I can't believe I am here :(

[KLK7]

In another DDC. It seems like just yesterday I was in my first DDC. My daughter turns 20 months on Friday. We weren't sure if we wanted any more children at all. And if we did, we wanted them 4-5 years apart.

I am feeling very ambivalent about this pregnancy and worried about taking care of 2 DC so close in age (they will be 28 months apart).

[crystalalene]

Don't worry about it. The hardest part is now, when you are so tired and have to chase a 20 mo. But, my daughter is almost 28 months and she is so ready for a sibling. It will be okay because the difference in age will be huge.
We had been hoping for sooner but she's going to be nearly three at this point. There's always a reason, even if you don't know what it is yet

[kirk_heidi]

My oldest 2 are 27 months apart and it was fine. Like the other person said, I think now is the hardest time. My 3 year old and my twins were supposed to be 27 months apart but they are actually 26 months apart and that was hard but they were twins. It still wasn't unmanageable though. Now the difference between my twins and my newest will be about 26 months apart too. Just try to remember that as they get older it does get easier.

[Mama2 '05'06]

My dd and ds are 14 months apart. Ds and the new baby will be about 17 months apart. You'll manage

[mommy2AandZ]

Originally Posted by KLK7

I am feeling very ambivalent about this pregnancy and worried about taking care of 2 DC so close in age (they will be 28 months apart).

I obviously don't belong here, but wanted to give you some support. When I was pregnant with Autumn, the pregnancy seemed like it wasn't "important".... I mean of COURSE it was improtant, and I loved the new baby growing inside me, but in the mix of things (having a toddler younger than 2) it seemed I wasn't as "attached" to the pregnancy as I was my first pregnancy. BUT with time, and once I felt her kick inside I became more attached and it then just felt so natural and I loved being pg.
Anyhow, mine are 27 months apart...... so I am where you will be in a couple years. You can do it! I had a harder time with the tiredness part of pregnancy than actually taking care of two. Your love will multiply....... and you won't be able to imagine your life without your new baby.

[Ackray]

You'll be fine! My 1st and 2nd are 14 months appart, and my 2nd and 3rd are 16 months appart. I love it.

Take care of yourself.

[MamaVolpe]

Just to give you a different perspective, I am now 30, my older sister is 18 months older and my younger sister is 23 months younger, and growing up I thought it was great! Since we were all so close in age we shared each others cloths could hang out and do the same stuff at around the same time together. It was like having two best friends that I lived with and got to hang with all the time. I loved it and my sisters and I are still close and we both chat it up here on MDC together.

[weliveintheforest]

I feel similarly Karen.
This preganancy was certainly not unwanted, but the original plan had been to wait another year. I go from being excited one minute to wishing I had waited the next :

[molive]

I feel the same too. DD is 20 months and DH and I had discussed having more, it just didn't seem like we meant right now. Also, I'm an actor and after a 2 year hiatus I just finished my first show...and now I'm pregnant again!?!
I think we just need a little bit of time with our new tiny babys and soon we won't be able to imagine the ambivalence of right now. Furthermore, and I think many people will agree with me, this not the most fun part of pregnancy. I think when I really start to feel pregnant, I'll feel more of a connection to the baby and be sublimely happy.

[Quindin]

My 2 oldest are only 15 months apart -- it was great. Ok, ok... the beginning was kinda crazy and went by like a blur Soon however, the benefits of having 2 children so close in age started to show: they have always played wonderfully together and have always been best friends.

What I am trying to say is that even though you may think the prospects of 2 children close in age is scary, yours won't be THAT close in age, and one can't assume what it will be like

[GearGirl]

I don't know if this will help or not, but my kids are 2 years and 9 months apart, and going from 2-3 was nothing compared to going from 0-1. It barely changed anything for me, and I am certain that it has actually made the toddler/pre-school years easier with my second because they can play together and they enjoy many of the same pretend games.