Hope you're hanging in there....
I was totally sling-inept for months, even though I had done all sorts of research ahead of time.
: I used the New Native pouch for a while, when ds was really little and liked being all squinched up in there. DH was the one who got the hang of the Maya Wrap much more quickly than I did.
In hindsight, I would have bagged the pouch and gone straight to the Maya Wrap. For several reasons: one, because the MW is more versatile for babies through toddlers IMO; two, because it's adjustable; three, because both partners can wear it and not worry about size; and four, because with the tail you can cover up while breastfeeding (if you feel like it), and put stuff in the pocket. There's definitely a learning curve but it just takes practice.
Try snugging Spawn Boy upright high up on your chest in the Maya Wrap; Evan really liked that hold. You might also get a little pillow (New Native sells one that's good) for propping SB up a little if you find he's swimming down in the pouch if you put him in horizontally.
I've gotten to be somewhat of a sling collector but the Maya Wrap is the one I would never give up. My second choice after that would be a Kangaroo Korner fleece pouch, which I got only a couple of months ago so didn't have in the newborn period, but it's very soft and comfy for both mom and baby. Also with the snaps you can adjust for size between two adults.www.kangarookorner.com
both have good comparison pages on various types of slings.