Who else DOESN'T have a baby?? - Page 2

[Bennifer]

I"m 40 wks 3 days today and no baby coming!! I'll have super mild contractions and then nothing the next day...come on, baby!! Today I am getting checked at the OB for the first time; he says he's only comfortable with me going to 41 wks--whatever. Ds was born at 41 wks exactly so I figure that's how long I go about...although I think if I go over 41 wks (Friday) I'll be miserable!!!

[deuxceleste]

Originally Posted by PinksMommy

I'm feeling kind of out in the cold here. I'm big, fat, whiny, 42 weeks, every day people keep predicting that it will be the day and it still isn't.
My DH has been sleeping all day because "he doesn't feel good" : How the hell does he think I feel????
I tell you, I feel sad. And fed up. I feel like a failure. I just want my baby out.

Let me just tell you how F*@&$(@ing tired I am of hearing him complain about his allergies. I HAVE BEEN PREGNANT FOR THE BETTER PART OF A YEAR.

I am not a happy pregnant person. In fact, I'm a miserable person at being pregnant.

So leave me the hell alone about your stupid itchy eyes. And for Goddess' sake, switch out the laundry.

[lunabelly]

Originally Posted by sparkprincess

Oh DayDreamer, Nani, I'm right there with you!! The swelling started to get really bad yesterday. I'm miserable and in pain!!! I hate swelling so much.

Any chance you can get in a swimming pool? I got in the pool today, and it felt SO SO good! I felt so light I was jumping up and down in there, AND it helps with the swelling.

[sparkprincess]

Originally Posted by lunabelly

Any chance you can get in a swimming pool? I got in the pool today, and it felt SO SO good! I felt so light I was jumping up and down in there, AND it helps with the swelling.

I wish!! That sounds wonderful! I did soak in a cool bath and that felt good - just doesn't do anything for the swelling itself. I keep telling myself that it HAS to be soon. This is how I felt right before giving birth to my ds.

I can hope, right??

[~~Mama2B~~]

I'm 39w 4d and going nuts! I'm trying to enjoy being childless while it lasts, but I've been trying to have a baby for so long I can't hardly bear it. I want this baby outta me now!

My midwife if predicting a 41+w birth... I think I may go insane.

Kristi

[DayDreamer]

I finally got something positive out of my mother. (She is very against me UCing and UPing, the whole deal.) She told me tonight that my sister was born almost a month past her due date. So that was nice hearing that from her, any little support she gives I'll take!

[Bennifer]

well i will have my baby by friday...i am being induced then. apparently forty one weeks is the limit for a vbac b/c of fear of the baby getting too big. i love my ob and totally trust him and my doula agrees, so that is the plan. not thrilled about it, but heck at least there is an end in sight, right? hoping she decides tonight, tomorrow or thursday is the right day to be born, on her own. i've really got nothing go on though, contraction wise, and was only one cm and thick as of last evening. uck.

[amj'smommy]

Originally Posted by Bennifer

well i will have my baby by friday...i am being induced then. apparently forty one weeks is the limit for a vbac b/c of fear of the baby getting too big. i love my ob and totally trust him and my doula agrees, so that is the plan. not thrilled about it, but heck at least there is an end in sight, right? hoping she decides tonight, tomorrow or thursday is the right day to be born, on her own. i've really got nothing go on though, contraction wise, and was only one cm and thick as of last evening. uck.

It'll all be fine mama I'm 40 weeks as of today.... nothing much going on, I do have an OB appt this Friday so we'll see. I've been having sporadic contrations and pressure (at night) but I generally wake up feeling fine. Dh is hoping for an April Fools day baby Silly man... why doesn't he try carrying the next one

[yaboobarb]

On Induction

The thing that stops me from induction during these hard last days is this quote

“If a fruit is ripe, you can just touch it and it will fall off in your hand.

When a fruit is not ripe, you can pull and pull, and you won’t get it to come
off of the vine...unless you pull really hard,
then you will rip it off ... and some of the branch too!”

-Mary Walker

I think of birth like an opening of a flower- to get the best results we woud just wait and the thing would unfold! A majority of the bad birth story's I read on MDC usually starts with, " We induced because ( blah , blah,) and that did not wrk so we tried ( blah blah) then we used pitocin and I was screaming for and epidural. After that the baby is "in distress" which leads to c-section or very, very hard vaginal birth.

I have had two beautiful home births- all started naturally.

I want to say that it is so, so tempting to induce at this point.
( miwife suggested castor oil, and my husband does acupuncture.) BUT my NO insde is bigger than my yes.

My NO inside says do not peel open the flower. My body knows. The baby knows and my body will ripen in just the right way in order for this baby to drop out.

I am miserable, but this birth is my responsibility 100%. Just as it is my caregivers responsibility too on their end. I make a promise to my baby at each "end of term" time where we are waiting for him/ her to be born...

"I cannot promise you what birth will be like, but I will be with you. It will not be for anything within my will that seperates us, during or after the birth.. I will be with you and together we will do this whole labor and you will be born."

Just offering a perspective... Please don't think I am flaming because with my late baby ( I never held a baby this long) I think of induction 10 times a day! ( Gone up from 5 times a day)


With much respect for mommas difficult choices....
Barbara

[Mummytwice]

OK, I am still here and very pregnant.

My due date was only yesterday, but things were looking so promising earlier this week that I figured for sure I would be un-pregnant by now.

I was contracting very regularly, mucus and bloody show, cx all through the night, and into the day, and now nothing. This baby has decided to bake a little longer.

*sigh*

Patience, patience, patience

this is my motto.

[Bennifer]

I'm having enough turmoil over the induction; that post did not help. I thought we were here to support each other. This is something I don't have a choice in and if you read my post you could see that it's not something I'm "tempted" to do; rather something I'm not happy about. So thanks for the reminder this could end in another c/s (note my sarcasm). I'm educated and wish I could just let my body wait it out, but I can't. This is what I've been given, and I'm trying to make the best of it. I'm putting my trust in God and know He will take care of me and my baby. I wasn't asking for a lecture about how induction is horrible, and I think when someone HAS to be induced it's inconsiderate to say such things.
amjs mommy, thank you for the hugs--they are much appreciated!!!

[ccohenou]

Jen ...I'm sorry you're facing this. I feel badly for you, because it sounds like you are being pressured into doing something you really don't feel good about. And to be honest, I wouldn't feel good about it either. I want to encourage you that this is still your baby and your birth and your decision...speaking as someone who has just had a difficult time with my doctor because I am not willing to schedule a cesarean for Friday, despite her strong recommendation that I do so, I know it's not easy to deal with the pressure. Will be thinking of you and hoping all goes perfectly for you.

40 weeks and 2 days for me today, really thought I would be done by now. Still planning cautiously for the HBA2C, with some backup care woes...though the midwives aren't concerned at all, say the baby is smallish and doing fine, and they'll wait it out with me to 43 wks...Having contractions since last night, but nothing really regular or serious yet. Appt with the OB threw me for a loop, as I had found her easy to talk with when we met once before (my reg. doctor is out of town) but this time it was like being run down by a train, she was talking circles around me in a superfast manner as I tried to tell her (repeatedly and in many ways) that I understood her concerns but that I wasn't going to schedule a cesarean today, but I still don't know if she really understood my refusal or was just trying to talk around it. Actually I don't understand her concern - she was telling me it was about the baby getting too big. I can't imagine a baby that has gotten too big for a cesarean. Pretty sure it's more logistics than actual fear. I wouldn't show up even if they did schedule it, but I'd rather not have her scrubbed up and waiting for me in the operating room and I'm just not there.

[DayDreamer]

Bennifer,

I hope all goes well with you. Just out of curiosity what would your doc do if you refused to be induced? It is your choice to be induced or not, but you know your situation better than anyone and if you feel an induction is necessary than I support you 100% to do what you need to do. I can't knock an induction because I've never been there and had to make that decision.

Good luck and here's to a successful VBAC.

[yaboobarb]

Thanks Day dreamer for this...

Just out of curiosity what would your doc do if you refused to be induced?

Bennifer- You did say in your post, "I am not thrilled about it." and you say now that "I'm educated and wish I could just let my body wait it out, but I can't."

We do have a right as a "patient" to refuse any reccomended treatments or procedures. We can also ask for second and third opinions before taking or refusing a reccomended treatment.

Also-I feel that if a women's intuition is not saying "Hell Yes!" then that means her intuition is saying "No."

Maybe if you have doubts- ( which is what I got from your post) their are choices. You can ask around on Mothering how other VBAC moms ( who have attained a natural birth) have handled this. Then if you still decide that inducing is the best thing, you will feel better about the decision by friday.

Barbara

[Nani]

Same here, a toast to a hopefully successful VBAC or HBAC!!!