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post #141 of 787
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Originally Posted by hula View Post
I've been meaning to ask you if you noticed the typo on the back of the James Mangan book. (I assume we have the same edition.) Under 'The Positive Force' it says:

"This is the side of your personality that strives for peach, love, happiness and achievement."

Funny! No, I didn't notice but ran and checked mine and yep, it's peach alright.
post #142 of 787
Just wanted to share that the work I'm doing right now feels...wow. Difficult.

I feel like up until now I've just sort of been dabbling in LoA. Celebrating the little victories...manifesting raspberry jam when I was out of it and needed some for a recipe...the right book jumping out at me in the library...the right people calling when I need them to etc.

But now...dealing with DH's unemployment and the insecurities that go along with it are really challenging me.

I'm SO restless today. I've lost patience with the kids way too much. Argued with DH over nothing this morning. Then just while I was cooking dinner...I was like...what is this restlessness???? Oh right...our whole world is changing (and on top of that we changed the clocks this weekend .

I feel like I have to re-watch The Secret and re-listen to some of the CDs I explored last fall. Get back to the basics...reaching for the best possible thought in each moment.

Very interesting.
post #143 of 787
MLW---what an EMPOWERING insight!!! Good for you, you healthy, thriving mama!!!

So is it the holosync demo everyone's talking about? I ordered that. Anyone buy the first round of CD's?
post #144 of 787
MLW! That is just... WOW! Really awesome! Have you listened to the Hale Dwoskin interview from the Masters of the Secret thing with Bill Harris? I think the exercise he goes through on there (Sedona Method) could help. Here's the link to the sample process on their site: http://www.sedona.com/html/Sample-Of-Process.aspx

Question for you about the Holosync program... How many CDs are there? And what's different about them? Or is it just more of the same thing? Hmmm... I wonder if your breakthrough on this was helped along by that program? Everyone I've talked to that has tried it so far says they almost immediately feel themselves open up and notice things surfacing. You know, I haven't even received my sample yet, and I'm just itching to go buy the whole program!!
post #145 of 787
dharmama... It makes total sense that your current situation would feel 'bigger' than some of the other things. But you know, it's as easy to manifest a castle as a button. Just keep reminding yourself of past manifestations and think about that! (And yeah, refreshers are always good!!)
post #146 of 787
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Originally Posted by MyLittleWonders View Post
So, I had a major AH HA moment today while drying my hair. I think I've mentioned that my biggest affirmation and manifestation right now is my health - I am completely healthy and whole. And, up until now, despite everything I've been doing, it's not working (diet, supplements, nutrition in general, acupuncture, etc.). Up until now, I haven't felt improvement. So, over the weekend I worked with Jen (barefootmama) on a constitutional remedy and am very excited because what I ordered from her recommendation is on the way! And, I gave up grains, which should help as well.

BUT, and here is the big AH HA moment. I realized today that UP UNTIL NOW I have feared being healthy.

It hit me like a lightbulb. I realized that being unwell (mostly emotionally though I have physical symptoms too - namely constant sinus pressure/congestion/headaches) is my "trump card" so to speak that ensures there is someone to take care of me. You see, my parents divorced when I was seven. My mom went from being home full time to working full time. I was at a babysitter's in the morning and afternoon until she got home. Eventually I hit 6th grade and became a "latch-key kid". The only time that my mom was home (during the week) was when I was sick. So, I believe I started subconsciously associating being sick (physically and emotionally - depression) with being taken care of ... this has carried over to my dh. He takes amazing care of me. There have been a few times this school year that I have felt so badly (mostly emotionally) that he has come home early from school to tend to me and the boys. I realized I fear being well because then maybe I won't have someone to care for me, to take care of me, and to be here when I need them. Suddenly maybe people in my life will feel "free" to abandon me if I'm well because I won't need them anymore. Does this make sense? It is such a huge revelation for me ... I'm really excited. (I think my Inner Being was talking to me even though I wasn't talking to her. ) I have been at my wits end as to why I'm not feeling the healing affects of what I do ... I keep trying to think of the next thing I have to do to get well ... I'm running out of ideas! And then today it's like an angel floated down upon my shoulder and whispered in my ear ... that up until now I've been afraid to be well.

So ... now I need to let go of this fear and I'm not entirely sure how to. It feels so engrained ... is EFT enough? Jen, if you are reading, think the homeopathic remedy might help me let go of it? Maybe the Holosync ... I want to drop this fear like a bad habit! I want it gone. I want to be completely whole and healthy!!!

I AM COMPLETELY HEALTHY
AND WHOLE!!!
That makes perfect sense!!! And it fits me like a glove. That would explain why I overreact when I feel like DH is NOT taking care of me like he should.
post #147 of 787
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Originally Posted by Amris View Post
That is the fact that we make "mistakes" out to be "the end all." Once I make a mistake in my diet, why, I just as well throw the whole diet out and just BINGE.
yes, there is a lack of appreciation for doing things and learning from the experiences. I love The Magic School Bus and one of my favorite quotes is Ms. Frizzle: "Get messy, make mistakes."

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Once I make a mistake in my parenting, why, my child will be ruined for LIFE.
I hear you! My oldest is 10 and I've made lots of mistakes. There are things I just didn't know at the time and other times when I failed to live up to my parenting standards. My kids are both amazing, though. We really don't have to get EVERYTHING right. It does help when we get a lot of things right, but I think that everyone here on Mothering.com has such high standards that we need to try to be mellow with ourselves.

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Originally Posted by WuWei View Post
I believe that you answered your own question. By choosing *happiness* as a priority, I can then decide 'Is this more important than happiness?' I create my own angst by choosing situations which require rushedness, hurrying and long lists of "To Do". I am learning to remember that much can be left up to the Universe, when I make Choosing Joy "my work" for the day.
I'm still trying to figure out how this fits with having a bunch of stuff that I really need to do. The universe isn't going to pack up all my family's stuff without me at least calling moving companies, getting estimates, blah blah blah. I have a role to play and real actions I gotta take.

Today has been great so far. I've gotten zillions of calls made, appointments made, etc. Everything is flowing. The times when I started to feel anxious or stressed I reminded myself that there is a stream of well being and that I can allow the stream. Moment by moment I have a choice. So, I just keep choosing to allow the stream of well being. :


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Originally Posted by KateSt. View Post
I picture myself being cradled in the arms of a big, beautiful Mother Goddess and as she rocks me back and forth she tells me, "I love you. It's okay to have these feelings. You are safe," over and over. Sometimes I picture myself cradling ds as I'm also being cradled. It's just a little thing, but it's helping ME feel unconditionally loved and it's very comforting to think I'm safe no matter WHAT I'm feeling.
I LOVE this!

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Linda -- Congrats on your move. You REALLY are Linda on the Move. c'mon, if I hadn't said it someone else would have!
We've moved several times before for my DH's job. I used to be Linda in Canada, and Linda in Arizona. I think I might have even been Linda in Kansas for awhile. I finally settled on Linda on the Move because it would work no matter where we lived and I thought of myself as a woman who had moved over and over for her DH's job (which I now see as really negative). I think I'm going to change it after we get to Florida -- may be Linda on the Beach, or change the way I think about it. Linda on the move refering to how much I'm learning and growing or something like that. Or may be I'll just go for Linda the Serene Yoga Goddess

BTW, this move feels totally different than any of our other moves because I feel so on top of things. This move is happening because I manifested some stuff and this is the quickest way for my universe to deliver it. I know that I can manifest whatever I decide I need/want, from new friends to ease of tranfering the utilities.

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Originally Posted by Annikate View Post
One of my biggest goals as a mother of daughters is to teach them how to love themselves so that they will never have to feel like that yk?
I think by modeling it and then teaching it through affirmations.

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Originally Posted by KoalaMama View Post
And actually, now that I say that, I believe it must be even worse for men than for women. Of course, this is all 'up until now' for us and our families.
I've been doing so much reading on the mind/body connection and I can't help but think that some of the health problems that men in our society tend to have (heart and prostrate (sp)) are related to this.

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Originally Posted by catgirl View Post
He also said I've given him some control, that it's not enough and he wants to be completely in control, etc. etc. : HELP!! I am so not ready for radical unschooling etc. etc.....
I'd let go of the label "radical unschooling" because it seems to be messing with your head and not at all helpful to you at this time.

I talk with my kids about what they want to do and how they want to do it. The 3 subjects that we feel they *must* work on are reading, writing, and math. We've explained to them why. They are free to work on these any way they want, and don't need to do something for each every day. Sometimes they like some curriculum, other times they don't. There are SOOOO many ways to learn things.

What does your son want to do? It is not my experience that kids who have lots of freedom really want to sit around day after day doing nothing. They usually want to do some pretty cool things.

And when talking with your DH, don't say that you've decided DS should just do whatever he wants, because DH might freak out. Instead, talk to him about what DS wants to do and what he is learning from it.

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Originally Posted by Taradactyl3 View Post
I let him have one piece and then said "no only one a day" and he lost it.
Don't have candy in the house : Set your child's life up so that *yes* can be your normal response.

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I keep second guessing my instincts on handling "tantrums" and I just am not sure about how to be the best mom for him in situations like these.
when my kids were small I tried to figure out what triggered tantrums for each of them and then avoid those things in the future. Being over tired was a huge thing for both of my kids.

When they did tantrum, I removed them from the situation by taking them to a quiet place and stayed with them (holding them if they wanted) while they got it out of their system. Then I got them a cool wash cloth to wipe off their face, which seemed to help them transition back.

Sometimes our kids have really strong emotions and the best we can do for them is just to be there with them while they express them. I don't think it is our job to *fix* their emotions, just to be available to them. At the same time, I did try to think back through and eliminate triggers.

post #148 of 787
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Originally Posted by KoalaMama View Post
dharmama... It makes total sense that your current situation would feel 'bigger' than some of the other things. But you know, it's as easy to manifest a castle as a button. Just keep reminding yourself of past manifestations and think about that! (And yeah, refreshers are always good!!)

Thanks! That's a print and post quote if I've ever seen one. What a perfect affirmation for me this week!
post #149 of 787
You guys are all great
post #150 of 787
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Originally Posted by KateSt. View Post
Taradactyl---here's a link I received in an email lately about tantrums. Not sure I agree with all of it, but it's worth a read:
http://www.raisingsmallsouls.com/how...mper-tantrums/
Wow, just read at the link, and it seems so out of alignment with LoA and requesting what we want from the Universe, trusting that we will receive it, and being open to it manifesting.

"Tantrums" are an emotional expression of angst, distress, and desire. These wishes are as valid in all people, regardless of age. We can be partners in working together to manifest all of our dreams and desires!

When we suppress our wishes, as suggested in the link, we must then *relearn* to trust the Universe to provide. We have the opportunity to model a sense of abundance and ability to have all our dreams come true!

There is plenty!!


Pat
post #151 of 787
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Originally Posted by MyLittleWonders View Post


So ... now I need to let go of this fear and I'm not entirely sure how to. It feels so engrained ... is EFT enough? Jen, if you are reading, think the homeopathic remedy might help me let go of it?
Absolutely This is classic of the remedy you are waiting for. Willingness to change will take you even farther

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I AM COMPLETELY HEALTHY
AND WHOLE!!!
post #152 of 787
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Originally Posted by WuWei View Post
Wow, just read at the link, and it seems so out of alignment with LoA and requesting what we want from the Universe, trusting that we will receive it, and being open to it manifesting.
Pat
Yea, that's sorta what I was thinking -- and also I thought some of the language was a bit harsh: "I won't answer you until you stop crying," That's not cool!

Linda- great post! And I love "Linda the Serene Yoga Goddess!"

Koalamama-- your post convinced me! I ordered the whole holo-sync program and overnighted it 'cause I can't wait for the demo!
post #153 of 787
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Originally Posted by sphinxie View Post
You guys are all great
and so are you!
post #154 of 787
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Originally Posted by barefoot mama View Post
Hi mamas
I wanted to share some realizations I've had this week, because who better to understand than all of you!
I have realized that I am a worthwhile person. I know that sounds odd, and I thought that I understood this before, but I didn't. .................And I feel good about it! I feel like I deserve it! Not because I put my time in or do so much or anything like that. Just because I exist and because life is supposed to be joyful.

That's WONDERFUL!!! ANd the kinder you are to yourself, of course the mroe other people will be kind to you too. (Hmmm...I think I needed to hear myself saying that....

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Originally Posted by KoalaMama View Post
And wow on your boy. Can you work with him to come up with a visualization process for rebooting? Maybe he just needs to imagine what he's saying needs to happen. Also, maybe work on reinforcing the idea that we all have a huge range of feelings, and that nothing is good or bad - it just is. Hmmm... maybe even a little talk about observing the feeling from a distance, and realizing emotions are things we hold onto but can also let go of? I'll have to think on how this might translate to kids. But maybe the example about holding and releasing the pen on the Sedona site would work well! Just have him hold and drop all kinds of things and talk about how emotions can be like that too. (Ramble, ramble... I hope something here sparks an idea for you.)
Right now he's saying that all of this stuff doesn;t work, that he doesn;t believe in energy medicine, in the LoA, etc. I think that really means "I'm afraid it won't work," "I'm afraid it will work," and "I don't want to know becasue it wasn't my idea in the first place."

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Originally Posted by Amris View Post
Barefoot mama, great job, dear one!

catgirl.

This is what I would do, personally. Take what you like of it, and leave the rest.

I would sit ds down and tell him, "Do you know what my purpose is in your life, dear? I am your teacher. It's my job to help you understand the laws of the Universe, like Law of Attraction.

"There's also another important law. It's called "The Law of Right Action." It is my job to teach you this law, also. And one part of this law is teaching you how your actions and desires effect others.

"I am to teach you how to have healthy partnerships with other people. Part of that means that I have to give you instructions, and ask for your obedience at times. When I ask you to do something, and you honestly feel that there is genuinely a better way, will you reason together with me, rather than simply being disobedient?

"I am working very hard to be a good teacher to you. But in order to do that, I'm afraid there will be times that I will ask you to do things. There are things that you need to know, that I will be negligent if I don't teach you.

"Remember how you keep comparing yourself to a computer? Well, have you ever noticed that when you run a scandisk, you can repair damaged sectors of the hard drive? I know of some ways to run a scandisk on you, and repair those sectors that you feel are damaged. But the thing is... I have to have your cooperation. That means you will need to be obedient in some things, and you will have to reason together with me regarding other things.

"Are you ready to do that? Because I cannot just allow you to do anything at all that you want... some of what you want effects others in your life. But together, if you work WITH me, we can heal your damaged sectors and we can learn together how to follow the Law of Right Action."

Then, learn and apply EFT to him.
This makes a lot of sense to me. While I have great respect (and I really do mnean that) for those who do the RU/CL thing 100%, I personally am not 100% comfortable with it, for reasons which make sense to me, and I feel I've got to give him the best of what *I* am, IYKWIM. I think part of the issue for me right now is that things are changing and that's unsettling for both of us. He's thinking "maybe if i can run piano practice, I can run everything else as well and have things exactly as I want them," and I'm thinking, "this is getting out of control, I'm not sure where I want to draw the line, and I'm ready to move it to a certain extent, but I also co-parent with someone who's coming at it from a different angle and also doesn't spend hours reading and thinking about parenting and learning the stuff I learn that way. And I also want him to be able to function in a larger world where he'll have to deal with things not always being as he wants them" - something which comes up every time we leave the house. I want him to be able to be flexible enough to take advantage of opportunites to interact with others in enriching ways, like the chamber music festival.

I know the best thing to do is keep up "Dh and I are perfect partners in parenting" and "We are finding a solution that makes everyone 100% happy."

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Originally Posted by captain crunchy View Post
Catgirl, perhaps consider that while you may not be ready for radical unschooling, your son is presenting a need to you -- he is asking you to help meet that need. Now of course part of the philosophy of consensual living which I hold dear is that both parties must be consenting. You are not agreeable with radical unschooling, he clearly is not agreeable when he feels *controlled*. How can both of your needs get met? How can you work together to reach solutions which leave you both feeling heard and respected and comfortable? A good place to begin is maybe asking him what a day in his very own life would look like... ask him to tell you as if you have no *control* over what he is doing or not doing --- it may surprise you, he may only say a couple things which wouldn't be agreeable to you... every single thing he says may be not agreeable, in which case a conversation of why you don't feel agreeable as well as getting to the bottom of why you aren't agreeable (within yourself) could help...

He loves computers... ask him to type a list of all the things he would do with his day if he was the only one deciding --- make it known you just want to discuss the list, not that this is the way it is going to be then work together to come to solutions ---

With anything you choose, I wish you and your ds peace and harmony

Tara
Yeah, this makes sense....we did do this today actually. He said he wanted to write a play and dance to a math CD so we did that. I wanted exercise so we went for a bike ride. He wanted to buy some pants to replace some worn out ones that he loved - but when we got to the mall and I wouldn't immediately look at the (expensive) ones he thought he wanted he got very angry and unpleasant. That's where I personally draw the line - if I'm going to take you to do something you want to do, then don't make nasty faces and blow raspberries at me when it's not exactly how you like it. That makes me feel disrespected and less like helping you out and figuring out what you want.

I also want him to learn that a) you can choose how to feel and how to react, and b) that what you do affects other people, you're not operating in a vaccuum, and that being pleasant to be around tends to create a nicer reality for you in the long run.

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Originally Posted by KoalaMama View Post
mama_b... I will just repeat what I said above. Our kids love us, and they understand.

Penny... I just called Holosync and asked about transfering to an MP3 player. They said that you'd need to transfer in AIFF or WAV format for sure, but she still couldn't guarantee that it wouldn't lose some effectiveness. She said they do have ppl that use it that way, but the only way they guarantee it is straight from the disk. I guess I'll try doing this with the sample CD and see if it feels any different when listening to it.
Thanks for the info! I can't wait for mine to arrive!

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Originally Posted by mamatanya View Post
I'm not sure that I follow this exactly but I feel like your answer is in what you just said. It's very important to him that it can't be fixed. So can you let him know that you will love him broken? Sometimes it has to be ok to be broken/bad/whatever negative, before a person can let go of that idea/title and accept something else.
Absolutely, and I made sure I told him that. It was jsut very sad to me. And scary, too, to be hnest. My older brother committed suicide when I was 15 and he was 20. Ben is like him in some ways - very intense and with many of the same interests - but at the same time he was born so solid and grounded. As a baby, he seemed - from the minute he was born - to be so comfortable in his own skin and so self-posessed. I really feel a bit at sea here becasue it seems so at odds with how I've always seen him.

I did actually manifest some LoA parenting advice at the library today. I ran into his drama teacher from pre-school - a lovely woman who adores him (she still comes to his recitals) and really "gets" him. I was saying that I really want to get to the bottom of "all this" and she said, no, don't look at it that way, jsut envision him whole and all the aprts workign together - mind, body and spirit! I really needed to hear that right then and it was very ironic, because I ran into her there just last week and told her about The Secret and the LoA!!! (She hasn't seen it yet, but she's the kind of person who would "get it".)

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Originally Posted by jordmoder View Post
Penny, my (7.5) yo ds also speaks in very deep analogies (right now, he's in 1st grade and has come up with the understanding that "he has too many points" to fit in the "circles" the other children do ... we're working on what other kind of "schooling" will be best for him) and your struggles so resonate with me. We've also just discovered "The Edison Trait: Saving the Spirit of Your Free-Thinking Child in a Conforming World" by Lucy Palladino which may or may not be insightful for you.
I love that book! That's my ds! Wait a minute...what's the name of the one by thom Hartmann

Oh God. This post was interrrupted right here by the sound of dh and ds screaming at each other at the tops of their voices. Dh was angry, ds was beside himself. I went and calmly asked what was going on. I actually asked dh first (and predictably still got accused by him of taking sides). Ds wanted to talk to me alone, dh said no, that was undercutting him (although I knew that ds jsut wanted to feel safe). I went to talk to dh and locked the door. Ds started trying to break it down. I told him that he was welcome to set the timer and come back in 5 minutes - which he did. I pointed out to dh that that was a much better life lesson than us screaming at him. The whole time I was trying to model being calm and respectful to EVERYONE. Ds then came back (still very angry), told us what bad parents we were, and suggested that if he talked to dh alone first, then he be allowed to talk to me afterwards. I thought this was a great solution. Dh agreed to it. That's what they're doing. My Mom is saying plaintively that she thinks she's in the doghouse because ds wouldn't talk to her just now (she always thinks everything is her fault). They're all so BLOODY EXHAUSTING.

Honestly, I'm so happy for those of you who don't have these issues, but reading these posts about happy husbands and joyful co-parenting just make me want to bawl.

Anothr interruption....

So they finally made up...but not before dh had told me that ds is so like me, that I'm with ds 85% of the time, that ds's issues are therefore much more to do with me than him - in other words, "it's really your fault." This after I'd watched him trying to make ds laugh, and ds getting angrier and angrier again as a result becasue this (laughing in spitie of himself) was clearly making him feel out of control again. I feel completely drained. I would have so much more time and energy for other stuff if I didn't feel like I was swimming uphill through murk all the time. At least I didn't lose my temper....


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Originally Posted by whimsy View Post
I gotta learn more about this....



One of the most painfull lessons we teach our children is that sometimes people who love each other unintentionally hurt each other. It doesn't mean they don't love each other. It means they made a mistake. And we apologize when we do that and try to make it better if possible.

This is really an important lesson in interpersonal relationships. If we were "perfect" parents, it would actually hurt our children!
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Originally Posted by KateSt. View Post
I find these both so beautiful and comforting. Esp the 51% one, 'cause I do know I'm making better percentages than that.

And you know what else? WE'RE ALL AWESOME MAMAS!!!!!!!!!!!
I find it very comforting to know I'm not the only one here who's yelled!

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Originally Posted by WuWei View Post
There is an old saying:
"Once you have tasted freedom, there is no going back!
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I would seek to reflect about 'what are my fears?'. And try to release them, in order that all of your needs can be held together, without the what if's that controlling another attempts to avoid.

I trust that we each have our own path, none is the teacher of what is right for another. I trust that by choosing to relate to others without fear that our needs are in conflict, it opens us to solutions which address both of our needs. It isn't necessary to control others in an effort to get them to do the "right" thing, because their path is not our own. I desire for a non-adversarial partnership as a trusted adviser, which depends upon the "authority" of my wisdom, not obedience or compliance. I believe that cooperation can be engaged to solve shared problems. And that I am not the authority for another's life. I don't believe that anyone *has to* do anything they don't want to do, and this is how I choose to honor everyone autonomy over their own lives.

There are solutions which manifest without compulsion or control of others. Be open to observing, connecting and reflecting, instead of feeling that you have to determine the "how" to make it all work. This space will help to open up the possibilities, when we aren't directing the solution.

There is plenty of time! All is well.

Pat
: to all that. It's jsut it's easier if both parents are swimming in that direction. Don't get me wrong. Dh is a terrific guy. I was not surprised that, for example, he made that decision about keeping his promise to ds (I was more surprised that he found a solution that worked for both of them). I just find it all so tiring.

OK, I've learned before that maybe I shouldn't post these stories when I'm right in the thick of it, becasue then people think I feel like this all the time. On the other hand, it helps to vent. Thank you for being here!

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Originally Posted by Linda on the move View Post
I cannot believe how many of us are decluttering this week!

We should keep talking about how great it is to declutter so that we can keep each other's buzz going. I want all the things that we are finished with out of our lives. I want to release it because I know that it will open up space in our lives for new things, and that it will give me more time. For me because everything we keep I have to unpack in a couple of weeks and then find a home for, but I think that clutter eats away at everyone's time by making it hard to find the things we want and making it hard to keep our homes clean. Clutter makes it hard to be patient with our kids.
Absolutely! I'm really into decluttering for the first time in my life! I love it!!

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I started on this path the first of Dec, and my DH joined me around the end of Dec. The most amazing thing that I manifested at first was happiness, the simple ability to enjoy my life and let go of the past. I was clinically depressed when I started loa so curing myself without meds was huge.
I must have missed that! Congratulations - that's huge!!

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Originally Posted by Annikate View Post
Look at this beautiful (and timely) email message that I got from dh this morning!:

That's wonderful!! I think I'll keep this as an example of what I'm intending to manifest!!
post #155 of 787
Thanks guys. Good advice here.

DH was telling me to ignore him when he is like that and it just doesn't seem right. We got into a tiny argument because I told him I refuse to ignore my child when he is upset.

I like the idea of taking him out of the situation and also using a stimulus like a wash cloth to help him get out of the angry emotion. It's going to help me a lot to think of this as a normal emotion that he needs to express instead of a behavior that is wrong or undesirable. Heck, I need to express my emotions like that at times too so why shouldn't he!

Thinking through this with you guys has helped some.

Thanks again,
Tara
post #156 of 787
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Originally Posted by KoalaMama View Post
Question for you about the Holosync program... How many CDs are there? And what's different about them? Or is it just more of the same thing?
You remember how I explained the difference tones and how the 10 cycles-per-second difference sets up synchronous alpha waves in the brain, right?

As you work through the series, they're doing it at lower pitches, which sets up alpha at greater amplitudes. So the first Cd might do it with pitches of 440 and 430, the second might be 330 and 320, and so on (I'm pulling the numbers out of thin air, but that's the principle). The lower the pitches, the greater the amplitude of the differnce tone and thus the alpha, and the deeper the meditation. So you get deeper bit by bit.
post #157 of 787
Penny -- this may be really out in left-field for you....but I'm going to risk it anyway because I really think it's worth looking into.

Have you ever thought that your ds...is your brother?

It just makes so much sense to me, in light of your brother's situation and your ds feeling "broken" like he pushed the wrong button before he was born!

You MUST read "Children's Past Lives" and "Return from Heaven." The latter is all about children reincarnating into the same families -- they're true accounts straight out of the children's mouths. I don't know if you believe in this but it is REALLY striking a cord with me.

At the very least, if you think there might be some truth to this, when your ds is sleeping whisper to him that he's safe, this is a new life, a new body, a new experience, he can let go of his past and embrace his new life. It's really worth a shot.

pm me if you want more info. (((HUGS))))
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Re: kids, tantrums, etc.

I agree that it is a normal and healthy emotion. I aim to make sure I validate their feelings while encouraging them to seek a better mood, but not in a way that they feel it is wrong or offering an external....(food/tv/or other stimuli) as a suitable replacement for the feelings. It's a tricky balancing act and a fine line between each side.
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Penny -- this may be really out in left-field for you....but I'm going to risk it anyway because I really think it's worth looking into.

Have you ever thought that your ds...is your brother?

It just makes so much sense to me, in light of your brother's situation and your ds feeling "broken" like he pushed the wrong button before he was born!

You MUST read "Children's Past Lives" and "Return from Heaven." The latter is all about children reincarnating into the same families -- they're true accounts straight out of the children's mouths. I don't know if you believe in this but it is REALLY striking a cord with me.

At the very least, if you think there might be some truth to this, when your ds is sleeping whisper to him that he's safe, this is a new life, a new body, a new experience, he can let go of his past and embrace his new life. It's really worth a shot.

pm me if you want more info. (((HUGS))))
Kate, ds was conceived on the 25th anniversary of my brother's death.

I have mixed feelings on the whole past life thing (wouldn't rule it out, doesn't entirely do it for me), but you're right, it's certainly worth a shot.

And if he is, that's scary too, YK?

The "wrong button before he was born stuff" might be just him insisting he couldn't fix it. It quite shocked me though.
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Koalamama-- your post convinced me! I ordered the whole holo-sync program and overnighted it 'cause I can't wait for the demo!
Well, I was clear that I haven't yet tried it, right? Now you have me thinking I should just go order it too!!

Thanks for the overview Penny! That makes a lot of sense.

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Penny -- this may be really out in left-field for you....but I'm going to risk it anyway because I really think it's worth looking into.
That was my thought reading through your post too, Penny. (And I really know zero about this subject - it was just a thought in my head, and then I read it in Kate's post.) from me. You've seen so many improvements, and I'm sure there are just more great things to come for you and your little family.

And Kate, I just loved your visual of being rocked in the arms of the Goddess! So beautiful!!
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