What I love about my kids

[wemoon]

Is that they will be able to be fluid in their sexuality and not have any qualms about really exploring who they are. My son, who is 5, once had a "girlfriend." He has since told me that they broke up and that now he has a boyfriend. I just think it is so amazing the way a 5 year old can be so open and wonder how much the world would change if all parents could raise their kids in a safe place to explore who they really are.

[Cx(mummy to be)]

that is so adorable and heart warming. I've always been very open about sexuality in general, but it wasn't until I went to university at 19/20 that I acknowledged that my ideas about fluid sexuality, and love was for a person not their gender, actually applied to me personally.
Your son is so privalleged to be able to understand and accept something like this at such a young age. :

[MichelleW]

how wonderful, wemoon! I think even if we are queer, and even if our DP or friends are very fluid (or trans) in their gender, it can still be hard to raise our kids with the 'fluid' concept.
I told my SIL this past weekend that we are not expecting to find out about the genitals (and yes, that is how I speak about it) of our child until they are born. And she said, well then, how will I know what I can knit/buy them, and I said, they will wear all colours/clothes, so it doesn't matter. And she's like, 'oh, okay'. I was very surprised that her response was so calm, but I think that I was very confident in what I said helped. While gender fluidity and sexual fluidity are different, they are also very linked! (as I'm sure we all know!)

I'm so happy to hear of a child being so open, wemoon. Thank you for sharing!

[lexbeach]

I agree that our kids are lucky. I love the statistic about how children of queer parents are no more likely to be queer than children of straight parents, but they are much more likely to question their sexuality and experiment with people of both sexes and genders.

My straight parents had many gay and lesbian friends while I was growing up, and were not homophobic at all, BUT they absolutely assumed I was straight and talked about my "future husband," etc. I can't imagine how much easier my coming out process would have been had I grown up in a home where it was always assumed that I could be straight, gay, or neither!

We tell our kids all the time about how when they grow up they might fall in love with a woman, or they might fall in love with a man. They also know that sometimes girls grow up to be men, and sometimes boys grow up to be women. At four, they both tell us that they want to find a girl to love when they get older (and they also think that we--the moms--are going to be their kids, and we'll all still live together, of course!). [Secretly, dw and I do sort of hope that at least one of our sons grows up to be queer, but obviously we'll be thrilled with whatever happens--as long as they give us grandkids, lol!].

Lex

[tatangel19]

I tell my kids that I have a ''whimisical disregard for gender''