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post #21 of 46
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Originally Posted by doudat View Post

Newborn + toddler in a cast. I can't wait :
Oh mama I had not even thought about that
post #22 of 46
Does the hospital have a patient advocate? Do they have one who works weekends?
post #23 of 46
Oh no! I'm so sorry.
post #24 of 46
Oh mama! X1000 And a few more to your little man!

And I don't know about the toddler in a cast thing. I know it's bad. . .but a loose toddler is scary too :


Seriously though, many many
post #25 of 46
Your poor DS! And poor you, too!

I would feel awful if I was in your situation too, so don't apologize for that! And to not have a private room when DS will be there so long?! That is just not right and I hope you can get into a better room.

Stay inside for now, Baby!
post #26 of 46
How awful for you all, I'm sorry! Did Liam break his femur?

Sending hugs for you and wishes for a speedy recovery for Liam.
post #27 of 46
Oh my!

PLEASE don't think you are pathetic! I really wish I was home in Mtl right now so I could go help you.....

Here's tons of love to little Liam and your family. He sounds like such a brave boy.
post #28 of 46
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Originally Posted by MaxiMom View Post
Did Liam break his femur?
Yep. Broke right through.

There is a patient advocate group, opened monday to friday. So we'll go and try to get somewhere monday.

Thanks everyone for your kind thoughts and prayers. I'm gonna go back to the hospital now and give a break to poor dh.
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post #30 of 46
There should be someone in the hospital who is the Patient Advocate. I would raise a stink and raise it good. Don't bother with the docs and nurses - go to admin. Ask to speak with the Program Manager, or equivalent. They are being unreasonable instead of compassionate.
post #31 of 46
Oh doudat, you must be feeling so awful!! (and I echo everyone else's comments, do NOT feel like you can't come here with your upset, we are a community who is here to rally around one another).

As far as the head nurses being unreasonable...everybody's got a boss. Keep going higher up and do not stop advocating until you get the respect you deserve. At the very least they could get you a comfortable chair!! By 39 weeks pregnant it's VERY obvious that you are expecting and they need to be taken to task for not showing compassion. Compassion is in the job description for crying out loud. (I'm angry for the way you are being treated. I really wish I could get up there to you and give them a piece of my mind.)

Meanwhile, lots of love to you and your ds. I hope he feels better soon. And you too.
post #32 of 46
I would suggest that being in a room that can't accomodate you is a safety hazard, and opens them up to liability...

Sorry this is such a tough time. Your poor little guy. I hope the daycare was reprimanded by you guys for being so irresponsibly dismissive.
post #33 of 46
oh that's so horrible! what unbelievable timing! I hope that somehow it won't turn out so bad and his stay will be shorter or something- what an awful way to end a pregnancy. You poor girl! Hang in there!
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post #34 of 46
O.k., first, what I am wondering is about the insurance that your daycare has. There should be some provisions that will help you with transportation. Those people should have called an ambulance. I am pissed. You just don't take chances with other people's kids, especially if you are supposed to be a professional child care organization. He had a frikkin' broken leg! My God!

Second, you have every right to make some serious demands at that hospital. Get angry. Let those hormones work in your favor. I can hardly walk across the room, much less deal with what you are doing. You need to be taken care of so that baby stays put until the very last minute, so your little boy can heal as much as possible. You don't need to be transporting back and forth because of some asshole nurses.

Sorry for the strong words, but hospitals try to act like they are gods. Don't forget. They are providing a service for you. You are the customer.
post #35 of 46
I feel so sorry for you. That is a horrible situation. You will have women around the world with you in spirit as you birth. Have you considered getting a doula? I know it's short notice, but...
post #36 of 46
Hi doudat, I hope things are going better for you this morning.

Someone in a pp mentioned the daycare's liability...I did not want to mention that since you have enough going on right now...but once you are up to it you need to have that addressed. I am not sure what happened, since I was not there, and your OP focused more on your son's condition...but at the very least an incident report should have been filled out and checked over by you and signed before you left with him. Now, I worked in daycare for 6 years and I can tell you with 100% certainty that sometimes, this stuff just happens and it's not anyone's fault, they are called accidents. HOWEVER, the manner in which the situation is handled is very important. Why was your son, who was obviously in pain, sitting in a infant car seat whimpering when you arrived??? Why was no one comforting him? How long was it between the accident and when they called you?
As I said I do not know exactly what happened, and I do not know the staff at that centre, but it does concern me that he was off in a chair crying on his own. You may want to re-evaluate that centre and whether or not it is somewhere you want to place your child.

Update us soon on your boy, I was thinking about him last night, I hope he is doing well.
post #37 of 46
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Originally Posted by lesley&grace View Post
Someone in a pp mentioned the daycare's liability...
Why was your son, who was obviously in pain, sitting in a infant car seat whimpering when you arrived??? Why was no one comforting him? How long was it between the accident and when they called you?
As I said I do not know exactly what happened, and I do not know the staff at that centre, but it does concern me that he was off in a chair crying on his own. You may want to re-evaluate that centre and whether or not it is somewhere you want to place your child.
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For the daycare, this is Quebec, so my son is in a gov't subsidized daycare, a CPE. They did call me right away to let me know of the situation and to ask me to get him assessed. This is normal procedure for the CPE. I didn't mean to say he was all alone in the car seat, his daycare worker was sitting with the other children (she has a group of 6) right by him. The daycare administrator came to see me as soon as I came in. I think he should've been better assessed from the get-go, but I think this was an error in judgement, and not done in bad faith.

As for Liam, he's doing great. I left him with dh while I came home to put my feet up. Last dose of morphine was at 6am, and he didn't complain that he was in pain, so he's been drug-free all afternoon.

They took some xrays, but we have no clue what the results are yet. I guess we'll know tomorrow.

I did file a complaint for the private room issue and lack of communication. Of course, now that I could get a private room, none are available. But I was told by an administrator that I would get one of some became free as long as I agreed to move out in case the room was needed for a patient in need of isolation, which I completely understand.

So now I'm gonna go take a shower and rest till supper time.

Thanks you all!!! I love this DDC!!!
post #38 of 46
Thanks for the update, Myriam. I wish I was closer to help you out. Take good care of yourself!
post #39 of 46
Thread Starter 
Just a quick update...

Liam is doing well. He has been morphine free for a while now, and isn't complaining about pain, which is a good thing. Laying down on his back all day is not fun as he's getting severe diaper rash from staying in one position and being in a diaper all day. Unfortunately, diaper changes are a drag since we have to move his leg to change him and that hurts him quite a bit. He now fights diaper changes tooth and nail, which breaks my heart

We have taken some xrays monday but have yet to see the doctor since then, not through lack of trying. I have no clue when he'll be home which sucks since he's not receiving treatment at the hospital, he's just in a bed with a weight hanging off his leg. Heck, he could be doing that home!!

Thanks again for the wishes... here are some pictures of my champ, the first one when he was on morphine, the second, back to normal, just bored and immobilized .

http://farm1.static.flickr.com/238/4...bfd184050e.jpg
http://farm1.static.flickr.com/242/4...e9397aab7d.jpg
post #40 of 46
oh doudat!! your little Liam- I just want to give him hugs!! I cant imagine how this is for you and DH. Do you have anyone who can stay with him if you go in labor? You and your family are in my thoughts.
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