On the other topic, my MIL is now saying I "owe" her a grandSON. Not just another grandCHILD. Nope. A grandSON. I guess she thinks you can custom order them now. : She's on my hit list for other reasons...mainly smacking my daughter (all of 12 mos old), so, if she thinks she's getting another grandchild (excuse me...a grandSON) out of me, she's got another thing coming. I know it's snarky, but I can NOT wait to announce to her, some day soon, in person, hopefully, that DH got the old snip-snip.
I did have a positive only experience on Tuesday. DD and I went to a living history place, and the older woman (50s? 60s?) at the desk asked how old she was, was she my first, were we having any more, etc. And I said, "Nope, she's our first, and we don't plan on having any more", and she said, totally sincerely, as far as I can tell, "Oh, isn't she lucky? Such a precious baby, and she'll get you all to herself and you'll get to enjoy every minute."
Maybe she can be my MIL?
Yes, I'm feeling snarky tonight.
I (sort-of) recall the thread about your MIL and the smacking. Yikes. That might be a deal-breaker for me. Hopefully, you've layed out your ground rules really, REALLY clearly now. And asking for a specific sex of grandchild? That's kind of sick. How bout' a healthy one...let's start there maybe. Ugh.
You must have the patience of Job. (Sorry for the Bible quote...you'll notice I post in the Atheist Tribe too )
See my MIL has to deal with our wanting an only, lack of religion and general nonconformity. (Although she was pretty cool with my delayed/non vaxing plan)
I think your positive experience was genuine. There actually are people in this world who respect others' decisions. I know, they are few and far between...but they're there if you look really hard! You talk to Living History Lady and I talk to Starbuck's Lady.