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post #21 of 32
Hmmm, I think the only thing in common between PNW and Istanbul is latitude. Having lived in both places, the climate is not similar. I think Istanbul is closer to the mid-Atlantic states, maybe between DC and NYC.

There's a mini-Istanbul in Paterson, New Jersey.

The western suburbs of Detroit, MI also has a very active Turkish community.

There's a somewhat dispersed community here in Columbus, OH -- I hear Turkish spoken on the street somewhat frequently, but it appears to be a very young population.
post #22 of 32
Atlanta has a large, multicultural population, although I'm not sure about Turkish. Probably, though, as I meet folks from all over on a regular basis.

Lake Lanier (just north of the city), Lake Hartwell (farther north), Lake Thurmond (farther northeast), Lake Sinclair/Oconee (two lakes, joining into one really big lake, to the east of Atlanta, near Greensboro) are all nearby.

We have really mild weather (as in, dh and I complain that it never really gets cold ), and parts of Atlanta are really affordable.
post #23 of 32
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Originally Posted by KnitterMama View Post
Oh man, you just described DH's dream! Unfortunately for him, when we can afford a house we're planning to buy one here in upstate NY (Ithaca area). We may live elsewhere for a few years, just to get the experience - likely Germany, not Turkey. DH doesn't want DS in the schools in Turkey (he's atheist, so the Muslim culture doesn't fly with him).

We're also looking at having an elderly Turkish relative come to live with us at some point (DH's Mom), much farther down the road. Is your MIL nervous about the change? Is she going to drive you nuts? Are you building a guest house out back?

Also, would you mind if I picked your brain about some Muslim questions? I can do it PM so I don't derail your thread.
Hey, KM--

Feel free to PM me at any time or ask questions publicly. Doesn't matter a hoot to me, I don't care if threads are derailed at all.

MIL lived in the US for about 15 years, but came back to Istanbul about 20 years ago. Most of her friends have passed away, I think she only has 2 or 3 left. That was the biggest sticking point for her leaving. She may drive me nuts, I don't know. She did when we lived with her, but it'll be slightly different if she is living with us (semantics, maybe?). It's a turf thing. Plus now there's a grandbaby in the picture and that tends to make everything better.

The religion issues is the least of your DH's worries when it comes to school. Kids can opt out of religion class. It's the lack of independent thought that astounds me. "Learning" is by rote memorization and ridiculous amounts of copying busywork. My daughter goes to an internation school and that's only a little better. The academics are a sham, it's basically a high-priced babysitting service for spoiled rich kids (which my daughter really isn't!).

And just to prove what a small world it is--I lived in Cobleskill for a brief time when I was about 5 years old.

Jokerama--Orlando is still far too close to my family. Anywhere they can drive to in less than a day is too close, which is why Atlanta is also out. I could make an exception for Athens, on the offchance of running into Michael Stipe or Kate Pearson visiting home. (dating myself a little?):

I think we drove through Patterson last summer. Obviously it didn't make a huge impression on me, but I was newly pregnant at the time, so not much actually got through the fog anyway.

Keep the suggestions coming!
post #24 of 32
Houston has this AWESOME halal market called Phoenecia. I think there is quite a large Muslim community here.

Housing is very very reasonably priced. For under a million you could live almost anywhere.

After Katrina, not so sure Houston became a refugee center. Not even sure what that means. There were a lot of scary things said in the media, and a lot of hate-mongering about "other" and "poor" people coming here. Most if not all of that later proved unfounded. There are still a lot of families needing social services here because of Katrina BUT unless you are planning to move here and use social services or certain public schools (there are private religious schools)...it probably won't be an issue.

It certainly doesn't seem more crowded than it was before.

Now there are those huge roaches and the weather in the summer is horrid, but you would never have to worry about snow.

www.houstonitsworthit.com is pretty hilarious.
post #25 of 32
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. I could make an exception for Athens, on the offchance of running into Michael Stipe or Kate Pearson visiting home. (dating myself a little?):
We ate lunch in Athens Saturday at a cute little place called Mama's Boy. Michael Stipe was at the next table. We had the baby with us, and he was flirting with a few of the women at the table, so I even had a good excuse to turn around and speak to him.
post #26 of 32
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Hey, KM--

Feel free to PM me at any time or ask questions publicly. Doesn't matter a hoot to me, I don't care if threads are derailed at all.

MIL lived in the US for about 15 years, but came back to Istanbul about 20 years ago. Most of her friends have passed away, I think she only has 2 or 3 left. That was the biggest sticking point for her leaving. She may drive me nuts, I don't know. She did when we lived with her, but it'll be slightly different if she is living with us (semantics, maybe?). It's a turf thing. Plus now there's a grandbaby in the picture and that tends to make everything better.
For both our sake, I hope you're right.

I kid! I kid! I think it would be wonderful to have a member of the family from the older generation living in the home with the family. Right now DS gets a lot of exposure to the older generation because his daycare is in the CCRC (Continuing Care Retirement Community) where I work right now. They do crafts and activities (sing-a-longs! Wish I could go! ) with the residents. It's great for all. My DH mentioned that he feels MIL would not have a difficult time moving to the US eventually, because it's a "home is where the family is" kinda thing for her. It's all about DS (and future grandbabies ).
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The religion issues is the least of your DH's worries when it comes to school. Kids can opt out of religion class. It's the lack of independent thought that astounds me. "Learning" is by rote memorization and ridiculous amounts of copying busywork. My daughter goes to an internation school and that's only a little better. The academics are a sham, it's basically a high-priced babysitting service for spoiled rich kids (which my daughter really isn't!).
Yeah, DH has a lot of similar experiences. Additionally, he shared some choice stories about teachers employing physical punishment (slapping, hitting with rulers, etc). DH is only 30, but I would hope a lot of that has changed since then.
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And just to prove what a small world it is--I lived in Cobleskill for a brief time when I was about 5 years old.
Cool!
post #27 of 32
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I was going to say East Bay Area, Northern California. VERY multicultural, lots of Muslims, and fairly affordable in the East Bay. You can get a pretty nice house in Fremont, Concord, Danville, Walnut Creek area. It can get hot in the summer, but the weather is pretty nice year round. Plus you are a step away from San Francisco, the ocean and there's tons to do!
This sounds so good, I may want to change coasts!
post #28 of 32
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We ate lunch in Athens Saturday at a cute little place called Mama's Boy. Michael Stipe was at the next table. We had the baby with us, and he was flirting with a few of the women at the table, so I even had a good excuse to turn around and speak to him.


(That's me--green with jealousy!)
post #29 of 32
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We're trying to figure out where we should settle down too. Our req's are similar Turkish Kate. Except we are looking for a place with a large Indian population and Hindu community. So basically a multicultural place. Dh definately wants to live somewhere warm and near water, preferably a beach, where the cost of living is reasonable.

I would love love love to move to Cali but the COL is what disappoints us.

Dh likes Florida, but I can't stand the humidity.

Keep the ideas coming!
post #30 of 32
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Maybe we can convince the men and we can co-op and all move in together? LOL . . . . sort of.
post #31 of 32
I'm a Houstonian. We have mild winters, glorious 75 degree springs and falls, and hot, hot, burning hot summers. We have a big Muslim population and a very low cost of living. The traffic is terrible and public transportation is a joke. It's not the prettiest city by any stretch of the imagination, but the people are friendly. Galveston beach is right down the road. You've also got Clear Lake and Lake Conroe for sailing. This place is huge, and each area has a different personality. You'd have to investigate the areas you are interested in to see if the neighborhood would be a good fit for you. Half of the restaurants here serve Mexican food (only a slight exaggeration).

Austin is gorgeous, and a boater's paradise. They're much more hip than we are. I think it's a bit more expensive to live there. I don't know about the Muslim or Turkish population. The weather is about the same as Houston.
post #32 of 32
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Thanks for the suggestions, I was beginning to think we weren't going to have a response.

I would love Houston, and we actually considered moving there before Katrina hit and turned it into a refugee center. What's it like now?
I live in the second largest Texas refugee center (San Antonio), and the largest impact seems to be on our cuisine . I'm sure there is more, but not big enough to make the news in a negative way.
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