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post #21 of 243
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Originally Posted by mataji4 View Post
I'm sorry, but aren't you not even due yet??? And this is your first baby, right??? Just to put a word in that being anxious and your midwife being anxious feels a little premature. Most likely, everything is fine.
Neither of us are anxious as in afraid, but anxious as in excited and can't wait.

Kristi
post #22 of 243
Oh 9 hours of sleep uninterrupted!!! i miss that! Definitely soak in that ability and maybe even try for 12 or more hours, maybe you can stockpile hours of sleep for later in life.. I wish

enjoy these last few weeks (or month if you are a 10 month mama)!
post #23 of 243
So here's another uneventful update...

The baby is reeeally low now... I think in the perfect position to get out of me! I'm not effaced or dillated or anything, but I have been having some mini-contrax of the BH variety. They're getting more frequent now.

Also... this will sound weird but, does the baby push him/herself out using their feet? I keep feeling the baby pushing his/her feet super hard into my belly and then I feel the cervix stretching out as the head goes further down. Am I nuts?

Kristi
post #24 of 243
*laughs* I am getting a vision of baby going "O.k., on three, 1, 2, 3...kick out."

I think dd2 tried to corkscrew her way out. I swear if felt like the was turning, like you would turn a screw.

My midwife said that labor can start when baby "hits" the cervix which can release oxytocin(?..very long convo, I hope I have that right) which gets labor going.

So, yeah, it sounds plausible for the baby to be kicking to get its head down to start labor. that or baby is trying out kick boxing. :
post #25 of 243
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Originally Posted by brendon View Post
*laughs* I am getting a vision of baby going "O.k., on three, 1, 2, 3...kick out."

I think dd2 tried to corkscrew her way out. I swear if felt like the was turning, like you would turn a screw.

My midwife said that labor can start when baby "hits" the cervix which can release oxytocin(?..very long convo, I hope I have that right) which gets labor going.

So, yeah, it sounds plausible for the baby to be kicking to get its head down to start labor. that or baby is trying out kick boxing. :
Thanks. I'm hoping the cervix gets hit pretty darn soon...

Kristi
post #26 of 243
Thread Starter 
My 2nd baby kicked his way out. He was born with his fist up by his face, and the midwife worked his hand out so I wouldn't tear. With his head stuck at crowning for that long wasn't the painful part... it was his huge kicks in my ribs trying to push himself out the rest of the way that hurt.

Sounds like you're making progress!
post #27 of 243
So, I'm 40W6D today. I'm sick of not knowing what's going on. I don't know what these sensations I'm feeling are. Maybe contrax, maybe nothing at all. It's frustrating!

My midwife is trying to talk my into getting my membranes stripped net week. I don't know how I feel about that. She's also preparing me to lie to the Drs. if and when I hit 42 weeks and I "have" to go in for a stress test and/or induction. I'll fake my own death and vanish into the mountains before I do in for any of those idiodic tests. Blah.

My midwife is also trying to prepare me for the chance that I might not be able to get the baby out how I want to. She's afraid that in a pool she won't be able to get her hands in there... She thinks she's going to have the chance. She's also predicting that since I'm not singing with delight everytime she tries to shove her hands up into my cervix that I might not be able psychologically to open my legs and let the baby come out, which will injure him/her. Of course this all had to be said while DH is in the room (the 2nd time he's gone to one of my appts.) and now he's panicking again. She thinks she'll have to get me out of the tub and onto the bed and they'll all have to force my legs open to let the baby out dso I don't kill him/her. Great. Thanks for the image.

I think if anything, all my discomfort stems from foreign objects and people entering in my body when they don't belong there. I can't imagine any reason that I won't be able to let my body work and produce a baby when the time is right if I don't have people hovering around, freaking me out and putting things in my vagina. Blah. Very frustrating.

Next time I WILL NOT go to a midwife regularly. If anything I'll go in, get the test I want done and then vanish. The whole reason I wanted a midwife as opposed to a Dr. was so that I could avoid pressure, guilt and fear. I should have listened to my instincts at the begining and just continued my UP. Thank G-d I did it myself for the first 7 months or who knows what I wouldn've been talked into. I've already had a u/s, internal cervical checking- neither of which I wanted. Grrr...

Well, I'm trying to be positive and just hoping this baby comes before my appt. is scheduled next week. If not, I might just "forget to go" so I don't have to be pressured about the membrane stripping. I'm just not sure anymore. A part of me feel like I've been pushed further than I wanted to go anyways, so I might as well let her do it, but another part of me is standing by my long-time belief that babies will come when they're ready. I don't know...

Kristi
post #28 of 243
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Originally Posted by ~~Mama2B~~ View Post
My midwife is also trying to prepare me for the chance that I might not be able to get the baby out how I want to. She's afraid that in a pool she won't be able to get her hands in there... She thinks she's going to have the chance. She's also predicting that since I'm not singing with delight everytime she tries to shove her hands up into my cervix that I might not be able psychologically to open my legs and let the baby come out, which will injure him/her. Of course this all had to be said while DH is in the room (the 2nd time he's gone to one of my appts.) and now he's panicking again. She thinks she'll have to get me out of the tub and onto the bed and they'll all have to force my legs open to let the baby out dso I don't kill him/her. Great. Thanks for the image.
Seriously, tell her to keep it to herself! That is such BS and in the could cause issues on her end in regards to "managing" the birth.

you are right. babies come when THEY want to and getting fresh with your cervix isn't going to tell you when.
post #29 of 243
Mama~ sounds like a lot of unnessecary stress and worry she's shoving on you, not to mention some scare tactics to get you to be a good little patient. "Forgetting" to go to your next appointment might not be a bad idea, especially since you do not plan to have her present during the birth.

I hope you are holding your sweet babe in your arms soon!
post #30 of 243
O WOW!! That midwife really needs to back off! She is totally out of line. I have no doubt in my mind that you will birth your baby just beautifully!! Your body has been honed over thousands of years to do this..
post #31 of 243
Thanks a lot for all the encouragement. The greatest thing would be for the baby to come this week!

Kristi
post #32 of 243
You can do it! Go Kristi go! And tell your midwife to check her own cervix if she's so darn fixated...
post #33 of 243
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Originally Posted by ~~Mama2B~~ View Post
So, I'm 40W6D today. I'm sick of not knowing what's going on. I don't know what these sensations I'm feeling are. Maybe contrax, maybe nothing at all. It's frustrating!

My midwife is trying to talk my into getting my membranes stripped net week. I don't know how I feel about that. She's also preparing me to lie to the Drs. if and when I hit 42 weeks and I "have" to go in for a stress test and/or induction. I'll fake my own death and vanish into the mountains before I do in for any of those idiodic tests. Blah.

My midwife is also trying to prepare me for the chance that I might not be able to get the baby out how I want to. She's afraid that in a pool she won't be able to get her hands in there... She thinks she's going to have the chance. She's also predicting that since I'm not singing with delight everytime she tries to shove her hands up into my cervix that I might not be able psychologically to open my legs and let the baby come out, which will injure him/her. Of course this all had to be said while DH is in the room (the 2nd time he's gone to one of my appts.) and now he's panicking again. She thinks she'll have to get me out of the tub and onto the bed and they'll all have to force my legs open to let the baby out dso I don't kill him/her. Great. Thanks for the image.

I think if anything, all my discomfort stems from foreign objects and people entering in my body when they don't belong there. I can't imagine any reason that I won't be able to let my body work and produce a baby when the time is right if I don't have people hovering around, freaking me out and putting things in my vagina. Blah. Very frustrating.

Next time I WILL NOT go to a midwife regularly. If anything I'll go in, get the test I want done and then vanish. The whole reason I wanted a midwife as opposed to a Dr. was so that I could avoid pressure, guilt and fear. I should have listened to my instincts at the begining and just continued my UP. Thank G-d I did it myself for the first 7 months or who knows what I wouldn've been talked into. I've already had a u/s, internal cervical checking- neither of which I wanted. Grrr...

Well, I'm trying to be positive and just hoping this baby comes before my appt. is scheduled next week. If not, I might just "forget to go" so I don't have to be pressured about the membrane stripping. I'm just not sure anymore. A part of me feel like I've been pushed further than I wanted to go anyways, so I might as well let her do it, but another part of me is standing by my long-time belief that babies will come when they're ready. I don't know...

Kristi

This reminds me of a rape scenario where a woman gets put down for not trying to stop it while in mid act or supposedly allowing it to continue again... because: "A part of me feel like I've been pushed further than I wanted to go anyways, so I might as well let her do it," That is still rape and a woman still has the right to say no and attempt to stop what is going on regardless of what stage the event is in or wether it is being repeated, and shouldn't blame herself either way. It is what it is. There's this thing called consent that is always required! If a person isn't willfully saying "yes" something is wrong.
But that's just my opinion.
post #34 of 243
I think I've decided to forgo the membrane stripping. I know a lot of women stand by it, but I've always advocated waiting it out and letting the baby come when it's ready. I've pushed the limits with this by trying to use sex and activity to coax him/her out, but I just can't feel good about messing around in my uterus.

Today is 41W3D with still no sign of labor. I'm trying to be patient and positive!

Kristi
post #35 of 243
You can do it! My first was at the minimum a week over. I had three different due dates and went anywhere from a week to two over...depending on what one you used.
post #36 of 243
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Originally Posted by ~~Mama2B~~ View Post

Today is 41W3D with still no sign of labor. I'm trying to be patient and positive!

Kristi
I'm in the same boat!! I'm thinking it's been a good thing (me going over) so far because I feel like I've made some HUGE strides in working out my fears these past few days. I just hope I don't have the baby this Friday..... it's the 13th!!
post #37 of 243
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I'm in the same boat!! I'm thinking it's been a good thing (me going over) so far because I feel like I've made some HUGE strides in working out my fears these past few days. I just hope I don't have the baby this Friday..... it's the 13th!!
I'm betting big money this Friday will be it, just because I don't really want that. Lol!

I'm now 41W4D. It's been a blessing in disguise because DH and I were able to get through Passover/Unleavened Breads without having the baby. He had a couple of days off and we got to spend some quality time together (which is a miracle since he works and ges to school full time and we NEVER see each other). Plus, another Messianic friend was lamenting about how she was born during unleavened breads and thereofr never gets a decent birthday cake. I hadn't thought about that, but I suppose that's a good point too!

Also, our icky roommate moved out, which has put some financial stress on us, but has taken a ton of emotional stress off of us and I welcome that wholeheartedly. DH and I finally feel like we can be at peace in our home and view it as a spiritual refuge instead of a tense prison.

I forgot to go to my midwife appt today... Seriously, I did. It's the first one I've missed. I think my subconscious chose to block it out because I didn't want to deal with them trying to pressure me into stripping my membranes. I've been wrestling with it all week. I didn't (and still don't) want to do it, but the impatience and pressure were tempting me seriously! I'm happy with my decision.

I've been having more consistent cramp-feeling contrax (I hope!). They're just right down in the pubic area still, but I feel lots of them everyday, so I'm hoping the time is approaching. Also, the little one keeps scooting further down. I don't know if I'm dilated at all, but I've been feeling things stretching out down there for a couple of days now, so I hope that means dilation is in the near future.

Thanks for the support. This thread has actually really helped me sort out my feelings and maintain some sense of perspective!

Kristi
post #38 of 243
Kristi,

Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking about you and wishing you a wonderful birth.

I supposedly went to 42w3d but when Noah was born his placenta looked really healthy (no calcification or anything) and so I'm guessing I wasn't as far overdue as my dates showed.

It is hard to not try to bring labor on but I think you'll be happy with your decision to wait it out.

I already miss being pregnant b/c I know I'll never have that feeling again...: but I am glad Noah is here because it was getting quite uncomfortable.

Hang in there.
post #39 of 243
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Originally Posted by DayDreamer View Post
Kristi,

Just wanted to let you know I'm thinking about you and wishing you a wonderful birth.

I supposedly went to 42w3d but when Noah was born his placenta looked really healthy (no calcification or anything) and so I'm guessing I wasn't as far overdue as my dates showed.

It is hard to not try to bring labor on but I think you'll be happy with your decision to wait it out.

I already miss being pregnant b/c I know I'll never have that feeling again...: but I am glad Noah is here because it was getting quite uncomfortable.

Hang in there.
Congrats on your birth! I'm so glad you had your healthy baby! I'm sure I'll miss being pregnant once it's over. I feel like I've been pregnant forever. I hardly remember what it's like to have AF and to not have to think about the little person inside of me.

I'm really looking forward to being confortable, since I rarely am at this point, and to fitting in my old clothes, sleeping on my stomach, drinking and holding our baby.

I'm glad to hear that other people have waited it out and been rewarded with healthy babies and births.

Thanks.

Kristi
post #40 of 243
Is it normal to want to go into hiding because I'm tired of people saying, "Still pregnant!" and asking when "they" are going to induce me???

K
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