Originally Posted by dbsam
This is my first post and it seems to go against all the others, however….I did not have a c-section but wish I had. I was concerned about my son’s delivery and asked for a c-section - repeatedly - but my doctor told me I was neurotic! I delivered twins, prematurely, one transverse. My daughter's delivery was fine but my son, who was transverse, was grabbed by an intern then pulled out by his feet. The doctor lost her grip several times. His delivery was very violent. He was born w/o oxygen and with a grade two brain bleed. After much struggling he is doing great although he may have future issues. I am angry – with my doctor for not listening to me and with myself for not demanding a c-section. I feel my doctor’s bravado jeopardized my son.
Hmmm. . . I read this post with great interest. Partly because I'm in the same
boat (replying when I didn't actually HAVE a c-section). Partly b/c I was also delivering twins and was confronted with plans for a total breech extraction (yet unlike
this poster, did NOT want a c-section).
We searched everywhere and spent hours and hours planning so that we could deliver with a specialist who would participate in a vaginal delivery of our twins, even if involving a breech presentation (and it did turn out that from 28-weeks right through birth, Twin B was breech). The doctor we found was not insisting on a c-section (others in other hospitals would have). However, she WAS insisting on a total breech extraction.
Our feeling was that this was an agressive, and traumatic birth with great risk for injury and compromised breathing upon delivery. We felt it should be used only as a last resort in an emergency. Our views were foreign-ground to the OB. In the end, we were at a stand-still: she didn't dump us for fear of a disastrous outcome if we were unable to find another doctor. We insisted verbally and in writing that we would not agree to total breech extraction as a primary means of birthing Twin B.
We didn't make it to the "big-city" hospital and ended up at a community hospital (temporarily without an OB). A family doctor and surgeon were called in as we were enroute to the hospital. A vaginal exam upon arrival found me at 9cm - so obviously not continuing the mulit-hour drive to the city. The family doctor told us in no uncertain terms that we were going to the operating room to have a c-section. The only thing that saved me, was being able to tell her equalling resolutely that we absolutely were not!
Her next approach was a hard-press for external version of the second twin after the first was delivered. We also did not agree with this. I was finding her attacks ("You're making poor choices for your baby".) very hard to fend-off in the last minutes of labour, but in the end, we didn't do an external version, either.
Twin B slipped out as effortlessly as any babe can, 17 minutes after his brother.
What was unusual about his birth is that he was born in the caul. He squirmed immediately and cried right away when the sac broke open.
I tell this story because we were continually told that this just couldn't be done. Twin B was a double footling-breech. I was "this" close to having a completely unnecessary surgery
in the hospital I delivered at, or a traumatic breech extraction at the hospital I'd planned to birth in. We are not planning to have more children. But after this experience, if I did become pregnant again, I think my birth plan would consist only of a large "NO!" emblazoned on my forehead in permanent marker - both during pre-natal appointments and at the delivery.
I hope my experience is useful to your original inquiry because I am in the unusual position of having refused a c-section that the doctor demanded. I'm not left feeling that my c-section was unnecessary. I refused it and SAW
that it would have been completely unnecessary.
The babies and I were A-1, which is a LOT better off than would have been the case with any of the birthing strategies approved of by the doctors. This is, of course, pretty high-stakes in trying to determine whether your instincts and your research are right, or the doctor is right. It's excruciating to be weighing it all and not wanting to be "right" for the sake of being right, but for the sake of mom and babies having the best birth possible (for physical & mental well-being).