A Quick Hello From A Couple of Newbies!

[wizwoman]

We would like to introduce ourselves to all...... My name is Angie (39) and my wife's name is Julie (36).

After much searching on the 'www' we are thrilled to have found these boards! It is great to read other experiences, which has given us the opportunity of putting a lot of things in perspective and has also kept us in check the second time around... LOL. We are on our second cycle of ttc and are currently in the tww. Last month was our first try and we thought we had struck it lucky as I experienced many symptoms but then 'A Big Fat Nothing'. My period was weird and not like any of my other periods so in all honesty we didn't know what to think. We went through many many PEE STICKS but could never find the second line...... last time we tested was two days after my period and still a BFN. So after the disappointment we dusted ourselves off, picked ourselves up and moved on.... We have found a wonderful private donor who is willing to help us out until I conceive.

We would be delighted if others would share their words of wisdom/advice. Out of curiosity, how long did it take for others to conceive via home insemination?

Thanks for taking the time to read our post!

Angie & Julie

[megincl]

Glad you found these boards. It's always nice to have a sense of "community," no matter in what form.

The TTC journey is such a ride, isn't it? I'm always amazed that I'm able to attend to other parts of life when we're in the midst of inseminating or the TWW.

We also have a wonderful known donor. He actually just arrived in town for our third try at TTC #2!!!!! So, we'll be in that dreaded TWW again soon. We got pregnant on our first try with DS, along with the help of a bit of Clomid, since DW doesn't regularly ovulate. This time hasn't been quite as easy, but we're hoping for a sticky baby soon!

Best of luck to you...do continue to post with any questions, and most of all, a big welcome!

megin

[mamimapster]

No words of wisdom, but a great big hello and welcome to MDC!

[wizwoman]

Hi Megin

Thank you for the big smiley welcome.... The TTC is very much a ride..LOL but a wonderful one at that! You are right about attending other parts of your life - we got totally absorbed with our first try and when it didn't happen the disappointment was hard to handle.

You will have to let us know how you get on with TTC #2. We will also post how we get on this month.

Once again, thanks for your lovely welcome!

Angie & Julie

[wizwoman]

Hi Mamimapster

Many thanks for the welcome. These boards are a god send and Megin hit the nail on the head when she said that 'it gives you a sense of community'.

Angie & Julie

[pdxmomazon]

Angie and Julie-
Best of luck!

erin

[mama2rey]

Hello,

Welcome to these boards. I recently found them too. I don't have any words of wisdom-but I'm just sending you vibes of good energy hoping that you are pregnant!

[osker]

Hello and welcome!
We're just following our second try as well, and taking a month off for vacation. It's already been quite a roller coaster, and I know we're barely in it. I don't really have any words of wisdom for you... though if you have any for me I'd love to hear them!!

One question though, how did you find your known donor? (others can chime in here too.) We had one suitable male friend who we thought would be perfect... we bit the bullet and asked him... and then waited for his response... he told us that if he had about six months to think about it he might be able to be okay with the idea. Grrrr.... So, we have the guts to ask but no one to think about. Is there some way to just find a guy? All of our male friends are dads already and the only other one we would think of has nut allergies which kind of freak us out.

Thanks for any thoughts!

Good luck to you!!!

[wizwoman]

Hi Erin

Thanks for your good wishes - we will keep you posted on how we get on.

Angie & Julie

[wizwoman]

Hi Expectantmami

These boards are fantastic. It's not until you come across something like this that you realise you are not on your own...LOL. Great for lifting your spirits when you are taking a ride on the roller coaster and going through one of the dips.... 10 more days riding the TWW. Will keep you posted.

Angie & Julie

[wizwoman]

Hi Osker

First of all, good luck to you both on your second try..... having a vacation inbetween will surely help you relax, which will be good. Our first month of trying was very exciting but full of ups and downs as it was very difficult to focus on anything else. You feel like you have done everything right and with the symptoms I experienced we were sure it had worked - but it wasn't meant to be that time. If there is one peice of advice we could share with you both it would be 'to stay grounded and relaxed'. We let the situation take over everything else and got so wound up with looking for any little thing which would indicate I was maybe pregnant. Chart your BBT and use OPK's.

You asked how we found our donor - well, we placed an advertisement on a UK advertising board. We explained that we were a lesbian couple who wanted to have a child together and were seeking a sperm donor. We made it clear in our ad that this would not be done the traditional way and that no intimate contact/sex would be involved. We stated in our ad what type of man we were looking for, etc. We had loads of replies - don't get us wrong there were many perverts that replied but we fully understood that would happen by going this route. Anyway, we found a lovely gay chap who was willing to help us out (No strings attached). We met up with him and all discussed what our expectations were. Our donor had all the necessary tests done to rule out any diseases, etc. We now plan on getting together twice a month, during my ovulation to do the inseminations. Our donor does his bit to produce the sperm and then Julie inseminates the sperm. We are all in the same location due to the life-span of sperm outside the body but we each have our privacy. We looked at all angles before deciding that this route was the best option for us. There is a fantastic place on the net where people throughout the US are offering to be sperm donors. If you are struggling with finding a donor then send us a private message and we can pass on the links that we have, if you want to check them out.

Please feel free to ask us any questions ok.

Look forward to hearing back from you

Angie & Julie

[ErikaLeigh]

Welcome!!

[mama2rey]

Originally Posted by wizwoman

Hi Expectantmami

These boards are fantastic. It's not until you come across something like this that you realise you are not on your own...LOL. Great for lifting your spirits when you are taking a ride on the roller coaster and going through one of the dips.... 10 more days riding the TWW. Will keep you posted.

Angie & Julie

Please do! I am sending everyone happy baby wishes!

I'm getting excited. I just got my period, so the next time I ovulate we are going to ttc for the first time. I keep wondering if this will be my last period that I'll get in a while........ (here's hoping!)