Have you told your other kids?

[lesliesara63]

My dd is four years old and asks when she is getting a baby sister all the time. Its been a long wait for us and I'm reluctant to tell her too soon. The fear of miscarriage is too strong & she is so smart. The problem is that my friend is due the same week as I am. Her kids go to the same HDC as dd and she has already told her 4.5 & 2 yr old dd's. I'm just worried that it will be upsetting to her & maybe I should just tell her.

[kirk_heidi]

We always tell our kids right away but we haven't had to deal with miscarriages so I don't know how I would react if that were the case. You should do what you think is right for her regardless of what your friend is doing. You know her better than anyone else so only you will know if it might upset her.

[tripleblessed]

My triplets are 4 years old and we're waiting until Wed. at our ultrasound to make sure all is okay....we had a m/c and never told the boys about that pregnancy and I'm so glad I didn't...I can't imagine explaining that to a 4 year old....DH and I are busting at the seems though to tell them Wed.! **Oh..and the other big reason we're waiting to tell them is because once they know they'll be telling everyone and we havn't told anyone yet for fear of m/c.

Karen

[lesliesara63]

DD is at the sitters today with those two little girls. Hopefully her friend will be so busy playing she won't even think about it. DD is so obsessed with having a "baby sister" it doesn't really matter how often we tell her that "God will tell us when its time" or that she could get a brother. Today she told me that I was really lucky God gave me a baby girl. Of course I told her that I was lucky because she is such a great kid, but I don't know where this gender obsession comes from. I am leaning towards telling her on Tuesday after the u/s so we'll see.

[weliveintheforest]

M dd is only 19 months so I haven't told her yet - she wouldn't understand so it's not really a big deal anyway. I'll probably start talking about the baby to her when I am anout 4 or 5 months and really showing.

It would be harder with older dc! I'd want to tell them, but also want to protect them for the first couple of months.

[Softheart]

I haven't told my 6 year old--I'm too nervous! I SO want her to be excited...but she's been an only for so long...Any ideas on how to help get her positive/excited? She's said a few mildly interested in babies comments, bet never begged or anything....

[~MoonGypsy~]

My DS is 18 months and I'm not sure he'd handle the concept yet. Once I get farther along and he gets a little older we'll explain it to him.

You should do what you feel is right for your DD. Even if you wait until your in your second tri it sounds like she'll still be super excited

[boobs4milk]

we haven't told anyone yet...no one was overly excited about baby #6 (i have 2 step-sons), so i can just imagine their reactions to #7:

[look11]

I haven't told my almost-4-year-old yet because I had 2 mc's this year. With the first one, we'd told my daughter and then had to tell her the baby died. I don't want to have to go through that again. Plus, she would spill the beans to everyone. I'm actually telling friends and family already, but not in-laws. It was very lonely going through those other mc's and this time I'm hoping for more support by keeping people informed.

[Mewsin]

I haven't told my 4 year old yet because I'm afraid she'll tell my grandmother.

My Grandmother is pushy, overbearing, and rude. She thinks that having more than 2 children is horrible and awful, and isn't afraid to tell me. After I had Chez and during the phone call to let her know that I had her, she said to me, now make sure you don't have anymore of those monsters. I was livid and hung up on her. So she doesn't deserve to know my good news.

[boobs4milk]

Originally Posted by Mewsin

I haven't told my 4 year old yet because I'm afraid she'll tell my grandmother.

My Grandmother is pushy, overbearing, and rude. She thinks that having more than 2 children is horrible and awful, and isn't afraid to tell me. After I had Chez and during the phone call to let her know that I had her, she said to me, now make sure you don't have anymore of those monsters. I was livid and hung up on her. So she doesn't deserve to know my good news.

sounds like my family...i say they can all flip off! we are happy to have a whole bus load of kids!

[Nitenites]

Originally Posted by Mewsin

My Grandmother is pushy, overbearing, and rude. She thinks that having more than 2 children is horrible and awful, and isn't afraid to tell me. After I had Chez and during the phone call to let her know that I had her, she said to me, now make sure you don't have anymore of those monsters. I was livid and hung up on her. So she doesn't deserve to know my good news.

We must be related! My family is the same way. My mother actually said that when I have the next one she's leaving town. Gee, Mom, don't let the door hit ya! Not like I ever ask her to babysit, anyway. I only told her the first time I was pregnant and got a very nasty response. I let my sister tell her about #2 & #3, and that's probably what I'll do this time, too.

My in-laws are very excited, though. My MIL welcomes every grandchild like it's her first one. I'm very thankful that the boys have at least one grandparent that likes them!

BTW, I have told my sons. They're 6 1/2, 4, and 17 months.