My neighbor is 19 years old and has a 7 month old
Her husband is in the Navy ... they got married out of boot camp, and got pregnant immediately
We are stationed in the same place, and have been neighbors for over a year now. During her pregnancy, I talked to her a lot about breastfeeding, cosleeping, no CIO, etc and she seemed really excited about the baby
When her DS was born, she said BF'ing was a breeze ... no pain, great latch, great weight gain, they were cosleeping, and everything seemed great. She would give him an occasional bottle of formula when they were going out.
Fast forward to about a month ago, I realize that every time I go over there, she fixed the baby a bottle instead of nursing him. He is sleeping in a crib in his own room ... she raves about how he can entertain himself for 2-3 hours at a time.
I went over yesterday unannounced (to borrow something) and when she opened the door, I noticed the baby in the bassinet with a bottle propped.
At first I was just kind of upset that she wasn't parenting like I thought she whould (shame on me)
But the more I think about it, the more I wonder if she is depressed, which would explain her lack of wanting to hold/care for the baby.
Her husband also just left on a 6 month deployment, so I know that can contribute to a a depression.
So now I am thinking she may be suffering from some PPD, but how do I broach this without sounding judgemental? (I.e. I notice you don't breastfeed anymore, is it because _______ ... that sounds bad to me, but I am at a loss)
Her husband is in the Navy ... they got married out of boot camp, and got pregnant immediately
We are stationed in the same place, and have been neighbors for over a year now. During her pregnancy, I talked to her a lot about breastfeeding, cosleeping, no CIO, etc and she seemed really excited about the baby
When her DS was born, she said BF'ing was a breeze ... no pain, great latch, great weight gain, they were cosleeping, and everything seemed great. She would give him an occasional bottle of formula when they were going out.
Fast forward to about a month ago, I realize that every time I go over there, she fixed the baby a bottle instead of nursing him. He is sleeping in a crib in his own room ... she raves about how he can entertain himself for 2-3 hours at a time.
I went over yesterday unannounced (to borrow something) and when she opened the door, I noticed the baby in the bassinet with a bottle propped.
At first I was just kind of upset that she wasn't parenting like I thought she whould (shame on me)
But the more I think about it, the more I wonder if she is depressed, which would explain her lack of wanting to hold/care for the baby.
Her husband also just left on a 6 month deployment, so I know that can contribute to a a depression.
So now I am thinking she may be suffering from some PPD, but how do I broach this without sounding judgemental? (I.e. I notice you don't breastfeed anymore, is it because _______ ... that sounds bad to me, but I am at a loss)
