How much do you tell your kid(s) about the donor? - Page 2

[gamitzer]

Thanks for the input! I just want to clarify that when I said it didn't matter, I was quoting my friends. I really, really believe it matters, so actually, I was frustrated with them. I have a feeling that they will eventually share the information with their kid, but right now they have no plans to, so they think I'm wasting my time being concerned/asking about what to do.

And Lexbeach, thanks so much for explaining what it would seem like to your kids at this point. I can only imagine the confusion that a kid would feel when told this baby is the donor! I hadn't even thought about that.

[NZmumof2]

Great discussion to see here,

We have a 7 yr old and 3.5 yr old and we're growing #3 (8w and counting) all the kids have the same anonymous but willing to be identified later, donor, which was very important to us. We've each carried a child and I'm carrying #3.

Our boys know lots about the donor's atributes and the older one especially enjoys identifying what he may have inherited from the donor - musical ability is one, vs what may be from me and what is more from hanging out with his non-bio mum who is at home full time. The boys certainly look quite alike and they know that's probably the donor!

They talk often about being daddies too, I love that lots of AP stuff comes out in that! I'm really happy with having shared all the info we know about the donor with the kids, the donor knows we've had them and was happy to donate again for us we're aiming for four eventually.

Anna, partner to Leah for 10 year, mum to Bede 7 and Emmett 3.5 and "Rata" due in January