As for using china, we already do use china as everyday pieces but they all came from the thrift store and it's all mixed and matched. If a piece breaks, I toss it and don't get teary eyed.
As for preserving my Grandmother's memory, I have plenty of gorgous photos of her and my Grandpa, and a lovely old sewing machine that I plan on learning how to use. I remember her pulling that machine out and using it (she always was smiling when she used that machine). The plates, she bought them because they are pretty, and back then when you got married buying china is what you were traditionally suppose to do. Growing up in her house, I never saw her use them once. To me, the plates are not my Grandmother, and I am tired of beating myself up over them. They don't bring me joy, they serve me a heaping plate of guilt. As for passing them down, I have a son (and currently not planing on having any more little ones), and a step daughter who is already slotted to get stuff like china from her Mom's side of the family.
|Why don't you keep one piece - like a serving dish or a teacup that you can use and remember your granny?|
I think am going to offer the set to my Aunt to see if she wants them (I have no idea where she is going to put them though). She won't give me as hard of a time as the rest of my family.