mamas exploring bisexuality while in relationship(s) - Page 6

[Konur's Mom]

Sorry about BiMamas.net being down, you can go to our emergency forum at http://www.redthorian.org/ and let me know your name there so I can let you in to the private bimamas forum.

[11yrsNoKid]

What was that?

I went to that site and didn't see anything.

So who here is willing to act on there feelings. I am!!! I am ready to meet someone with my same interests and feelings. It doesn't have to be sexual at first... I am really looking for a female, to get some of this built up gossip about myself out. I want to be able to walk together and say, damn look at that... mmmm she is fine. LOL I would love to be open and honest with a friend. My dh knows about my feelings, but it isn't the same. I want to be able to express them.

[Konur's Mom]

The only way to see anything is to be let in to the private forum there. The main site (Bimamas.net) is back up now. We just use that for emergencies.


I am constantly amazed at how many husbands are not okay with their wive's being bi or are okay as long as they get to be there. Its not a spectator sport!

[dawnadelle]

Originally Posted by 11yrsNoKid

I met my Dh when I was 16. This didn't give me much time to explor my sexuality before I met him. On the day before we got married, I had my first experiance with a woman. We had a three year relationship, and we eventually shared it with my husband the night before she moved away. She moved to Cali and I when she came back, she stayed with us for a couple of days. She slept with me, while dh slept on the sofa... His choice. Since then, I have had other experiences, but only one other relationship. Her dh was overseas in Iraq. I talked to him on the phone and he was supportive... He looked at it like this... As long as she was with me and I kept her busy, she wouldn't find another man. Most men look at female realtionships as not cheating. My dh and I had seperated last year, for other reasons. Since we have been back together, I cant bring myself to ask him for his blessing to let me have a female (relationship) friend. I am however looking for one at the moment. If I find someone that is worthy, I will bring it to his attention. If he agrees to let me have this friendship, I will make sure not to let it interfear with my married life. I anyone feel the same?

I married at 19, but was with DH since I was 17. I am 34 now and also missed out on that opportunity to explore my sexuality and come to better grips with the fact that I identify as very bi/lesbian.

I disagree very much with this statement though: "Most men look at female realtionships as not cheating." --- Why is it that even when my DH gave me permission, and I did it, he accused me of cheating and that I was acting like some kind of whore? LOL - sorry, just sharing my experience. Besides, he says he's sorry, but whatever... I still miss out, right?

I feel that bisexuals who end up in a marriage shouldn't be condemned. I was never intending on letting my relationship with another woman interfere with my marriage, but the bitterness between DH and I never seemed to let up. Now I maintain "friendships" with women and all is fine (in that area anyway). I can be friends and be in love, but cannot have sex and be in love... I guess... according to him. I am still confused by it all.

[11yrsNoKid]

I hear you on that part... Mine gave me his blessing too, but when we seperated, he used me being with other women as an excuse to cheat. Then when we got back together, he asked me how many women I slept with while we were seperated. This was way back in 2001, so i don't want to dredge up old memories. We are doing great now, but I still have that longing for a close friend that can spend the night every once in a while. ya know!!

[heket]

double post

[heket]

Originally Posted by Konur's Mom

I am constantly amazed at how many husbands are not okay with their wive's being bi or are okay as long as they get to be there. Its not a spectator sport!

Yup! My dh falls into the latter. One of the first things he asked was, "Can I at least watch?"

[Indigo73]

Originally Posted by Konur's Mom

I am constantly amazed at how many husbands are not okay with their wive's being bi or are okay as long as they get to be there. Its not a spectator sport!

Sigh, I just have to say I am so very grateful to have met my husband. He just gets it. Maybe because he is bi as well, but just as likely because he's such a generous soul.

Not that I have anything against FMF threesomes.