ITA with this too! Now not to put words in MCALs mouth (or at her fingertips, as it were...) but I took the comments to mean that we don't need to beat ourselves up with fear over momentary lapses into this type of thing, not that we should be ok sitting in that space. If that makes sense. I suspect you're both on the exact same page with this, really! Nice to hear it in different words though. (And either of you feel free to jump in and tell me I'm wrong about my understanding of what you mean. Though I am kind of happy with my interpretation. )
We all have moments when we get into that kind of space.
I think Crunchy and I are saying very similar things in different ways! And I really like how you drove home the point about being secure with ourselves. Because, when we are *on top of our game* those other emotions just creep in and slip out. When we aren't, they tend to linger and form habits and create/attract things we *don't* want.
The best thing I've ever contributed to a relationship was me liking and being comfortable with myself.