Wow, all this describes my ideal parenting philosophy; the one I would follow if only I weren't so darn impatient!
I said yes to the food thing - we don't have scheduled eating times, she nurses when she wants to, and if she doesn't want what is put before her I will get her something else. She also gets to eat anything I am eating that she asks for.
The sleep thing, I did not check. She usually goes to bed at the same time each night because dh and I want our "adult time."
We don't spank but we do send her to her room when she screams at us or when she hits or scratches.
She doesn't talk yet (is about 18 mos) so no need for politeness. We just ask that she not scream.
We only make her brush her teeth when she has candy or soda. (That food thing again - whatever she wants!) Normally she likes it.
If she doesn't want to go to the park we just take her home, but we do have people baby-sit and she doesn't always want to be away from us.
I try to leave her at home when shopping. She gets bored so easily.
If I do have to take her to the store, I always buy her a box of cookies. I mean, she didn't ask to come along, so I should do something nice for her. I don't believe in saying no unless there is a good reason. Since I buy everything dh and I want when we're at the store, why not a treat for dd as well?
She hasn't been afraid of the doctor yet. She doesn't like shots but we just make the best of it - we use EMLA and then give her some ice cream.
But, thanks for the poll! It has inspired me to do better.