Originally Posted by KnitterMama
Oh man, you just described DH's dream!
Unfortunately for him, when we can afford a house we're planning to buy one here in upstate NY (Ithaca area). We may live elsewhere for a few years, just to get the experience - likely Germany, not Turkey. DH doesn't want DS in the schools in Turkey (he's atheist, so the Muslim culture doesn't fly with him).
We're also looking at having an elderly Turkish relative come to live with us at some point (DH's Mom), much farther down the road. Is your MIL nervous about the change? Is she going to drive you nuts? Are you building a guest house out back?
Also, would you mind if I picked your brain about some Muslim questions?
I can do it PM so I don't derail your thread.
Feel free to PM me at any time or ask questions publicly. Doesn't matter a hoot to me, I don't care if threads are derailed at all.
MIL lived in the US for about 15 years, but came back to Istanbul about 20 years ago. Most of her friends have passed away, I think she only has 2 or 3 left. That was the biggest sticking point for her leaving. She may drive me nuts, I don't know. She did when we lived with her, but it'll be slightly different if she is living with us (semantics, maybe?). It's a turf thing. Plus now there's a grandbaby in the picture and that tends to make everything better.
The religion issues is the least of your DH's worries when it comes to school. Kids can opt out of religion class. It's the lack of independent thought that astounds me. "Learning" is by rote memorization and ridiculous amounts of copying busywork. My daughter goes to an internation school and that's only a little better. The academics are a sham, it's basically a high-priced babysitting service for spoiled rich kids (which my daughter really isn't!).
And just to prove what a small world it is--I lived in Cobleskill for a brief time when I was about 5 years old.
Jokerama--Orlando is still far too close to my family. Anywhere they can drive to in less than a day is too close, which is why Atlanta is also out. I could make an exception for Athens, on the offchance of running into Michael Stipe or Kate Pearson visiting home. (dating myself a little?)
I think we drove through Patterson last summer. Obviously it didn't make a huge impression on me, but I was newly pregnant at the time, so not much actually got through the fog anyway.
Keep the suggestions coming!