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Originally Posted by Amris View Post
protect our minds, and our thoughts .
This really jumps out at me and speaks to me.
post #682 of 767
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You put on your first page of your website: "I am here to serve you". That totally rings true and whole and genuine on so many levels. I simply wanted to comment on that....that's all.

aw shucks : I put that because I do genuinely feel like I am serving and of service when I am coaching, because I do put my heart and intention and love into serving -- thanks for letting me know it stood out to you
post #683 of 767
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Originally Posted by celesterra View Post
I'd like info, too Annikate... :

and CC and Barefoot Mama... if you want to PM me with your pricing, I'd love to chat with you about possibly working together. I asked before but I'm hoping you both just missed my post.
Oh my gosh, I am so sorry, I did completely miss it! I'll PM as soon as I'm no longer NAK
post #684 of 767
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Originally Posted by annalily View Post

Jen! I didn't know that.
John says he gives himself a 'B' for how he's done with Emma. No huge breakthroughs, but steady progress.
I think this is wonderful! Steady progress is great~ it means there is an excellent chance Emma will heal very well and not backslide. Sounds like he's being hard on himself!
post #685 of 767
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Originally Posted by Linda on the move View Post
Thank you! My kids were really manifesting for the fish, too! Our drive went really smooth -- very little construction, nice weather, pretty trees in bloom, polite drivers, etc.
Mmmm, pretty trees in bloom...I'd love to see some of those but I think I'll be waiting a few more weeks up here! Glad it all went off so well though. I guess if you can move a fish that far I should feel confident about moving our fish tank this afternoon!

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Has anyone read Sarah Book 1 by Hicks? It is a chapter book for kids written on about a 3rd grade reading level that explains some for of the basic Abraham teachings, including a good explanation of death (basically what Wu Wei just said, but in a story format!) I just read through this (I bought it for my DDs but wanted to read it before I gave it to them).
thanks for posting this!! I will definitely be checking this out!



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WOW! Do you realized how far you've come???

You are bragging about your DH and what a great guy he is!

I'm so happy for you!
Thank you, : , but I do want to make one thing clear. I've always bragged about many aspects of my dh, IRL and on the web. The one thing that was always an issue for me (though I wasn't always fully aware of it) was our differing perspectives on some (though not all) spiritual issues, particularly with regarding to what I saw as faith and he saw as magical thinking. So when I went very gung ho on the LoA (and it was no accident that I discovered it right now, because that issue had very suddenly come to the surface in my marriage 24 hours earlier), it's hardly suprprising that it really shook things up. And at times when that got really tough, I poured out my feelings here because I needed to share with poeple who really understood what I was talking about. That doesn't mean that I was constantly focusing on that, or expecting the worst (on the contrary, I was expecting the best, which was why I was hurt by the response I was getting from him for a while as we worked through this), just that WHEN that happened, this was where I came for help. I've never posted on, say, blended families boards about our blended family, because our blended family has never been a source of....contrast. I don't know why I'm feeling the need to go on about this, but...anyway.....I guess I've said what I had to say!

I will add that dh and I continue to have some...*progress-impelling* moments with all this stuff, but I'm focusing on the the best outcome for both of us and we are continuing to find common ground. And I appreciate very much the wisom and help I've gotten from EVERYONE here on that journey. You guys rock!!!


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My DH immigrated to the US (he's British)
So am I! Where's he from exactly??
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Originally Posted by Amris View Post
Voyager: Seven of Cups, Fear: On this card are many images of things that look like something other than what they are. This is what happens in our lives when we are afraid, too. The cactus becomes a mob, bent upon lynching. The flower becomes a sea monster. The ornate vase becomes a coiled serpent. A stone formation becomes a black cat, sent to curse us.

This card reminds us that the mind can twist anything if it sees it through the veil of fear. It reminds us to protect our minds, and our thoughts from this most unreasonable and destructive of all human emotions. It reminds us how many negative thoughts and feelings spring up simply from this one feeling.

EMF card: Humility: definition: a modest view of one's own importance

Together, these cards remind us that, while arrogance is not good, neither is living in a state of humiliation and fear. Humility is not synonymous with humiliation. Do not bring yourself low, this is not needed. All that is asked in order to be humble is that you do not raise yourself above others in a competitive manner.

Doing so is a fear-based way of thinking and being, just as much as humiliating yourself instead of humbling yourself is.

Amris, I just want to say that I love how you take these cards which people might find frightening and turn them around so that they say something positive!

Also, your website is beautiful! I love the photo - it really adds a beautiful vibe (to all the beautiful vibes that are there already, of course!). I do have a couple of small edit suggestions - may I PM you?
post #686 of 767
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Originally Posted by barefoot mama View Post
I think this is wonderful! Steady progress is great~ it means there is an excellent chance Emma will heal very well and not backslide. Sounds like he's being hard on himself!
Thanks!
I think he's being hard on himself too. He is truly gifted.
post #687 of 767
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Originally Posted by Amris View Post
Thank you kindly.

Nothing special, that's just my Nom de Plume (pen name). I created it out of Amris, which came from Am'Ris, which was a character's name that I created for a short story that I wrote (and subsequently lost) long ago.

Not my real name at all, but I do own the rights to everything written under it (© stuff belongs to "me" as the owner of the Am Ris nom de plume, for example).
I assumed you name was Amanda Ris...something!

I wanted to ask, did you FL moms manage to get together with Annikate?
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Originally Posted by catgirl View Post
Amris, I just want to say that I love how you take these cards which people might find frightening and turn them around so that they say something positive!

Also, your website is beautiful! I love the photo - it really adds a beautiful vibe (to all the beautiful vibes that are there already, of course!). I do have a couple of small edit suggestions - may I PM you?
Please do!

Also, if anyone knows of any of these things, I would love links and/or explainations:

1. How can I link to another "location" within a page, and how do I do "back to top"?

Like, I have all the questions at the top of the FAQ. How can I make those link to the actual question/answer further down the page?

2. A good email sign-up thingie (that would be for my use)

Thanks everyone!
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Amris, I'm so excited for you about your new site! What a great vibe it has!

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1. How can I link to another "location" within a page, and how do I do "back to top"?
You'll want to use anchor tags. Here's a tutorial: http://www.w3schools.com/html/html_links.asp ETA: See the part that references anchor tags and name attributes. There's a specific example of this.

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2. A good email sign-up thingie (that would be for my use)
Do you mean a mailing list where people could sign up to get emails from you? If so, I can recommend http://www.constantcontact.com. Or are you talking about an email account for yourself? I've heard people really like gmail. Or something else...?
post #690 of 767
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wanted to ask, did you FL moms manage to get together with Annikate?
Penny, we were going to go out tomorrow to meet up with Kate if my um *woman's issues* don't resolve by then (I didn't want to get tmi but basically this month is very, very heavy and I don't know why...)

but other than that, we were going to go next weekend which is when annikate (terri) and Tara (pregnant Tara, if she is feeling up to it healthwise) are going!

I can't wait to meet Kate and her family as well as Terri -- Tara, I already know irl thanks to this thread but I am still excited to hang out with her again
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Originally Posted by KoalaMama View Post
Amris, I'm so excited for you about your new site! What a great vibe it has!



You'll want to use anchor tags. Here's a tutorial: http://www.w3schools.com/html/html_links.asp ETA: See the part that references anchor tags and name attributes. There's a specific example of this.



Do you mean a mailing list where people could sign up to get emails from you? If so, I can recommend http://www.constantcontact.com. Or are you talking about an email account for yourself? I've heard people really like gmail. Or something else...?
Yay, thank you!

Mailing list is what I wanted. I'll see what I can figure out with the meta-tags. Definitely something very polished about a site where you can click back up to the top, and where you can click on a question and go right to it, I think.
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Amris, another thought on the mailing list... Check with your site host and see if they offer one for free or as part of a small upgrade in your service. Most often these are plain text - nothing so pretty as the constant contact ones, unless you design them that way - but it can be very effective as well.
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Originally Posted by KoalaMama View Post
Amris, another thought on the mailing list... Check with your site host and see if they offer one for free or as part of a small upgrade in your service. Most often these are plain text - nothing so pretty as the constant contact ones, unless you design them that way - but it can be very effective as well.
Someone's blog is way behind. *cough* :


I mean, besides mine. :


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Originally Posted by Amris View Post
Someone's blog is way behind. *cough* :


I mean, besides mine. :


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: Um yeah, no kidding! Want to know the really funny part? I was just this minute doing a little self dialogue about that very thing, and considering what I should post next.

I've been doing a whole lot of back and forth on things these past couple weeks... Should I offer coaching or shouldn't I? Should I work on this blog or shouldn't I? Should I get rid of this other site or shouldn't I? Should I move forward on the new forum or shouldn't I? Should I plan out a workshop or shouldn't I? Blah blah blah! End result? I decided to drop the oars and wait for things to start flowing rather than badgering myself (and the universe!) to death with questions! The result is I'm now feeling all kinds of inspired and lots of pieces are falling into place for me. Things become clear when you just let go of needing to know if they're going to become clear! Funny how that works, huh? : Eh, oh! There's the next blog subject! :
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I wanted to ask, did you FL moms manage to get together with Annikate?
I am still here at home - going to the beach next Sat. and SUn.! And our weather has been absolutely perfect too!

I'm soooo excited~!

And thanks KoalaMama for posting that very helpful info. about Amris' site - - I'm going to look into those things.
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It's wonderful! A helpful hint: if you send off for the demo, but then don't order right away, about 4 weeks later they email you a "bribe" offer with all kinds of extra free stuff! I'm so happy I manifested this!
I got that Holosync offer, too, last week, but didn't have the money right then so.... I guess the perfect time will happen. Or maybe he'll try another bribe?

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Dh and his ex had shared custody of dss (who's now 24). They live less thatn a mile apart and they eally worked at it - always celebrated his birthday and religious holidays together, for example. At dss's bar mitvah the rabbi said to them, "Well, the marriage may not have worked, but you certainly made the divorce work!" At one point we were all interviewed on Good Morning America and his ex said, "You have to decide if you hate your ex-spouse more than you love your kids." DH also paid full custody support to her even though he was an equaltime parent (have I mentioned lately that he's a mensch? ).
Wow. I love this story, and especially the highlighted quote. I know other divorced couples who make great efforts to get along and both be there for their kids. I used to hope that dh's ex would eventually come around and recognize that I was yet another adult who loved and watched out for dsd, but.... no. Not in over 11 years. I still get like this And when she announced they were moving, breaking the divorce agreement... arrrrgh! But did dh go see lawyer, like he said he was going to do? no. did he listen to me when I said, look, face it, she is trying to screw you over. (she offered to lower child support payments, then included a tax credit change that would have cost him at least as much money, plus she wanted him to pay for all dsd's transportation back and forth for visits... we've seen her 3 times in 8 months) No. I think he still feels more guilty than anything else. And she has been really really nasty to him. He says he forgives her, but to be perfectly honest, I DON'T. Last summer I just came to the realization that I have absolutely no control over what goes on with dsd. And ds really really misses her, and that tears at my heart.

I've tried to just let go of this, but obviously, it hasn't worked yet. I'd love to hear any suggestions....
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Zannalyn,

I guess the question for me in hard situations is, do you visualize/make room for peace with what is, or do you visualize a different situation? Or both?

Something to ponder.
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Zannalyn... I would start by making a list of everything about this that is bugging you and getting under your skin, and then really looking at what that says about your emotions around this. For example...

I'm angry that my husband didn't take care of this when he had the chance.
I'm frustrated that he is so busy feeling guilty that he's not clear on this.
I'm so angry that his ex doesn't acknowledge my role in my step daughter's life.
I'm sad that my son misses his sister so much.
I feel so disempowered that I can't control this situation.

Then when you get a handle on where you currently are on each of these things, spend some time working up the emotional scale on each aspect. So, 'I'm sad that my son misses his sister so much' leads to...

I wish I could give my son more time with his sister.
At least he has had time with her on the last three visits. They had a lot of fun together.
There are many ways to have contact.
He's now getting to the age where the telephone is a useful tool for him, so maybe we can let him call her more often.
Maybe they'd both enjoy playing with mail to each other - how tickled would he be to get regular postcards in the mail! And he does love to colour, so he could send her art work each week.
I can use this as an opportunity to teach him about sending love long distance, and the value of connection even when you're not physically with someone.

Basically, work from where you are and keep writing until you find thoughts that feel better!

I would also highly recommend doing a list of positive aspects for everyone involved here, especially your husband's ex. The harder it is to come up with the good stuff, the more beneficial it is for you to do it.

I hope that's helpful. to all of you as you work through this.
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I'm just finding it so amazing how we are all getting at some pretty deep stuff and are now realizing that we need to work it through, or should I say . . . *Look at it. Love it. Release it.* :

Zannalyn, your post struck me.

I know my issues over being angry at dh for not *helping* me more in the figuring out of Kate's issues need to be released. He did great by picking up the slack in other areas of course, but I'm still angry about it. I am releasing it though.

Then last week I realized just how much I still have issues w/my mother. I mean, I've worked all my life on resolving this, and NOW at this time, when I'm buzzzing, buzzing, buzzzing, it comes up again?

Interesting stuff indeed.

I think that for me all this is a final cleansing, if you will, before the goooooood stuff really starts to manifest.

Just want to say to all you wonderful mamas who are here on the journey w/me.

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I got that Holosync offer, too, last week, but didn't have the money right then so.... I guess the perfect time will happen. Or maybe he'll try another bribe?
I decided to manifest that extra stuff, so when I called to buy it, I explained that I hadn't had the money to respond to the bribe at the time, but now I'd manifested the $$, and I was calling within 48 hours of manifesting the $$, so could I still have the offer? And he said, oh yeah, sure, we'll always give you that! Sometimes you just have to ask, YK? Oh, and I'd been tying to get through for several minutes and I was getting a bit frustrated, then I thought, wait....the perfect person for me to talk to has just hung up from his or her previous customer...and I got through!


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Originally Posted by Zannalyn
Wow. I love this story, and especially the highlighted quote.
Well, just so you know...this TV appearance came a year after she'd sued him (with her lawyer, who was the kind who gives sharks a bad name) to reopen their divorce agreement, claim he'd cheated on it, and ask for penalties and interest on money supposedly owed over 10 years to six figures......the week ds was born and dh's company went under. We were saved (after a very tough year full of outrageous legal demands) by dh finding a tiny bit of paper from 1987 concerning some benefits that got changed (a paper he only had because he was the company director and had kept all the financial files), which totally disproved her case and led to it being instantly dropped like a hot potato.

During all that time, although he privately wished her to disappear to an alternate universe, he was unfailingly decent and polite to her in front of dss (who to this day doesn't know about it).

I know how hard this can be - at its worst I wanted to go round and break her windows, to be honest, for what she was putting him through. I mean, I wouldn't ever have done so, but...you know.

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Originally Posted by KoalaMama View Post
Zannalyn... I would start by making a list of everything about this that is bugging you and getting under your skin, and then really looking at what that says about your emotions around this. For example...

I'm angry that my husband didn't take care of this when he had the chance.
I'm frustrated that he is so busy feeling guilty that he's not clear on this.
I'm so angry that his ex doesn't acknowledge my role in my step daughter's life.
I'm sad that my son misses his sister so much.
I feel so disempowered that I can't control this situation.

Then when you get a handle on where you currently are on each of these things, spend some time working up the emotional scale on each aspect. So, 'I'm sad that my son misses his sister so much' leads to...

I wish I could give my son more time with his sister.
At least he has had time with her on the last three visits. They had a lot of fun together.
There are many ways to have contact.
He's now getting to the age where the telephone is a useful tool for him, so maybe we can let him call her more often.
Maybe they'd both enjoy playing with mail to each other - how tickled would he be to get regular postcards in the mail! And he does love to colour, so he could send her art work each week.
I can use this as an opportunity to teach him about sending love long distance, and the value of connection even when you're not physically with someone.

Basically, work from where you are and keep writing until you find thoughts that feel better!

I would also highly recommend doing a list of positive aspects for everyone involved here, especially your husband's ex. The harder it is to come up with the good stuff, the more beneficial it is for you to do it.

I hope that's helpful. to all of you as you work through this.
This woman is HOT!!! These are great suggestions!

I think maybe you should let some clients find theri way to you, KM!

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Originally Posted by Annikate View Post
I'm just finding it so amazing how we are all getting at some pretty deep stuff and are now realizing that we need to work it through, or should I say . . . *Look at it. Love it. Release it.* :

Zannalyn, your post struck me.

I know my issues over being angry at dh for not *helping* me more in the figuring out of Kate's issues need to be released. He did great by picking up the slack in other areas of course, but I'm still angry about it. I am releasing it though.

Then last week I realized just how much I still have issues w/my mother. I mean, I've worked all my life on resolving this, and NOW at this time, when I'm buzzzing, buzzing, buzzzing, it comes up again?

Interesting stuff indeed.

I think that for me all this is a final cleansing, if you will, before the goooooood stuff really starts to manifest.
As my ds would say, Eggs. ACT. Lee.
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Just want to say to all you wonderful mamas who are here on the journey w/me.

Me too! I think this is the most amazing community I've ever been a part of!

Ain't the internet wonderful?? Who could have imagined this 20 years ago?
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