I think this child should be allowed to keep her name. I also think that if there's this much stress, at this point, about whether the child will "fit" with the other children in the family over something as innocuous as a name, you might want to do some long hard thinking about how you will feel if the child is different in other ways, or doesn't "fit" with your other children in ways that remind you of her birth family. Are you prepared for that possibility? Not trying to be combative, but it sounds like this issue is getting more attention than it should, and I think it ought to be addressed before the adoption.
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3/16/07 at 4:15pm