Sad News

[hanno]

My husband's grandfather, and the man I have been caring for 24/7 for the past year has had a heart attack. He also has pneumonia and a fever. The doctors don't think that he will be discharged from the hospital. He is a wonderful man and I am so very grateful that I got to spend the time I did with him. During the difficult times this winter, he said that he was going to try to live until spring to meet his first great-grandchild. He was so thrilled to watch my belly grow. Part of me feels like it's my fault for leaving him to be a mom and all of me wants him to hold on physically and cognitively for just a little while to meet my baby boy. I know that when the time comes for life to end (just as when it's time for it to begin), there's nothing to be done, but he's made it to 93...can we just have a little while more?

[2sweetboysmom]

I am not in your DDC but saw your post and needed to reply.
Hugs to you. I have been thru this with my grandfather holding on to see his #8 and 9 grand babies born. I was 16 at the time and my mom was his caretaker for nearly 1 year as his cancer progressed. And I am in a similar place now with my grand mother waiting to meet this little one. (her #5 great grand baby)

What a wonderful opportunity you have had to get to know him and learn who he is and also to minister to him. I hope and pray that it somehow works out for him to meet and hold your little one.

Joy

[mama2mygirl]

I hope he makes it!
You sound like a wonderful caregiver.

[acamile14]

I hope he makes it to meet the little guy. We were hoping that sierra would get to meet her great granny who is doing very bad. But unfortunately sierra is no where near coming home and my grandma probably wont make it long enough to meet her. So i totally understand what you are going through

[LilMomma83]

I am sorry to hear this, I hope he is able to hang in there

[VeganC]

I'm so sorry! Hugs and hugs and hugs. I really, really hope he makes it and gets to meet his great grandson.
Whatever happens, it is not your fault! You did what you could for him, and you know he appreciates that. Now you're doing what's best for yourself and your family, and that's a wonderful thing.

[Peppermint]

[lesley&grace]

My grandfather passed away in February after a long battle with cancer...and I was hoping he would hold on long enough to meet my baby, so I totally understand where you are coming from.

I do hope he pulls through and you have some more time together that is happy and comfortable.

[UltimateSerj]

i am so sorry that is very hard!! hugs!!!

[krismarie]

[Fairy4tmama]

OH hanno, I am so sorry! I know how hard you struggled with the decision to leave your your job as there care giver, please, please please let go of any guilt you are experiencing. YOu cared for him and his wife as long as you could (and really with no help). I am so sorry that he is not doing well and you will be in my thoughts, I hope he is able to hang o jus a bit longer!

[CorbinsMama]

I hope he will get to see your little one.

[hanno]

Thank you all so much.
The blood tests show that he is having a nearly constant heart attack yet somehow you wouldn't know it to talk to him. He says he isn't in pain and keeps a laughing fun conversation as usual. I think I can see somewhere behind his eyes that he is actually hiding some pain and understanding about the situation. The family has not really told him the prognosis. Even in possible death, this man is beautiful! Right now I don't think it's up to doctors and I don't put too much stock in their tests. When it is time, that will be up to him and his creator to decide and I am so happy that he is a person at peace with himself.