Originally Posted by jillmamma
Depends on the dog and kid.
We adopted jojo (lab/collie) when ds was 18months. jojo was a year and we figured it would be an easy transition.
She (jojo) is a nervous wreck. She needs a doggie shrink. We don't have the $$
. Seriously, people come over (or walking in the street, if she can see them from the window, driving in the car) and she barks like she's going to kill them. We can't leave her with ppl ~ after barking she runs upstairs and hides. Then, when she's really scared she pees and her legs shake.
My son sleeps through the night, but the dog (who MUST be in our bed) will start scratching her collar and wake me up, or the clicky-click of her nails on our hardwood wakes me up.
My son can be left alone to watch TV or play with his toys...my dog must be attached to my freakin hip (shes under the computer desk right now).
If we want to get away for the weekend we can go to a hotel with ds, not our dog ~ and we can't leave her with ppl because of her fears... (example ~ dh is going to a confrence next month for a weekend, my first thought was "great I'll take ds and go visit my mom" ~ but I can't b/c who's going to look after jojo?
Im not a dog person, dh is so this has been a huge challenge for us. I think it would have been better if we had gotten her before ds came along, it would have made the transistion to parenthood easier, IMO.
As for ppl saying that being a dog owner is similar to parenting... I think the comparison is about the "loss of freedom" that comes with both. Obviously ppl who have pets do not have the SAME responsibilities as parents, but the 'lifestyle change' is similar.
-loss of mobility
-having to put someone/somethings needs ahead of your own
-learning to have patience
So, every situation is different ~ our dog is nuts and Im sure not the ruler with which to measure most in this situation, but she is a lot more work than ds...seriously.