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post #121 of 787
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Originally Posted by Amris View Post
Speaking of realizations and EFT, hehe.

I started to EFT some of the things that make me feel guilty.

I tend to really put off doing my housework until the evening, and do other things in the day. Which makes me feel guilty.

As I've been releasing these feelings of guilt, I am suddenly interested in cleaning my house, LOL.

Cool, huh.
I gotta learn more about this....

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Originally Posted by mama_b View Post

I did the same thing! My dd just learned the word "hand". I was sitting last night on the couch with dd on my lap having a conversation with dh. DD kept grabbing my hand and putting it up against hers and saying "hand". I was like "yes sweetie, it's your hand" and was still trying to talk to dh. She started getting increasingly agitated and I couldn't figure out what she wanted. She eventually started grabbing my hand and painfully pulling my fingers apart. I yelled at her to cut it out. : She looked at me and her little lip started to quiver and she looked so hurt. Then I realized that she wanted me to rub her little hand to help her go to sleep (I do this often). I felt so terrible and apologized profusely and gave her lots of hugs and kisses. I still feel like a pile of crap about it.
One of the most painfull lessons we teach our children is that sometimes people who love each other unintentionally hurt each other. It doesn't mean they don't love each other. It means they made a mistake. And we apologize when we do that and try to make it better if possible.

This is really an important lesson in interpersonal relationships. If we were "perfect" parents, it would actually hurt our children!
post #122 of 787
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Originally Posted by mamatanya View Post
I love the switchwords too! And as for your 1 and 2 personalities, they fit birth order personality traits exactly. I had a guy in my store who was just mesmerizing talking to me about the difference between 1's and 2's and he was so right on the money. The most interesting thing he told me was to give 1's as little direction as possible, they take it as you're not trusting them, and to load 2's up on it, they take it as loving attention.

On the switchwords, did you unlock the book or did you buy a papercopy? I found that the book she based it on is back in print and have been unable to decide which to buy.
I've browsed through the birth order book before and yes, it seems spot on.

I got the switchwords e-book and I bought a copy too. They're very different. The e-book is more practical while the paper copy explains how they work and how the author discovered them.

I keep saying that when I have time to focus my mind more fully I'll post about what I'm learning from the books. It's really pretty interesting.
post #123 of 787
Speaking of EFT - -
Is that the clip of the guy poking at his forehead, cheeks and chin?

I'm not really making fun, I'm just trying to remember. All you mamas post SO much good stuff I can't keep track.

I really want to learn about holosync and the other thing you're talking about but :

Once my site is done I'll have more time!
post #124 of 787
Barefoot mama -- great post! You ARE so worthwhile!

Penny -- hugs to you.

mama-b-- been there, done that. Is it possible never to yell again? I'd sure love to never yell and still have authentic feelings. My mom was a yeller and while I would not say I'm a "yeller," I yell more than I'd like (which would be never). Any inspiring stories from mamas that used to yell?

Here are some good Daily Grooves from Scott Noelle that I dug up for me and anyone else who might like them:

:: The 51% Principle ::

On your parenting journey, remember that 100%
perfection is not required for success. In fact, 51%
is enough to guarantee *progress*.

And as a leading-edge parent, progress *is* success.
There is no final state of perfection; you'll always
be progressing.

Just as an election can be won with only 51% of the
vote, you've got lots of room for error. So just relax
and look for ways to emphasize and focus on what *is*
working. :-)


AND

:: No Regrets ::

As you progress and become a wiser parent, you may at
times feel regret that you didn't "know better" when
your children were younger. You may even feel guilty
for "damaging" them. If so, let Mother Nature inspire
you to a more hopeful perspective.

Have you ever explored a wild forest and appreciated
the awesome way in which Life springs forth from the
chaos? Then you know Mother Nature never regrets. She
learns as she goes and always makes the best of things
as they are. She never looks back.

When a tree takes root in the shadows, Mother Nature
doesn't regret giving it a "sub-optimum" start in
life. She trusts it will bend toward the Light and
find a way to thrive. And in doing so, the tree
creates its own unique beauty.

She knows that no storm, flood, or fire can stop the
endless Flow of Life through her children.




I find these both so beautiful and comforting. Esp the 51% one, 'cause I do know I'm making better percentages than that.

And you know what else? WE'RE ALL AWESOME MAMAS!!!!!!!!!!!
post #125 of 787
And Whimsy, I like what you said about "being perfect actually hurting our children." Whew! That's a relief!
post #126 of 787
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Originally Posted by KoalaMama View Post
Jen, that's awesome! What a great post!

That's called the Place Mat Process, and it's on page 211 in Ask and it is Given. (You'll want to know that in a couple days.) Here's a link to a description of how to do it: http://whatanicewebsite.com/Connee/placemat.htm
Thanks! I made my list for today as soon as I read it
post #127 of 787
barefoot mama - I've had some WOW moments too that I think, well of course I knew that, it's nothing new, but somehow it is ALL new now. Am I making any sense?

Here's one example: I was talking with my inner spirit the other night about love (since this is what I am focusing on learning about.)

Here's how the conversation went:
IS:"Love is Service."
ME: How can I serve?
IS: Love

Now I know that might even sound kind of but for ME it is a breakthrough. Even though I've *known* it I guess. I mean, I've read people saying that, Mother Teresa said it all the time. But now it's personal and so it has more meaning.

Kate - My mom was a yeller too and I never really thought of myself as a yeller (I'm really a pretty quiet, calm person) but when I do deviate from my center, I YELL. I don't want to, it's an automatic response. An out-of-body type thing.

Good news is, I don't have to be perfect! (Even though I want to.) :
post #128 of 787
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Originally Posted by memiles View Post
The first hour we were there, we sold ONLY those cookies! It was a great reminder for me that LOA isn't about getting rich and skinny, but about manifesting everything that we need on a daily basis.
Memiles -- that is AWESOME!!! Soooooo cool. And I love trefoils. :0

[QUOTE=dharmama;7527834The night he told me he lost his job we had a special dinner, bottle of wine and toasted to new beginings. [/QUOTE]

Dharmama-- this is SOOOOOOOOOOO beautiful and sooooooo inspiring. THIS is the definition of SUCCESSFUL!!! I'm moved...

Also wanted to give a belated welcome to Annalily, May May, and Noorjahan.
Welcome to the best threads on MDC!


post #129 of 787
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Originally Posted by Annikate View Post
I got the switchwords e-book and I bought a copy too. They're very different. The e-book is more practical while the paper copy explains how they work and how the author discovered them.
I've been meaning to ask you if you noticed the typo on the back of the James Mangan book. (I assume we have the same edition.) Under 'The Positive Force' it says:

"This is the side of your personality that strives for peach, love, happiness and achievement."

post #130 of 787
Oh, man! This is so cool to see Hemi-Sync and EFT ALSO being discussed in the LoA thread!



I have one question about the switchwords - where can I learn more about them? I keep seeing the lists but can't find the 'instructions'. How are they to be used? TIA.
post #131 of 787
There is an old saying:
"Once you have tasted freedom, there is no going back!
"


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Originally Posted by
Catgirl
He also said I've given him some control, that it's not enough and he wants to be completely in control, etc. etc. : HELP!! I am so not ready for radical unschooling etc. etc.....

I'm trying not to think "oh, dh will just LOVE this (NOT!)" and re-stating, "dh and I are perfect partners in parenting."
I would seek to reflect about 'what are my fears?'. And try to release them, in order that all of your needs can be held together, without the what if's that controlling another attempts to avoid.

I trust that we each have our own path, none is the teacher of what is right for another. I trust that by choosing to relate to others without fear that our needs are in conflict, it opens us to solutions which address both of our needs. It isn't necessary to control others in an effort to get them to do the "right" thing, because their path is not our own. I desire for a non-adversarial partnership as a trusted adviser, which depends upon the "authority" of my wisdom, not obedience or compliance. I believe that cooperation can be engaged to solve shared problems. And that I am not the authority for another's life. I don't believe that anyone *has to* do anything they don't want to do, and this is how I choose to honor everyone autonomy over their own lives.

There are solutions which manifest without compulsion or control of others. Be open to observing, connecting and reflecting, instead of feeling that you have to determine the "how" to make it all work. This space will help to open up the possibilities, when we aren't directing the solution.

There is plenty of time! All is well.

Pat
post #132 of 787
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Speaking of EFT - -
Is that the clip of the guy poking at his forehead, cheeks and chin?

I'm not really making fun, I'm just trying to remember. All you mamas post SO much good stuff I can't keep track.

I really want to learn about holosync and the other thing you're talking about but :

Once my site is done I'll have more time!

Yep, that was the guy doing EFT.

I know what you mean about trying to keep up with all this good stuff. I'm forever bookmarking websites, getting books out of the library, etc. But there's just not enough time to delve into it all as deeply as I'd like - and I'm a SAHM with only one child. So I know a little about a lot of different things, but I don't know a lot about any one thing. :

I'm on the way to the library to pick up yet another book that someone mentioned today that sounded interesting. ('Energy Medicine' by Donna Eden)
post #133 of 787
Can someone, pretty please, once more provide the link for the hemi-holo-happy-sync thingie?? Thank you! :
post #134 of 787
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Originally Posted by KateSt. View Post
Can someone, pretty please, once more provide the link for the hemi-holo-happy-sync thingie?? Thank you! :
www.centerpointe.com

ETA: OOOhhhh!! This ws my 500th post! :bounce
post #135 of 787
THANK YOU! and HAPPY 500TH!
post #136 of 787
I skimmed most of today. The discussions hit home for me today.

I am feeling very challenged by DS's behavior lately. I figured it was the stomach bug but now he's been better for 2-3 days and he's still acting this way. He screams for 5-10 mins straight when I tell him no to anything. I feel like my head might explode from listening to him scream all afternoon for candy. I let him have one piece and then said "no only one a day" and he lost it.

I keep second guessing my instincts on handling "tantrums" and I just am not sure about how to be the best mom for him in situations like these. I hate putting him in front of the TV, but sometimes that is the only thing that calms him down. I try to come up with fun or creative or physical activities for us to do together and lots of times they end in a battle like this. My parents turned everything into a battle with us kids and I do not want to do this with my kids.

Does anyone have any insight on how to difuse situations like these that have potential to become battles in a peaceful way? I really am open to any and all suggestions. I mean what I say when I say I am unsure what to do in situations like this.

Maybe this should be on a different thread. Let me know if I need to ask elsewhere.

Annikate I'm feeling what you posted about yesterday.

Tara
post #137 of 787
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Originally Posted by Annikate View Post
barefoot mama - I've had some WOW moments too that I think, well of course I knew that, it's nothing new, but somehow it is ALL new now. Am I making any sense?

Here's one example: I was talking with my inner spirit the other night about love (since this is what I am focusing on learning about.)

Here's how the conversation went:
IS:"Love is Service."
ME: How can I serve?
IS: Love

Now I know that might even sound kind of but for ME it is a breakthrough. Even though I've *known* it I guess. I mean, I've read people saying that, Mother Teresa said it all the time. But now it's personal and so it has more meaning.
I know just what you mean. There's a huge difference between knowing something and really *Knowing*.
post #138 of 787
Taradactyl---here's a link I received in an email lately about tantrums. Not sure I agree with all of it, but it's worth a read:
http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/how...mper-tantrums/
post #139 of 787
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Originally Posted by KoalaMama View Post
mama_b... I will just repeat what I said above. Our kids love us, and they understand.

Penny... I just called Holosync and asked about transfering to an MP3 player. They said that you'd need to transfer in AIFF or WAV format for sure, but she still couldn't guarantee that it wouldn't lose some effectiveness. She said they do have ppl that use it that way, but the only way they guarantee it is straight from the disk. I guess I'll try doing this with the sample CD and see if it feels any different when listening to it.
Thank you for taking the time to call them and post about it. I had uploaded the Holosync onto iTunes and was listening in bed, but I wasn't getting much from it ... now it makes sense as to why (and I had the thought previously about simply "recording" it would miss the underlying stuff). So, I'm going to put one of our small boom boxes next to the chair and just plug in my headphones there. Not as convinient, but it'll work.

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Originally Posted by whimsy View Post
I gotta learn more about this....



One of the most painfull lessons we teach our children is that sometimes people who love each other unintentionally hurt each other. It doesn't mean they don't love each other. It means they made a mistake. And we apologize when we do that and try to make it better if possible.

This is really an important lesson in interpersonal relationships. If we were "perfect" parents, it would actually hurt our children!
Yep! My best friend and I were just talking about this today ... we need to show our children that we all make mistakes; it's how we handle those mistakes that counts ... what do we do *afterwards* speaks volumes compared to the original mistake.

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Originally Posted by Annikate View Post
Speaking of EFT - -
Is that the clip of the guy poking at his forehead, cheeks and chin?

I'm not really making fun, I'm just trying to remember. All you mamas post SO much good stuff I can't keep track.

I really want to learn about holosync and the other thing you're talking about but :

Once my site is done I'll have more time!
I was going to link you to the video, but the link says the video has surpassed it's allowed viewing or something like that. Here is the link directly to EFT.

So, I had a major AH HA moment today while drying my hair. I think I've mentioned that my biggest affirmation and manifestation right now is my health - I am completely healthy and whole. And, up until now, despite everything I've been doing, it's not working (diet, supplements, nutrition in general, acupuncture, etc.). Up until now, I haven't felt improvement. So, over the weekend I worked with Jen (barefootmama) on a constitutional remedy and am very excited because what I ordered from her recommendation is on the way! And, I gave up grains, which should help as well.

BUT, and here is the big AH HA moment. I realized today that UP UNTIL NOW I have feared being healthy.

It hit me like a lightbulb. I realized that being unwell (mostly emotionally though I have physical symptoms too - namely constant sinus pressure/congestion/headaches) is my "trump card" so to speak that ensures there is someone to take care of me. You see, my parents divorced when I was seven. My mom went from being home full time to working full time. I was at a babysitter's in the morning and afternoon until she got home. Eventually I hit 6th grade and became a "latch-key kid". The only time that my mom was home (during the week) was when I was sick. So, I believe I started subconsciously associating being sick (physically and emotionally - depression) with being taken care of ... this has carried over to my dh. He takes amazing care of me. There have been a few times this school year that I have felt so badly (mostly emotionally) that he has come home early from school to tend to me and the boys. I realized I fear being well because then maybe I won't have someone to care for me, to take care of me, and to be here when I need them. Suddenly maybe people in my life will feel "free" to abandon me if I'm well because I won't need them anymore. Does this make sense? It is such a huge revelation for me ... I'm really excited. (I think my Inner Being was talking to me even though I wasn't talking to her. ) I have been at my wits end as to why I'm not feeling the healing affects of what I do ... I keep trying to think of the next thing I have to do to get well ... I'm running out of ideas! And then today it's like an angel floated down upon my shoulder and whispered in my ear ... that up until now I've been afraid to be well.

So ... now I need to let go of this fear and I'm not entirely sure how to. It feels so engrained ... is EFT enough? Jen, if you are reading, think the homeopathic remedy might help me let go of it? Maybe the Holosync ... I want to drop this fear like a bad habit! I want it gone. I want to be completely whole and healthy!!!

I AM COMPLETELY HEALTHY
AND WHOLE!!!
post #140 of 787
Oh, does someone have the link to the You Tube video of the affirmations from The Secret ... with the neat music behind? I can't find it in my favorites.

Nevermind, here it is. I remembered it came up when you searched The Secret on You Tube.
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