Probably hormonal but emotional about MW

[isabellasmom]

I found a midwife that I really like but she was going to cost $1950. She was not covered by insurance so I could have encountered other costs as well, just not feasible for my family. I found another midwife, actually 3 who work together who are covered by my insurance. I had a consult and liked the one that I met a lot, she was very nice and I felt like this is going to be the birth that I want! Well, she told me that you can not be hormonally sick (like morning sickness) after 12 weeks, it's all nutritional or blood sugar. I thought ok, I guess I can see that but it just doesn't seem right. I had been very sick and couldn't hold down even water for 2 days and I called up there. I spoke with another one of the midwives, the CNM who I haven't met. She told me that ALL morning sickness is nutritional. I kind of made it clear that I didn't agree without really arguing and she said "do whatever you like." I was really upset by this. Then yesterday my friend went to them and they said that she needs an ultrasound immediately because her uterus is too high. Now my friend is big for 12 weeks and I will NOT be surprised if she has twins but I can feel my uterus up to my belly button and I'm 10-11 weeks. With my hospital grade heart monitor I have been finding the highest heart rate just below my belly button, it's 140-165 range. I guess I feel like they are full of absolutes like the doctors that I am avoiding and I am worried. Could I just be over reacting? They are my only option for a homebirth and I feel VERY strongly about having one. Maybe I just need to chill and not worry so much about my midwives...they are just there to get the baby out, I guess.

[pamamidwife]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It seems that some providers are very "nutrition is the cure for all that ails you" - and other belief systems that are rigid and not always evidence-based.

The tradeoff of having your insurance cover a provider could mean that there are philosophical differences in your care. Stick to your guns, know that you have a right to refuse anything at all - but also realize that they have a right to discontinue care if they feel you are being "irresponsible".

I'm so sorry. I know that this is hard. I'd totally have a serious heart to heart before your pregnancy goes too much farther. If you cannot deal with confrontation, a letter describing how this feels for you would work well.

[bubblesispreggers]

You could always ask the first MW if she gives discounts for certain circumstances or a sliding scale for income. We got a $700 discount for having low income.