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post #21 of 22
Originally posted by Piglet68

I especially felt nurtured when DH would go get me fresh canteloup and sushi from Whole Foods Market. Beat the "snacks" they had in the Maternity Ward fridge.
Oh, I agree. I craved MC'ds (I know awful stuff, but one cannot help what one craves after hours of labor and delivery)! My dh told everyone on that ward (from my room, mind you) that after what I had just been through I was going to get a Hamburger and that was that! He was such a sweetie!

Ok, back to topic

I really, honestly think that I was put on this planet to be a wife and mother. I could not be happier. Yes, I have plans for a career after my children are grown. I want AT LEAST two more on top of the two that I have. Call me old fashioned, but I absolutely LOVE being a mommy. I love being a wife. I have a very nurturing personality. I enjoy taking care of people! There is nothing else that I would rather do with my life! On the opposite side of this, there is my cousin who (I posted this in another thread) dropped her boys (4 and 3) off at her mother's house and said "I don't want them anymore, you do it" and left. Motherhood simply isn't cut out for everyone, especially the faint of heart. I have said it before, Motherhood is the toughest job on the planet and nowhere else will you get LESS recongition for all that you do. However, I can see it in my son's eyes when he is eating. I can feel it in the trust he offers me when he falls asleep at my breast, knowing that I will take care of him!

I don't think that this has anything to do with what type of hospital stay one has. I think that a woman is predisposed (sp?) to whether or not she has the inheirent ability to be a nurturing mother.
post #22 of 22
I am one of those who could fit the article.

Don't get me wrong, I love Goo. She is wonderful! But it took a while for me to truely love her as a person as opposed to loving her as my child. Very different things.

I never wanted kids when I was growing up. baby sitting was a pain and the only way I could get money so I treasured the time after the kids went to bed.

I just don't have a ton of maternal instinct.

However, I deal with Goo in a way that I get looks all over from people. I talk to her like a person. That drives others insane. Well, I can't talk baby talk. I just can't do what others do. I explain things in big words because that's how I do it.

I tried to stay home with her the first 15 weeks. I was a basket case. I needed to be back in a grownup world.

Please don't feel sorry for me. I love Goo and we treasure the time together, I am just not an infant person at all. I am more of a 5-14 year old person. I love kids in that range.
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