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Welcome everyone to the new thread
I'm Marly, wife 6 years and mom to 2 sweet boys 4.5 and 3. My dh is currently working on his Masters. He will take the GRE in two Saturdays. Any advice on studying would be great!
I'm 11 weeks pregnant and really excited for my next appointment. I'm still freaking out a bit about mc even though I've seen this baby.
I loved Conference. I was really sad to see how Elder Faust was looking and President Hinckley was looking. Anwyay, I loved the talk about forgiveness. It was just sweet to hear how the Amish took care of that family.
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Cool. And I"m going to bed. Oh, for the GRE, I recommend the Barron's study guide. I used that and did well, but I hear they have changed the test since then. Hope it's still good.

ETA: DH liked the Barron's guide as well. So that's the mouths of two witnesses for you.
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My dh is currently working on his Masters. He will take the GRE in two Saturdays. Any advice on studying would be great!
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Oh, for the GRE, I recommend the Barron's study guide. I used that and did well, but I hear they have changed the test since then. Hope it's still good.

ETA: DH liked the Barron's guide as well. So that's the mouths of two witnesses for you.
That's good to know. I'll be getting ready to take the GRE this summer/fall ... I'll be going for my Doctorate in Literary Studies/Critical Literary Theory : I've got a couple of schools I'll be applying to ... mostly West Coast schools, but I will be hitting some East Coasts and Midwests as well (again

On a Conference note ... last night at Priesthood Session, the First Presidency all spoke on being worthy of being Priesthood holders. Pretty strong message/call to repentance.

Also, we've seemed to start a new thread at the beginning of each month, so what do we say about making that the new standard, starting a new thread on the first of each month? Just a suggestion.
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I liked the Sat am talks, esp. the one about prayer.

One of the speakers spoke about a YW who was the only member in her high school, & her testimony. He then said that she was now married in the temple, & had 5 kids & another on the way (if I'm not mixing up stories). Hearing that really helped me, somehow -- I felt the Spirit stongly and was more at ease about adding to our family. Everyone on my side of the family has 2 or 3 (usually 2) kids (except for my dad's parents, who had 6, but my grandmother doesn't see why anyone would have that many if they didn't have a farm they needed help on). Large families are quite uncommon where I live, even in the church. I have been worried about how things will go, and about people judging us. While I know that we're doing what Heavenly Father wants, I'm still nervous about it. I think that feeling of peace & happiness will come in handy down the road, when I'm feeling discouraged.
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I really enjoyed the talk on the bible. I forget now who said it -was it Pres Hinckley?

Since dh is a convert and grew up reading the Bible long before he ever knew anything about the Book of Mormon, we've had many discussions about how dearly we love the Bible and how sometimes (especially at church) most mormon discussion revolves around the Book of Mormon. Not that this is wrong at all but we both love the Bible so very much. Our family scripture study always includes at least a chapter from both. Anyway I've loved gospel doctrine as we study the Bible and I really loved that talk.

I think so many people forget that we mormons consider the Bible to be holy also and I was THRILLED that he talked so much about that.
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from the #39 thread:
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yes, well, I am alive I go back and forth with this place
That's understandable. I only had 70 posts until a couple months ago, lol. Actually, I really need to do some soul-searching concerning the internet, particularly MDC. The last two nights, I have spent SEVEN (7) hours online, mostly at MDC. Doing what, I have no idea. One of the signs of an addiction is that you are shocked by how quickly time passes
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He will take the GRE in two Saturdays. Any advice on studying would be great!
It depends on what kind of test taker he is. I have always been a very good test taker (explaining, not bragging), so studying doesn't really help me that much. One of the keys I've found is to not care too much what your score is. I took the ACT in 10th grade, and since it was so early, I was COMPLETELY relaxed and didn't have to worry about test anxiety. Same with the GRE. I took it even though I didn't have to have it to get into BYU's master's program, and I did really well. Again, I think it was because I wasn't terrified of doing poorly. Since those of you who have responded DO need your scores, I would recommend studying in whatever way suits you, but also spend a lot of time releasing anxiety and calming down once the day gets closer
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I have gone back and forth with MDC for the same reasons. WHen I am on, I spend too much time, without even noticing it. Before it was more acceptable to me because I was EP'ing...and there wasn't much productive I could do while sitting there attached to my pumps...now that I am done that, for now...I feel like I should be doing something else with my time.
PLus I tend to have a hard time sleeping, and come on here...and then don't go to bed cause I am reading or writing something.....so it is a bad cycle and I need sleep to function as a mom. Something I am going to pray about, what would be a healthy amount of time to post on here.
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I know I spend too much time here....
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i used to post a lot here at MDC. but then i stopped for a very long time. now i post, but i stick to here mostly. then my birth club, and i was posting at finding your tribe.

i find that i am too sensative to post in a lot of places here.
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That's good to know. I'll be getting ready to take the GRE this summer/fall ... I'll be going for my Doctorate in Literary Studies/Critical Literary Theory : I've got a couple of schools I'll be applying to ... mostly West Coast schools, but I will be hitting some East Coasts and Midwests as well (again
sounds like fun. isn't it weird we all take the same test with such diferent majors? i was in genetics and dh was in engineering, and you're in literature, but it's all the same test.

i too wonder how much time is acceptable to spend here. now, i didn't hear all of conference. dd and i were on a plane for the sat. pm session, and well, the others had a lot of background noise but i don't renenber hearing about the internet or addictionsm besides pornography, which is always a subject these days. so, does anyone know what the prophets have said specifically about internet time?
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so, does anyone know what the prophets have said specifically about internet time?
They have talked in general about the importance of family time, and I think that any internet time takes away from family time. At least for ME. When I am on the internet, I am telling my kids "just a minute", "not now", etc. If I am on the internet when they are sleeping, them I am tired the next day. If I am on the internet at work, then I have to stay later, and they miss out on time with me. I'm not sure of other quotes, but I'm sure we could find applicable talks.

My biggest excuse is that I learn so much great stuff about AP/Natural Family Living/home educating/etc. Though shockingly enough, when I was off MDC for a year or so, my AP/NFL family managed to stay together. We didn't suddenly stop co-sleeping or breastfeeding, and I didn't suddenly circ my kids. I realized that I mostly know what I need to be doing. I need to rely on my own intuition and prayer, rather than screaming for help every time I have a question. There's certainly nothing wrong with asking questions, but I would guess that I could learn even MORE if I trusted Heavenly Father instead of internet people

I also insist that I need the internet so I can have contact with other adults. But perhaps if I wasn't so addicted to the internet, I might have time for real-life friends?! Now wouldn't that be strange. That would be so far out of my comfort zone that I wouldn't even know where to begin, lol.
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I don't know that they've really addressed it at least from what I know. But being idle isn't good either. for me it's theraputic but I can't spend too much time. I really think it can be different for everyone. I try to just do it in the morning and at night. Then the kids have me for the middle of the day (that's also when it's warmer outside)

It is funny they have to take the same test. I know there are other specific ones but dh is sticking with the General one. SO far all he is doing is a practice test that was sent to him after he was going to take it a year ago. The funny thing is he is an Engineer and he got 65% on the reading and 44% on the math. I think the problem with Engineers is that they get to so many of the higher maths that they think everything should be complicated and he forget the easier formulas Right now he isn't in the program, he is just doing Non-matriculated. But he'll apply to the program after he get's his grade and the GRE score. He has to get an awesome score or he was told he won't get in. I think he's smarter than he thinks he is. Anyway, we're hoping he gets in and then it's 2 years of two classes a semester and he'll have a robotics masters. Hopefully he can then get a job doing what he wants to. The two years will suck but at least it will be over. Thankfully it's a non-thesis program.

I think the story with the lady with 5 kids and 6th on the way was Elder Monson and when he was talking to the girl in the audience and she was thinking about getting baptized and felt he answered her prayer because her parents wanted her to wait until she was 18. I could be mistaken. I was sort of in and out all conference. I'll have to re-read all the talks in the Ensign.

I did love all the faith and forgiveness talks and the one about the Bible. It's nice to remind those who don't like us that we do believe in the Bible. My parents read both every night because they like to feel they work together

I mostly come and go because I read and don't always respond. I also have gotten more posts in the last little while than I did when I started coming here. For about 2 years I was doing well not spending so much time on here. I moved and have been spending more time because it's harder to find friends and I'm lonely
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i am 10x worse then all of you combined when it comes to being online. look at the date i joined and the ammount of posts i have. 'nuff said. that being said when i'm not pregnant i'm not on as much and i have a laptop so when i'm posting you can envision me holding one or both of my girls anywhere around the house and typing at the same time. i heart having a laptop. i have MDC running for most of the day and come back to it while i'm atempting to clean or cook or whatever. multitaksing all the way. buuuuuuuuut when i have more energy and am not sitting or laying around i'm multitasking in a different sense so you'll really only get me when i'm feeding the new addition. and with that i must go because i have a smelly diaper to change and i haven't quite mastered doing that and typing yet.
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It's hard to admit to myself, but my internet use is at the level of addiction, and I really don't know how to stop. I'd say I'm on 3-4 hours a day most days. It's usually during nap time and after they go to bed, but then I'm neglecting time with my dh, and I'm staying up too late so I'm even more exhausted in the morning. I'm also on throughout the day, and I too am guilty of telling my kids, "just a minute". During the times when I'm not online, I'm usually thinking about "when can I get online next?" So even when I'm not actually at the computer, it is still running my day.

I have used the excuse with myself that "well, they haven't addressed this in conference, in stake conference, etc." But I know that is just an excuse. I don't need to have it spelled out for me. I know in my heart that this is not what the Lord wants me to spend my time doing. Sometimes I think to myself, "Will I be here, at the computer, 5 years from now? Is this really what I want for my future?" I know I could be so much more productive with my time.

I have tried putting various boundaries on it, like limiting my time at MDC to only certain threads, or telling myself that I will stop and go to bed at a certain time. But it doesn't work for me. The only real solution will be to leave MDC completely. I know it needs to be done, I just don't have the willpower yet to do it. MDC has been part of my life for 5 years.

In some ways I also think that MDC brings me down emotionally and spiritually. It's not a particularly uplifting place to be, with all the nitpicking, judgment, and backbiting that goes on in every forum and pretty much every thread. Sure, the NFL/AP principles are wonderful, but like a PP said, I already know that stuff. I need to rely more on the spirit and less on anonymous people's angry opinions of how people should parent, especially people who, for the most part, do not share my gospel values.

The only comfort is that so many of you are in exactly the same boat as I am!
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I need to rely more on the spirit and less on anonymous people's angry opinions of how people should parent, especially people who, for the most part, do not share my gospel values.
Your whole post was very well said! I especially liked the part quoted above. There are a lot of religious women on MDC, but comparatively few who share our (general) values.

I've been posting a lot of the masturbation thread, and on Thursday or Friday, I got particularly nasty and immature in my responses. I felt so negative and full of anger that night. I snapped at my kids more than usual, and just felt awful. Is that really helping me be a better AP parent? I don't think so!

In addition to MDC, I have one other forum (Long Hair Community), about 20 yahoogroups (fortunately most are not very active, and I don't even check some of them at all), and "several" blogs. Or I thought I had "several" blogs. I added them to a feed reader, and there are at least 23 I read regularly! I also check CNN and The Daily Herald.

We sound like a bunch of alcoholics sitting at the bar and saying how much they'd like to stop drinking. And then they order another round. I'm not sure whether to add or :
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I need to rely more on the spirit and less on anonymous people's angry opinions of how people should parent, especially people who, for the most part, do not share my gospel values.
I was going to post some witty and appreciative rejoinder about this and then DS came up and wanted to listen to the "Hamster Dance" song (if you haven't heard this, count yourself lucky, DS would be quite happy if this played 24/7 in our house (he calls it the "Doh De Doo", if you want your mind to be melted, click here) and now I can't remember what I was going to say about your post Laurel. Guess the "Hamster Dance" drives all productive thought out of your head!

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We sound like a bunch of alcoholics sitting at the bar and saying how much they'd like to stop drinking. And then they order another round. I'm not sure whether to add or :
What about ?

My name is NewCrunchyDaddy and I'm an MDCer.

HELLO NEWCRUNCHYDADDY.

I've been an MDCer for nine months now. I MDC socially as well as in private. I have 1,165 posts and I don't think I can stop.

...or...

A loving thef— ... I mean ... homage from The Simpsons episode 9F14, "Duffless":

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Bryan: ...so they say I might have a problem. [finishes brushing his teeth, and posts on MDC]
Alisa: [reading from a pamphlet entitled, "Is Your Spouse a Poster?"] Bryan, do you ever post alone?
Bryan: Does the Lord count as a person?
Alisa: No.
Bryan: Then yes.
Alisa: Do you need to post to fall asleep?
Bryan: Thank you, that'd be nice.
Alisa: Do you ever hide computers around the house?
Bryan: Do I ever! [fetches a computer from its hiding place behind the toilet tank, and posts] Ahhhh.
Alisa: Do you ever post to escape from reality.
Bryan: [posts at his avatar — himself as a big muscular guy] [to "Can-Can"] Duhh, duh duh duh duh duuh duuh, duh duh duh duh duuh duuh, duh duh duh duh duh, duh duh duh duh...
Alisa: Bryan, I'd like you to do something for me.
Bryan: You name it.
Alisa: I want you to give up posting for a month.
Bryan: You got it. No toasting for a month.
Alisa: Did you say posting, or toasting?
Bryan: .... Toasting.
Alisa: Please, Bryan, I know you can do this.
Bryan: All right, starting tomorrow no posting for a month. [puts the light out. We can hear the sound of the modem working and the internet logging on]
Alisa: What was that noise?
Bryan: I was saying, "Psssst, I love you."
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DS came up and wanted to listen to the "Hamster Dance" song
Are you off for Spring Break? fun!

I've never seen that video before. I will probably regret it for the rest of my life, but I think I'm going to show it to my kids. Then we can fight over me posting vs. them watching the evil hampster.


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What about ?
I've never seen that one before!

Your little scene was hilarious!!

I've asked dh to help me get to bed on time before. He'll lay in the bedroom and yell for me to come to bed. I'll get all annoyed and mad and tell him to "leave me alone! I'm almost done!" So yeah, that didn't work too well. The only thing that has ever worked is if he puts the kids to bed and then comes back out wearing, um, less clothes than usual. Then I get off the internet VERY FAST. Unfortunately he's not the type to want to do that every day. Maybe I could convince him to do it for the benefit of my addiction
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