I think you may have misread the conversation here - or you are being deliberately obtuse and offensive.
This is what is so aggravating with these dicussion - there are always some "participants" that misconstrue events and end up sounding like sanctimonius PITAs. I own the Catechism and have 16 years of Catholic education under my belt - that incudes 4 years at a Jesuit University. While I may not be a professional theologian, I am very well acquainted with Catholic dogma and doctrine. And I *still* disagree with some of it. So, you can quit with the pearl clutching and deal with the fact that not every Catholic falls in lockstep with Rome.
Seriously, I hope some of you are not in ministry because I would hate for a person, struggling with their faith, to come across some of the attitudes I've seen in here.
An unexamined faith is not worth practicing.
As for being sanctimonious, I am not sure if this was directed at me or not, but I will address it anyway. The definition of sanctimonious is to be hypocritically pious or devout. There is nothing in my post that is in any way hypocritical and since you do not know me in real life, I am not sure you are able to make the decision as to whether or not I am. I am Catholic, I follow all the teachings of the Church with great joy, I do not see how this is hypocritical. In that same vein, I am not sure you are able to determine who here lives an examined faith life or not. I spend more time thinking, talking, and practicing my faith than I do anything else, fwiw.
As for Catholics not falling in lockstep with Rome, this is something that has always been curious to me. I do not understand why someone would want to label themselves "Catholic" if they do not believe in what the Church teaches. I would think that when someone does not believe in some entity, like the Church, they would not want to be associated with it. For example, I have alot of admiration for the Orthodox Jews. There is a sizeable community in my neighborhood. I think their sense of community and family life are beautiful. Also, since we both have the Old Testament in common I do have alot of beliefs in common with them. But, they do not believe that Jesus is the Messiah, so I would not want to call myself a Jew as I do not hold one of their core beliefs. Abortion and contraception are biggies in the Church and I think it would be very hard to want to be labeled Catholic if I disagreed with the Church on these points.
I do not think that name calling has any place in a discussion, especially one between adults, therefore, I will not be posting in this thread anymore. If anyone wishes to discuss this with me further please pm me, but I will not be answering any pms that are nasty.