So after 1 stillbirth (at almost 41 wks), 2 m/c (9 wks, 11 wks), and another m/c-stillbirth (birth at 16 wks gestation) 4 days ago.... what the hell is wrong with me?
Could this be something about my body not being able to carry babies full-term? I don't want to hear "it could just be bad luck" anymore. Yes, it could. Yes, it is. When will the bad luck stop? Will it ever stop?
We're ready to give up on pregnancy, so I don't know if there'd be any point in seeing another fertility specialist. Before we conceived our last baby, we saw 2 specialists, did a bunch of tests, all checked out fine. I'm afraid if we go back they'll just try to put me on clomid or something, then go down the list with IUI, in vitro etc.
Medically, no problem has been found. And I'm tired of trying and failing over and over.
Our daughter (most recent baby) had quad. screening result of 1 in 10 chance of trisomy 18. T18 is usually fatal and would explain her death during pregnancy. And yes, bad luck. The next pregnancy could be completely different. Or not.
What would you advise? For now, we'll probably pursue adoption or surrogacy or something along those lines. But it makes me so sad to think that medically/physically there may still be a chance of having a baby. But I can't go on like this, I am completely deflated this time.
Oh, I've read in various places (Body& Soul mag, Natural Health mag, Oprah mag, a stillbirth website) that some plastics contain chemicals that can damage the reproductive system. I've been drinking from reused plastic bottles (hospital bottles and recycled bought plastic bottles) for years. I run them thru the dishwasher, then use them again. I guess that might be problematic. But most of my girlfriends are doing the same thing!! And they don't have the reproductive probs I have!
Any words of wisdom? Advice?
Thanks, Nammymom
Could this be something about my body not being able to carry babies full-term? I don't want to hear "it could just be bad luck" anymore. Yes, it could. Yes, it is. When will the bad luck stop? Will it ever stop?
We're ready to give up on pregnancy, so I don't know if there'd be any point in seeing another fertility specialist. Before we conceived our last baby, we saw 2 specialists, did a bunch of tests, all checked out fine. I'm afraid if we go back they'll just try to put me on clomid or something, then go down the list with IUI, in vitro etc.
Medically, no problem has been found. And I'm tired of trying and failing over and over.
Our daughter (most recent baby) had quad. screening result of 1 in 10 chance of trisomy 18. T18 is usually fatal and would explain her death during pregnancy. And yes, bad luck. The next pregnancy could be completely different. Or not.
What would you advise? For now, we'll probably pursue adoption or surrogacy or something along those lines. But it makes me so sad to think that medically/physically there may still be a chance of having a baby. But I can't go on like this, I am completely deflated this time.
Oh, I've read in various places (Body& Soul mag, Natural Health mag, Oprah mag, a stillbirth website) that some plastics contain chemicals that can damage the reproductive system. I've been drinking from reused plastic bottles (hospital bottles and recycled bought plastic bottles) for years. I run them thru the dishwasher, then use them again. I guess that might be problematic. But most of my girlfriends are doing the same thing!! And they don't have the reproductive probs I have!
Any words of wisdom? Advice?
Thanks, Nammymom
How traumatic to experience so many losses! I am surprised that no doctor will take you seriously and address your concerns about the pregnancy instead of focusing all their attention on getting pregnant. Actually, the more I encounter in our own journey and the more I read from others, I shouldn't actually be surprised that no one listens to us. 
