I am not sure how active this thread is but thought I'd jump in too. I was a "no kids" person for most of my life and then we had DS when I was 38. Having him was a decision we agonized about, not being people who were "drawn" to parenting- what if it was awful, what if something was wrong with him, etc. Pregnancy was fine, but I hated the infant stuff and the beginning was so awful I thought I was going to have to go into the loony bin, but like the others have said I think we hit our stride at 18mo or so and now that he is 22mo I can imagine doing it again. I keep thinking, it is not something I want but that DS would benefit and it would have to suck less than last time (right?) b/c we had learned things. So I waffle. I think- it would be unimaginably horrible, and then I think it would be lovely and awesome. How to decide? I thought we were "one and done" . . . and the biological clock has ticked it's last breath, so I really need to figure this out NOW. I keep thinking that my head knows this is the wrong choice, but my heart is telling me to have another.
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6/11/10 at 4:02pm