My daughter is 15.5 months old.
We just finally have broken a 7 week cycle of illness and teething, teething and illness. She has actually been very, very good this entire weekend. I want to have a party and knock on a lot of wood.
Oh and my husband is going in for his vasectomy next week. No, not looking forward to the carefree sex at all....
*Maybe keeping her in that bubble helps....*
PLEASE share your DH's vasectomy experience. I think it's related to this forum, since you gotta do something if you want an only! My DH is looking at the end of the month for his.
DS is 11mo.
So, some of the other reasons we are considering (95%sure) only one:
I was never one of those girls who always dreamt of the husband and house and tons of kids. I never dreamt of the wedding. I just kind of did my thing. When DH and I were togerther for 6 years we were having some wine and thought "should we get married?". At the wedding thoughts of kids didnt even enter our mind. We bought a house and I was 30 and it felt like maybe something was missing, so we got a dog. A few years later, we thought, maybe we should have a baby. One week of unprotected sex and the decision was made
Neither of us come from big families with lots of babies around. We have been basically flying by the seat of our pants. I think I am a good Mom and DH is great but its not completely natural to us. We dont know if we really could handle another. DS seems a bit sensitive and we worry that a sibling could bully him or take away that extra attention that he needs and craves. DS loves to be held and always wants our attention. The second night in the hospital he needed to be held all night. I was so exhausted that I sent him to the nursery for a few hours in between feedings (which I regre , and the nurse told me that he had to be held the whole time. His first night home I sat up holding him all night (this is before I figured out cosleeping ). I finally figured he was only happy being held and began to baby wear and co-sleep. Still at 11 months there are times in the day where he plays for a minute then just literally crawls all over me asking to be held and how could I say no? Now, I dont know if this means he is sensitive and will continue to be but for me it means he needs me, a lot of me.
Also, and I don't want to offend anyone with this so please don't take this the wrong way. I suffer from basic anxiety and while pregnant I was very, very anxious about the health of the baby. I stressed so much about whether or not the baby would be healthy because I honestly dont feel that I could handle it other wise. The anxiety, while unwarranted was real and put a real strain on DH and took away from the joy of a very normal and healthy pregnancy. The anxiety didnt go away for about 2 months after DS was born. I dont know if I could go through that again. It was really bad.
Most of all, this just feels right! Yesterday DH and heard a song we loved and were dancing and Ben looked up and smiled. We picked him up and danced with him. He was so happy. It just felt so great and there was NOTHING missing. It felt so complete
Another close in age baby...cool. You sound like us. I was like, um honey I'm 33. I think we oughta think about this baby thing.
I'm not sure why you thought others would be offended about your anxiety. It can be a serious and life-changing medical disorder, which often requires treatment and/or counseling. (Can you tell I've worked in the mental health field??) I know constant anxiousness can be debilitating and even life threatening when it leads to panic attacks etc... I'm so glad to hear it has resolved.
Glad you had a nice weekend!