I made a vow that I would never speak badly to my children about their father. They've never heard me say a bad thing about him, and I've always kept my opinion of him to myself. This morning though, I got to read in the paper about his sentencing for his second DUI (I didn't know he'd had a second one, but apparently he did last summer). This time he will be losing his license and will do jail time. The first time was just about a month before he left us. The kids and I had to pick him up at the police station, but they were only told that he had been in an accident (which was the truth - they were 9, 5 and three months at the time, so the limited information made sense). Now my oldest is thirteen, and I'm just afraid that if I don't tell her someone else will, and she will not only be caught off-guard, but she will feel like I'm keeping things from her. I want to sit her down later today and tell her, matter of factly, that daddy did something wrong and will have to face the consequences for that. Obviously I won't be telling the little one (she's four) and I'm not sure what, if anything I should tell my son. Honestly, this will affect them very little, because daddy isn't a great prescence in their lives, and they often go a month or so without seeing him anyway. Anyone have any advice for how I should handle this, other than talking to my thirteen year old about it, keeping it truthful but matter of fact, and keeping my anger/sadness/disappointment to myself? Thanks.
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4/15/07 at 1:44pm