my information-junkie-hood. I find it immensely reassuring!

--willo