LoA March 11-17 - Page 11

[Sepia]

Originally Posted by kdmama33

Personally, I didn't think the Sedona Method was going to do squat for me. You ask yourself if you're ready to release, you say yes, and then you just ... do?!? Riiiiiiight. But I've seen some real progess with it.

yeah--even if you say no, you're not ready, you can still release it! i did this yesterday about an issue that seemed too scary.

[Arduinna]

Originally Posted by Amris

The following is "not exactly" a Message. It's more like a, "go talk about this" kind of Message, instead of a "say this, and say this, and this" kind of Message. Okay, given that that is now as clear as mud...

I had a bad habit. I would read a Teacher's book or visit their seminar, or whatnot. Then, I would read another Teacher's book. Sometimes, the second book would be different from the first book.

Now that I was confused, i'd read a third book in order to sort out the differences of the first and second book. In the third book, I would find something that didn't agree with the first and second book. So I'd buy a fourth book, in order to see if I could resolve the conflicts of the first three...

So, this time around, I have gotten James' Ray's The Science of Success, and I am sticking with that. I am also using Holosynch, and the Sedona Method. I also continue to listen to and use my tapes from innertalk.com, and I clear myself using EFT.

And that's it. I am not reading 'everything I can find' and continuing to search. I have chosen now to "knuckle down" and do the work. No more searching, no more seeking.

Now is for the doing.

For me personally, the time of becoming educated is passed, and the time of putting the education to work and knuckling down and DOING is at hand.

I choose to no longer confuse myself with the advice of various Teachers. It is time for me to choose ONE, and follow that ONE.

I have chosen a limited number of tools. And I use those tools, and follow the teachings of "the ONE" that I have selected. I haven't chosen in ignorance. I studied and searched.

But at some point, the searching must end, and the growing must begin.

I hear that, it's really funny because after watching the Secret it just ended up taking me back to where I was exploring a long time ago, it drew me back to vedanta. I have the one thing I've been working LoA on and other than that I've been exploring spirituality directly.

[indigenousmama]

Originally Posted by Amris

I choose to no longer confuse myself with the advice of various Teachers. It is time for me to choose ONE, and follow that ONE.

I have chosen a limited number of tools. And I use those tools, and follow the teachings of "the ONE" that I have selected. I haven't chosen in ignorance. I studied and searched.

But at some point, the searching must end, and the growing must begin.

amris, thanks so much for sharing. i have been feeling this way too lately. i have done my searching, my reading, my learning and now i have come back to my starting point. and that is the teachings of Abraham and the Hicks. they speak to me most clearly and the teachings resonate with me deeply.

isn't it neat to see we are all learning and growing together here? i know i don't post very much, but i do check in every day and i can feel my energy connected to everyone on this thread. it's so fabulous!

[captain crunchy]

I believe there is a place to learn and grow as well -- to study and to be doing -- and I hope I never stop seeking out knowledge or learning or studying -- I have much to still learn from a world of sources and remaining open to it and receiving of it while still following my bliss and putting what speaks to me now into practice is what is working for me

We all have to do what works for us and brings us to the feeling place of joy!


WuWei (Pat) love your thoughts on living consensually as always....totally agree!!

Whose daughter ate a pickle, 3 strawberries, 2 bites of pizza, and yogurt for breakfast ,

Tara

[Annikate]

RE: THe *doing* that Amris posted about . . .

I hear ya on that one. That's what I was talking about a few threads back : about the reading, researching, etc.... I'll find one point that I'll kind of gut stuck on and need to go figure out that *one* point before I can resolve things in my mind.

Last week I manifested the DOING! (Well, with the help of Amris.) :

Sometimes it does take stepping off the cliff so to speak even if you think you aren't ready.

Then you can always go back for refreshers as you are in your process yk? It's part of the learning.

[Annikate]

And . . .
another post.

Why oh why can't I find a web design program that will let me put a Paypal button on my site?

I found a good hosting co. w/their own design interface and I really like it. It's straightforward, easy to use and the support is good. BUT . . . it won't let me put html code in myself and they can't do it for me . . . .SO no paypal donation button for me.

BTW, I thought about buying FrontPage or Dreamweaver but I don't want to shell out another few hundred bucks since this software is free yk?

Do you think people will go to paypal on their own if I just give the email addy?

I know it's soooo much easier to just click a button.

[Arduinna]

Originally Posted by Annikate

Do you think people will go to paypal on their own if I just give the email addy?

I know it's soooo much easier to just click a button.

sorry

I think that having the button will increase donations, alot of people won't take the time to go to paypal themselves and then enter the info manually.

[Annikate]

Originally Posted by Arduinna

sorry

I think that having the button will increase donations, alot of people won't take the time to go to paypal themselves and then enter the info manually.

I know!

I'm going to manifest this without having to go w/another company and start building my site over AGAIN.

Maybe the guy didn't know what he was talking about right!?

[Amris]

Originally Posted by Annikate

And . . .
another post.

Why oh why can't I find a web design program that will let me put a Paypal button on my site?

I found a good hosting co. w/their own design interface and I really like it. It's straightforward, easy to use and the support is good. BUT . . . it won't let me put html code in myself and they can't do it for me . . . .SO no paypal donation button for me.

BTW, I thought about buying FrontPage or Dreamweaver but I don't want to shell out another few hundred bucks since this software is free yk?

Do you think people will go to paypal on their own if I just give the email addy?

I know it's soooo much easier to just click a button.

Manifest it.

[AprilDaisy]

I've tried to think about what I wanted to manifest this week. Manifesting smaller things is very easy for me...a simple thought will produce results shortly...

It's the bigger, deeper things I stumble over.

Hubby will be employed by the end of this week, in a great job, with great pay, less than an hour's drive from this house.

I will have organized my website and forum enough to advertise and start giving classes.

Today I have a definite vision of the house and land we're buying.

[catgirl]

Morning everyone!

I'm just skimming here - ds is still sleeping (at 10.15!) so I'm off to do some de-cluttering! It just took me 15 minutes just to copy/paste the stuff I said yesterday, and the stuff you guys said in reply, and other cool ideas, into my word file where I'm keeping all this stuff (which is now 154 pages : )! You guys rock!

I was having a hard time buzzing yesterday but I got out my affirmations while dh was getting ready for bed and it got me to a way better place! Oh, and I DID get some clarity on a work/professional issue that had been holding me back (would take too long to post now) so that felt really good.

I'm so, SO grateful that I found you guys here and the LoA and The Secret and everything! It may seem uphill sometimes (like yesterday) but that's a lot better than downhill!!

[Amris]

Originally Posted by AprilDaisy

Today I have a definite vision of the house and land we're buying.

You mean that you're living in already?

[MsChatsAlot]

Originally Posted by WuWei

I totally agree that releasing resistance with our children leads to much happiness all around! Finding ways to embrace their passions, interests, and strong minded intentions ("opposition" in non-LoA, competitive terms), works *with* them. Send energy toward *what we do want*, rather than creating conflict about *what we don't want*! It is a very empowered place to be, when our energy is not working against the free will of another person. There is no competition for whose intentions will manifest when we use our energy together to create agreements that satisfy each's needs.

We can have what we want!


Pat

I really like Abe/Hicks take on relationships (specifically parent-child, but could be any relationship)...

When you are co-creating together...you are both excited about the idea, you are both creating it, it becomes a joyful experience for all, because the joy is in the creating process. But when one person is creating the idea and expects the other to just jump on board, they miss the fun of creating...and often times it does not feel joyful to them. Creating is the fun...if you can both be involved in the creating, it will be fun and easy.

[catgirl]

Ds just got out of bed and already it's gone wrong. He seemed to be looking for conflict. That's OK - but when he starts shoving his fist near my face, pushing me, grabbing my wrists and beiung aggressive that's NOT OK! He was trying to express his feelings by hurting me. Obviously, I can't send a message that it's OK to do that. I held him off me but he wouldn't stop. I told him I would let go as soon as he did (becasue I didn't want him to learn that being intimidating would get im what he wants) but he wouldn't. I ended up snarling in his face. I just was unable to keep my cool. This was all because he wanted to do something which he'd already been told he couldn't do (for various good reasons) and he couldn't handle being told no. It's NOT OK to be physically aggressive and threatening to people. We don't do that to him. It's not OK for him to do it to other poeple. I can't just let him do that and act as if it doesn't matter. This isn't about finding solutions that work for everyone - I can't work with him to find solutions if he's doing his best to phsically hurt and intimidate me.

I feel sick to my stomach.

And here I was last night telling dh that we need to cultivate loving detachment. Obviously, I just failed miserably at that.

[WuWei]

catgirl,


Pat

[dharmama]

Penny Be gentle with yourself. What you are going through is incredibly challenging. Have you read Everyday Blessings by the Kabat-Zinns? I just picked it up and realized I need to re-read. It is such a rich treasure.

Speaking of books....I wanted to share the most BEAUTIFUL book I came across recently. It is called The Secret of Saying THanks by Douglas Wood.

It's a children's picture book that beautifully summarizes LoA!!

Kids need me....

[Amris]

Originally Posted by catgirl

Ds just got out of bed and already it's gone wrong. He seemed to be looking for conflict. That's OK - but when he starts shoving his fist near my face, pushing me, grabbing my wrists and beiung aggressive that's NOT OK! He was trying to express his feelings by hurting me. Obviously, I can't send a message that it's OK to do that. I held him off me but he wouldn't stop. I told him I would let go as soon as he did (becasue I didn't want him to learn that being intimidating would get im what he wants) but he wouldn't. I ended up snarling in his face. I just was unable to keep my cool. This was all because he wanted to do something which he'd already been told he couldn't do (for various good reasons) and he couldn't handle being told no. It's NOT OK to be physically aggressive and threatening to people. We don't do that to him. It's not OK for him to do it to other poeple. I can't just let him do that and act as if it doesn't matter. This isn't about finding solutions that work for everyone - I can't work with him to find solutions if he's doing his best to phsically hurt and intimidate me.

I feel sick to my stomach.

And here I was last night telling dh that we need to cultivate loving detachment. Obviously, I just failed miserably at that.

Sweety, I am probably going to be flamed for this, but this is my suggestion. I have had this work to good effect for me, though it's probably not AP.

When the child becomes violent, I take him into his room, and pull the door shut behind myself, leaving him there. I hold the door closed, and I simply repeat, "I love you, and when you're done venting your anger and are ready to reason together with me, I will let you come out. I cannot, however, and will not allow you to attempt to injure me. Such behavior is not appropriate." Then I begin again, "I love you, and when you're done..."

I know it's not CL or AP, but at the same time, sometimes you need a transition into those things, IMO.

I realize that it's more popular on these boards to be perfectly AP, but we're not all able to do that, all the time. When you have times like this, I think it's better to shut him in his room so that neither one of you gets hurt, than to end up snarling at him, or having to physically restrain him in that manner.

This is just my opinion, you know? Maybe someone else will have better advice for you.

The thing to remember, though, is to not LOCK HIM IN. You should be there, holding the handle of the door. This should be done only so long as you are able to be present and speaking to him lovingly through the door.

It is NOT acceptable, and I am NOT advocating, locking a child into a closet, or even into their room. Holding the door past the moments when they are attempting to be a physical danger to you is NOT acceptable. (This is my disclaimer before everyone says, "OMG, you said to lock the baby in his bedroom!)

[ShannonCC]

Penny, I might have missed this but does your son have any special needs? Or any food issues that you know of? First thing in the morning being out of control and shaking a fist in his mother's face just sounds like something's wrong to me. Food from the day before, blood sugar issues, something. Not that it's a choice your son is making to threaten you but something that's affecting him and he's out of control. My daughter can't control her behavior when she eats soy and anger is part of that. Not saying soy is your son's problem but just giving that as an example.

[Amris]

Originally Posted by captain crunchy

I believe there is a place to learn and grow as well -- to study and to be doing -- and I hope I never stop seeking out knowledge or learning or studying -- I have much to still learn from a world of sources and remaining open to it and receiving of it while still following my bliss and putting what speaks to me now into practice is what is working for me

We all have to do what works for us and brings us to the feeling place of joy!


WuWei (Pat) love your thoughts on living consensually as always....totally agree!!

Whose daughter ate a pickle, 3 strawberries, 2 bites of pizza, and yogurt for breakfast ,

Tara

I would like to hope that, as I study the path I have chosen, I will continue to learn and grow.

Some are able to weed out and do "take what you want, and leave the rest" very well. Some of us are not. I am of the "not so much" catagory. I have to stop seeking all over the place, or I will just continue to confuse myself.

I tend to quit doing one while I'm searching the next. I quit doing EFT when I found the Sedona Method, for example. Then I read about the Attractor Factor, and I started focusing entirely on that for a while. Then I moved on to...

And on the story goes.

I need to knuckle down, and apply something on a long-term, consistent basis. I don't do that when I am "searching" different methods. When I learn of a method, I am of the type that, I have to try it. Then I have to try the next one. And the next one.

So, now I intend to stick with the tools I have selected. If I cease learning simply because I choose to stick with those, then I think I have a big problem.

[AprilDaisy]

Originally Posted by Amris

You mean that you're living in already?

Yep, that's the one. I just had coffee in the sun room...watching the colors change in the sky... That's peace on Earth.