This is a really interesting discussion. I'm curious what those who say it's never okay to change a child's name would do in specific situations.
For instance, say your child already has a name which you find literally or virtually unpronouncable? What if your child comes from a country where there are serious enough language diffferences that their name isn't/wouldn't be pronouncable by English speakers--say, for example, you adopt from an African country that uses clicks in their language and there is one in your child's name. Are you duty-bound to keep it? What if a child is named Ginger and is adopted in a country in which there are no G sounds and all nouns have an accent on the second syllable. Are you really maintaining your child's identity if you know that most people will call her yin-YER her whole life? (This example sounds silly, but I think there are really situations that would work like this when names are "translated" into English.)
And what about names that will border on the ridiculous? If you adopt a child named Carey and your last named is Carey? If you adopt a child named Georgie and your last name is Porgie? I'm not trying to be facetious--I'm genuinely curious if people think there are limits and, if so, where they are. Is it worth keeping your child's given name if you think he/she will be ridiculed his/her entire life. What if the child IS named Bacardi Breezer?.
And what about other kinds of ethnic combinations? My dh has a VERY Jewish last name. If we adopted from, say, an Asian country, I wonder what it would be like for that child to go through life named something like, say, Chenguang Rosenblatt. I'm not saying I necessarily would change it--just that it would require some thought.
Originally Posted by pumpkingirl71
We hated our daughter's name. She came to us at 23 months. Not only did we hate it, it rhymes with our son's name and they have the same names a famous couple. Hated it, hated it, hated it. But we decided it was her name. We love her, so we decided we have to love her name too.
And, on a lighter note...anyone else dying to know what these names are?