No nursery?

[JamesMama]

Anyone else not doing a nursery or a 'theme'??

I am ALREADY getting people asking me what my 'theme' is going to be. Probably so they can shop or something.

We're not doing a nursery. 1) We don't have the space 2) We cosleep full time and 3) We don't have the space. LOL

Anyone else not doing a nursery or am I the only freak out there? We live in an itty bitty 2 bedroom apartment. It's going to be a trip fitting James (small) toybox and 2 dressers in that bedroom...let alone 2 dressers, a crib and a twin size bed. :

When I say "Oh, we're not doing a nursery." people look at me like I have 6 heads or something...then they go on about how I HAVE to have a nursery at which point I glaze over and tune them out. but then they go on about 'themes' What is that even?

Okay, we did a 'nursery' with James. I NEVER got used, but we did it. We did Winnie The Pooh...so should I just pull something out of my butt? Should I go looking for a 'nursery theme' so people can buy stuff?

Ack...

[Bonawich]

We didn't do a nursery with our first, and won't with this one. He's been in our room from day one, and in our bed, so no crib. I don't have advice on what to say in response to queries....maybe think up something in advance so you have something ready. If I had a brain left, I'm sure I could come up with something, but....

[LittleLlama]

While I was pregnant with Titus, I had no idea what co-sleeping was, but I knew I'd want him near for the first little while. I had acutally just told MIL and her mom that I was expecting and they asked what the theme would be a couple weeks later : So, I go "Um, maybe Classic Pooh, but I'm not sure." In the meantime, DH and I had envisioned this whole polynesian theme with big orange hybiscus and fish and palm trees painted on the walls and hung over the crib (which we didn't even own at that point) and I was jazzed... too bad we were moving. In the meantime, MIL and Grandma had made a quilt, wall hangings an adorable coat hook and some other things ALL Pooh. So, I guess we're doing Pooh.... turned out that he co-slept until 6 months when he made it clear he didn't like sleeping with me at which point we finally got him a crib and cleaned out the "extra bedroom" for him to sleep in.

Anyhow, to get back to your point, if you just tell people something to get them off your back, you just might end up with some cute stuff... just make sure it's something you would actually like. If s/he will have his own room in the future, maybe you could plan for that. Or tell people Thomas Kincade or Van Gough and see if you end up with something nice for YOU

In general though, I'd just say you haven't decided.

[myjulybabes]

Nah, no nursery here. Someone's going to be sharing rooms when the baby is done co-sleeping, but we haven't figured out who yet, so no "theme". Nobody really asks anyway though... I co-slept since before I knew it had a name or knew what "AP" was, so my family pretty much knows I'm "nuts".

I like LittleLlama's suggestion to pick out something to get folks off your back though. We only use our crib minimally, and it's in our room, but I may just pick out a crib set in case someone wants to buy me one. I'm pretty sure we finally got rid of the Pooh one that made it through the first 3 kids.

[GinaRae]

No don't bother - what a waste! Tell them the stuff you actually need.

I am not doing a nursery and no theme. We cosleep and live in a small house with three other boys who have the two extra bedrooms besides ours. We may put a baby dresser and steal half of the closet in my 11 year old's room, but that's about it.

And after all this time, I look at it all as SUCH a waste! We never spent time in any of the three nurseries I set up. The crib wasn't used. I had my third son 5.5 years ago and we did this Dr. Seuss theme big time. I think I just wanted to spend money.

The room ended up a play room and he slept with me. The crib landed in his brothers' room to hold clothes.

I wrote an article once on the 10 things to do with a crib besides use it for the baby to sleep in: http://www.naturalfamilyonline.com/5...s-for-crib.htm

I am so totally over the nursery thing. While I still drool at some of the crib
sets and wall hangings, I couldn't bring myself to do it now. Being in such a small house with a big family really makes me think twice about what I bring into the house.

[octobermom]

We wont have room for a crib much less a seperate nursery. In a way I kinda wish we did but I'd set it up more like a secnd bedroom where I could escape with baby when the hubby starts snoring
We are getting an amby bed (a gift from my parents) and I'm pretty excited about that :

[renaissanceed]

No nursery here. With DD, we were loaned a crib and given a change table, which we set up in a room next to ours. The room had been my office and was painted deep red on top and white along the bottom with a chair rail between them. I liked the colour so we decided to leave it. DD has never spent a single night/naptime in there, although we do use the change table .

Fortunately no one ever asked me about a theme, because I think they know me pretty well (as in, I would never, ever do such a thing).

With the new babe on the way, we likely won't change anything about what we're doing now (two mattresses on floor side by side in our big bedroom). We might try to set up a room that is more for DD in case she decides she wants to spend some time in it, but there will certainly be no pressure for her to move out of our bedroom any time soon.

[thirdchild]

I didn't read through all the posts (maybe someone already suggested this...) but just say since it's a 2 bedroom apartment they kids are going to share...thus no need for a new theme since you already have "Pooh" AND you already have all you need in the pooh theme. Might make sure they don't purchase something else you won't use AND it it also gives them a theme since they seem keen on you "needing" one!

[JamesMama]

Thanks mamas!

I've been putzing around BRU.com and I think I'm just gonna say lavandar and yellow for a girl, blue and yellow for a boy. Easy peasy I figure...maybe I'll get something NOT character. 98% of DS's stuff has Pooh on it.

[scheelimama]

Not planning on a nursery here either. We have a 3 bedroom house and our girls share a large bedroom. The 3rd bedroom is currently the guest room/my sewing room. I like it that way. People think I'm crazy that a) my kids don't have seperate rooms (why should they?!?) and b) that I'm not turning the 3rd bedroom into a nursery for the new baby. We'll be cosleeping for at least the first year. After that, I'll rearrange everyone and I'll probably loose my sewing room, but we could move into a 4 bedroom house at anytime now (since I'm pregnant and we live in military housing). We're just not choosing to right now since dh is deploying soon. I figure we'll probably be in a 4 bedroom by the time the new baby is ready for his/her own space.

[Grace24]

Oh my god now I have to pick a THEME?

[GinaRae]

Originally Posted by Grace24

Oh my god now I have to pick a THEME?

[Momma Aimee]

We ARE doing a nursey even though we co-sleep full time, form day one.

1. we have space -- though it will still ahve the queen quest bed in there too. I am not giving that up.

2. I did one for Theo and DH is #5 of 5 and had NOTHING special so we have a hard fast rule -- what one gets, the others get.....I do not scrap book for Theo, just a plain lond photo album with notes written, and a rubber maid container for his card and so on -- what i know i can do for #2 and #3 and #4 if we are so blessed.

3. We have the space.

Renee -- in YOUR situation, i would totally NOT be doing one..... Though I would -- if i could -- make an area -- a conor of my room or whatever -- wehree the changing table was that I owuld hang a few sweet baby thing jsut for the new one...... their own little space.

AImee

[Monkeybutt]

no nursery here. We didn't with my first and I was glad we didn't. It would have never of been used.

[Undercover Hippie]

We've done a nursery the other two times (though we've never spent much money or had a theme. Just a place for the baby stuff to collect and for the crib--which is nice, if nothing else, for those times you need a safe place to set baby while you pee ). We have the space to do it again but we're not going to. For one thing, we'd have to rearrange the other two kids and lose our office, neither of which is worth it. Also, we have used the nursery less and less each time so we kind of feel like, why bother?

Eventually as they get older, baby will move into a siblings' room. Further down the road, they can all have their own rooms if they desire. I don't know how or when that will play out. But for now baby will just be with us. What could be easier?

[MamaHippo]

We live in a 2-bdrm apartment, so the baby will be in the room with us until he/she outgrows the Arms Reach CoSleeper, then he/she will likely be in the bedroom with big brother until we move. We're thinking of moving eventually to a townhome or condo with 3 bdrms, but its not happening until much later after the new baby comes. So, no "nursery decorating". Big brother's room is a mishmash of Thomas decals, elephant quilt, and animal posters. No theme there either :

[LittleBrownDog]

We made sure to pick a gender neutral "theme" last time (green, white, khaki with sheep) so I can tell people we'll be re-using that stuff. We've already promised the crib to someone else since DD barely spent a minute in it (other than to play once or twice). But really that room just became a clothes storage space. We were going to co-sleep "if it worked out," but this time wea re planning on co-sleeping from day one. Haven't decided yet if we'll convert the guest room into DD's "big girl" room. There's no real rush to do so since the baby won't be using the "nursery" for a while. We're going to borrow an arm's reach co-sleeper, mainly to use as a guard rail for the new baby since DD will still be in the middle.

When people ask what we want for this baby, I tell them money towards a housekeeper for the first 3 months

[mykidsrock]

I'm not planning a nursery. We have plenty of room and my 15 month old has the "nursery" if you will. But we're weird we co-sleep when they're little, we moved my youngest into her own room at 9 months. My hubby gets VERY freaked out when they are crawling all over the bed and he just gets super paranoid. So we co-sleep at first, then they sleep in their own crib until around 2, then back to co-sleeping. SOOOO....My 1 yr old is in her own room, my 2 and 4 year olds sleep with us- sometimes all night and sometimes they are in their own rooms half the night, it just depends. And my 8 yr old sleeps in her own room MOST of the time. LOL


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WHOA, I'm tired and my grammar was horrible...I'm not even gonna edit it, going to bed instead.

[LittleLlama]

Originally Posted by JamesMama

Thanks mamas!

I've been putzing around BRU.com and I think I'm just gonna say lavandar and yellow for a girl, blue and yellow for a boy. Easy peasy I figure...maybe I'll get something NOT character. 98% of DS's stuff has Pooh on it.

Good plan. I made the mistake of "going with" the Pooh theme that was coming at me wether I wanted it or not but didn't drill into everyone CLASSIC POOH which tends to be nicer, softer, less commercial and certainly not battery opperated. If it matters, people usually get it if you tell them "shirtless Pooh" Someone got DS this fake chenille talking Pooh that creeped us out sooooo bad when it talked. It sounded like a letcherous old man... but of course DS looooooves it we undid the battery and all is ok now... he's loosing interest so it may just disappear for baby #2.

[octobermom]

I've been thinking about this and I have a confession. I said earlier I'd like it it we had room to set up a simple extra bedroom a place I could escape to with baby if needed. I kept thinking how I wouldn't make it a cutsy nursery just something practicle. But then I thought nope heck I'd make it into my perfect little nursery, TTC for 4+ years and even though I totally know the baby could cae less they just want me and my boobies I'll now admit if we had the room and the budget yes I'd make a nursey, something for both of us. Someplace special. Yes I confess :