Since I have met many women midwives who I don't like or respect very much, or who have not given birth, or not vaginally...I see no reason a man can't be a good midwife. Compassion and committed to a nonmedical model of birth does not seem gender-specific to me. When I wanted DH to meet the male midwife I knew, (due to complications I didn't end up using him) he was uncertain but couldn't indentify why...but though male obs were normal and fine...mostly because he'd never thought about it. Of the run of the mill medwives around here, I thought he seemed like a very good option. Some peole would not want a non-female ob either, which is fine, but I'd be ok with it. I figure he must have respect for women and for birth if he'd enter a field where he's be not too popular, marginalized and poorly paid! .
Midwives and nurses, and elementary and preschool teaching, have a stigma of being female-only caretaking jobs, so men in it are considered freaks, basically. Which is too bad. I know nurturing men, and I'd like to think we are growing more of them here at MDC.