Even though you posted this over 6years ago, i want to thank you for posting it.
so, back to CPS resistance strategies - Page 11
My boys were just returned two weeks ago after spending two months in foster care. They were taken because my (then) 10 year old had body odor. He had showered the night before and was wearing clothes fresh from the dryer but the nurse at his school decided to call the police. They were taken straight from school, nobody told me what had happened. The social worker saw a stain on our carpet and reported our house as "filthy." She tried to tell us that the DA said we had to re-floor our house (untrue). She outright lied to the court and because of that, our boys were taken from us. I was allowed one, one hour visit per week for the first month. We were assigned a new case worker from another agency who came and did a walk through of our home and supervised our visits. He said that he and his coworker could find no reason for the boys to have been taken in the first place. Not only were they gone but they were not placed together and two of them were made to bathe in rubbing alcohol. DH's military service was twisted and used against us (they said he "killed 33 people in Afghanistan" when both the number and location were wrong and it was his JOB), trying to make him look like he had anger issues. They took my child support (still haven't given it back) and have demanded that we both take several classes, have psych evals, physicals and DH has to take an anger management class. When we went back to court, we had a new judge and he actually read the reports of the new case worker. The DA stood there telling the judge that we didn't deserve to have our boys back, luckily the judge saw past all of that and we got the boys back. Now, we're locked into a year of "services" that will do nothing but have people snooping through our house. I know there are good social workers out there, I know several. But, I also know that there are some that will outright lie to get children taken away from their families, not to mention school employees who try to cause trouble where there is none. Since getting the boys back, I have enrolled the younger two in eSchool through our school district. Their old school called DCF saying that my boys aren't enrolled anywhere, which they knew to be untrue (they had to approve the transfer to eSchool).
I'm one of those who doesn't do well-child checks.
my lovely 6 month experience with CPS was DUE TO WELL CHILD CHECKS.
If I hadn't gone, the ped wouldn't have become paranoid about what she percieved as an unsupportive spouse (um, he worked 8-5 and so did she. given we had newborn twins, he couldn't just give up a job, eh?) not ever attending said WCCs.
WCCs don't guarantee you will be free from CPS problems. We err on the side of caution against them.
there are currently no MDs who know my children exist, they don't know they're not vaxxed, they don't know they eat vegan, they don't know the 4 year old nurses. what they don't know, they don't report!
I just need to say that this is an impossibility. It is much more likely that the doc called CPS because of concerns about the septic hip- maybe the ped thought that the parents neglected to bring her in for treatment in a timely manner? Or felt that the mother didn't understand the seriousness of what was going on and the child was at risk of not getting needed follow up? I don't know.
I'm not saying that CPS can't be a trainwreck, because it can. But it is an impossibility that CPS was called because the dad didn't go to well baby visits.
I've been on both sides of the CPS issue. CPS came to my house when there was an issue with an older boy on the school bus being sexually inappropriate on the bus. They were a lifesaver for us, as I was sick with worry about the whole thing. A case was opened on our family because of concerns that my son had been exposed to inappropriate sexual behavior. We were lucky to have an amazing caseworker. I was SO worried because the caseworker had apparently tried to visit us when we weren't home, then sent us a letter which I didn't get for a full MONTH because our mailbox was snowed over and I hardly ever made it to the P.O. to pick up our mail. When I finally got the letter, I freaked out and tried to call the worker over and over again, only to find out she was on vacation. Anyway we finally connected, she made a home visit. She talked to my kids alone (which makes SENSE. It's ridiculous to expect to be in the room with your child when there is suspicion that you might be abusing/neglecting said child!!!!), but explicitly told me I could listen through the door. She made another follow up visit a few weeks later, and that was that.
My experience with CPS was wonderful. But I recognize that I won the caseworker lottery. I also have Privilege, because I am white, not poor, married, and both of my kids no longer nursed or coslept.
On the other side, I am an RN and used to coordinate prenatal services for moms on methadone treatment, who were homeless, had mental health issues, and/or other social risk factors. I've had to call CPS a few times, and I've been sick with worry each time, knowing that I am opening a potential can of worms for the family in question. My facility had a blanket policy of making a referral for any mom who had a positive drug screen, for any drug. THIS IS NOT A REPORTABLE OFFENSE and I refused to comply. I was able to get my facility to change it's policy, and I also got us to stop drug testing all women as a matter of course. Criminalizing women who use drugs during pregnancy only causes these women to avoid getting the care they need. It kills me.
ALSO- this is relevant. I have two special needs children. One has ataxia telangiectasia and requires lots of specialized medical care. My son has mental health problems, and as such we are connected with DMH and see therapists, social workers, psychs, and case workers. I have also had to call the police on my son numerous times, too many to count. :( I delayed vaxing my son (my dd does not make antibodies to vaccines, so she is completely unvaxxed). I was also always quite upfront about cosleeping, and all our docs knew that I breastfed both of them for more than two years. My kids were also vegetarian and I frequently used herbal/natural remedies on them instead of using mainstream medicine.
I never, once, not ever, had a practitioner side eye me for any of my "alternative" parenting practices.
Mommybear I'm so sorry for what your family was put through and all the other mamas here.
Note from attorney: If you are FORCED to sign or feel no other way out during a run in with them sign "under duress, XX XXXX" This means "yes I did sign but I was forced against my will to do so" basically. Your attorney can undo whatever you signed in this manner. That's what mine said anyways.
Edited by crazyms - 1/18/14 at 12:05am