My dh makes breakfast for everyone while I shower. This is a very important pattern for me. It is my time to think and plan my day and take care of myself. I can then face the world with more confidence.
I agree with the decluttering. Play toys are a developmental need but this can be met with pans and other everyday household item. My kids all know I am serious when I say, "Clean up before dinner is ready, I am throwing away what is left out when you are done." Some toys are keepers but the junk that seems to flow into our home incessantly from well meaning but distant relatives are very disposable.
Also, my children are not housekeepers but if my 10 yo ds pees all over the floor in the bathroom he is the one that cleans it up. Assess what your children can do for themselves, teach them to do it, expect them to do it. There is no reason why a preschooler can't get her own drink of water when she is thirsty, get dressed alone, mop up a spill, etc. (You may have to lower standards as to what clean means.)
Don't lose nap time/quiet time. I need this for myself. Even if my 4 yo doesn.t sleep she needs to stop talking to me for a little while each day.
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I agree with the decluttering. Play toys are a developmental need but this can be met with pans and other everyday household item. My kids all know I am serious when I say, "Clean up before dinner is ready, I am throwing away what is left out when you are done." Some toys are keepers but the junk that seems to flow into our home incessantly from well meaning but distant relatives are very disposable.
Also, my children are not housekeepers but if my 10 yo ds pees all over the floor in the bathroom he is the one that cleans it up. Assess what your children can do for themselves, teach them to do it, expect them to do it. There is no reason why a preschooler can't get her own drink of water when she is thirsty, get dressed alone, mop up a spill, etc. (You may have to lower standards as to what clean means.)
Don't lose nap time/quiet time. I need this for myself. Even if my 4 yo doesn.t sleep she needs to stop talking to me for a little while each day.
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Originally Posted by momma4fun
 YOU MUST EAT BREAKFAST AND YOUR DH MUST MAKE IT FOR YOU EVERY MORNING BEFORE HE LEAVES!
Ok sorry to yell and tell you what to do, but I have horrible days if I don't eat a good breakfast with protein, fat and carbs. DH makes me 3 eggs and sourdough toast every morning, and several days he'll also add some fried potatoes and sausage or bacon. I need the energy for nursing and everything else that goes down. I feel it is dh's resposibility to feed me breakfast so I can feed the babies. THere is no way I could get up and run after baby, toddler, take kindergartener to school and get back home without fainting without eating a nutrient dense breakfast. It sounds like a lot but by now my DH has it down to just 5 minutes with eggs and toast or just 10 minutes prep time with the big breakfast. Everyday in the afternoon when things are getting crazy I go around the house with a trash bag. Where does all the trash come from??? It's endless. I throw it all away at once, rather than cleaning up after everything as I go throughout the day. I also throw away toys, lol. A few random legos over here? TRASH! We don't need 'em. The alphabet blocks that I'm alwasy stepping on? Trash. We don't need 5 different kinds of blocks, let alone keeping the whole set. Then all the dirty clothes all over the floor I throw into one pile. And that's it. That's all the cleaning I do when DH is at work. The house is a wreck. DH has just started putting a load of laundry in everyday from that pile. He also washes all the dishes every night. I sweep every night. THat's all that happens. And I'm happy to say thatthis style has made for neater house because we have much less clutter because I throw everything away. As for running around with the young ones, try to keep maybe your bedroom clear as a rainy or crazy day fun place to be. Our matress is just right on the floor. WHen things get crazy, I just go up there with my toddler and nusre/hold baby in the rocking chair while watching the toddler jump/do tricks on the mattress. eta : and as harsh as it may sound online, sometimes one of the kids just has to cry for a minute while you finish with a diaper or a poopy butt. there's not really much you can do about that unless, no crying is more important to you than having to clean poo off the couch. |
