Originally Posted by NoHiddenFees
What an amazingly condescending response. Cinder gave no indication her children are parked in front of a TV during their entire waking hours. Now, I'm admittedly very picky about what gets shown on TV, but I see little harm in limited amounts.
As for the computer, we're just as picky about what gets loaded. DD1 learned to play chess using the computer and now does online chess. She also has a few fun games that require thought and some puzzle type games when she needs a challenge. She prefers Math Blaster for cementing math facts, and it's done the trick for her. DD2 started a little earlier than DD1 (who wasn't allowed TV or computer time until 3), and she loves an interactive book called Pickle's Book. It's not linear and is essentially a big world to explore. She gets very excited and talks nonstop while playing (there's no dialog). Again, I don't see a problem in limited amounts.
I did not mean to be condescending. What I meant was, since you are obviously not just plopping them down in front of the TV to play games so you can get other stuff done, but rather playing the games with them, then why are they playing games at all? Wouldn't it be better to play real life?
That is what I meant to ask and I meant it as a genuine question.
I have never shown TV or games to my dc and I really don't see why people do. In most cases, there is no benefit that you can't get elsewhere in much more dynamic environments.
The game or TV is pre-programmed, not like real life where all is unpredictable. Whatever it is that you want your child to learn, it can be done better in real life at the ages of 3, 4, 5, etc.
I do think that after 12 or so that it is OK to introduce some types of media (and maybe earlier in some cases, like someone mentioned chess, if you lived out in the middle of nowhere and your 8 yr old wanted to learn chess and NO ONE nearby knew how, well then I could see doing games online.) But at 4?! Unless you have a child genius, why would they be playing chess?
I have to say that I am continually shocked by people's nonchalance toward TV and games for young children on MDC. I've been a reader of Mothering for about 6 years but new to MDC and I thought that there would be much more awareness about this issue.
I suppose that 15 minutes a day of games is much better than the typical American household but what I don't get is WHY? I mean for a 4 yr old and a 3 yr old there a ton of things they can do besides that. I thought your kids were like 8 or 9 the way you described what they play. Why introduce something that is questionable and will probably only be demanded more as they get older? How many minutes a day will they watch when they ARE 8 and 9? If your child already has sensory issues why introduce something that is not beneficial? Honestly, it just doesn't make sense to me. Which is fine.
And I always find it odd when people brag about how "imaginative" their 4 yr old is. How do you measure these things at this age? All 4 yr olds are creative and imaginative. And how much TV do your dd's competitors watch?
And you should know that the affects of media are not so apparent at this age, it is when they get older that you see more and more the affects. At 3 and 4 their minds are like sponges, everything they see and experience comes in unfiltered. They do not have the intellect to differentiate between what is real and what is not.
If you think video games are fun and want to allow your children to use them that's fine but don't fool yourself into thinking that no harm will come from it.