Along similar lines-- has your child being an only affected the choices you make as a family about where to live, whether you move frequently, etc.? My dh has a fairly intense career and will be finishing a residency next summer, and we're in the stage of waiting to find out if there will be a permanent position here when he finishes. Depending on the job market in his field, we could be able to be someplace for the next 10-15 years, or we could end up having to take a less desirable position for a yearor two and then potentially moving again when a better one opens up. Our dd is only 4 and makes friends very easily, but these attachments also seem to be fairly deep. I'd love for her to have very close lifelong friends, and I worry about the effect on her psychologically and socially if we were to end up moving in another year, and then again a couple of years later. At the same time, dh being happy and successful in his career (and, soon, me too!) is something that's going to be good for all of us as well. We're definitely keeping it all in mind and trying to be balanced as we make these decisions, but it can be tough.
post #1441 of 1645
5/12/10 at 10:13am