My daughter will be five in May and is struggling. My father in law died last week, my grandmother six months ago, and the child of a dear friend died two years ago. Abby has been more exposed to death and grief, and to seeing her parents grieve, than most children probably have had to face at this point. She's having a hard time. Mostly she seems very fragile-- tantruming easily, backtalking, arguing about everything. But she also is expressing a fair amount of anxiety at the thought of being separated from us in death. She has said several times that she hopes we'll all die together.
It's hard to watch her sadness, although I'm not at all trying to talk her out of feeling that way. It's VERY hard to be on the receiving end of the shouting and snotty behavior. I need some book recommendations and suggestions for helping her cope with her grief without simultaneously running us all into the ground.
It's hard to watch her sadness, although I'm not at all trying to talk her out of feeling that way. It's VERY hard to be on the receiving end of the shouting and snotty behavior. I need some book recommendations and suggestions for helping her cope with her grief without simultaneously running us all into the ground.
goes out to you and your family. My ds has also experienced multiple losses and it is so painful to watch your child deep in grief. Here are a couple of websites that might be helpful: 
It is so hard to watch our little ones struggling. We had a long string of losses and it is so hard to know what to do to help them. My dd's reaction was different in that I wasn't sure how she was dealing with all of the sadness and I was more worried that she was internalizing everything while we were right in the middle of our own grief as well. I am so sorry for your losses.
