I'm so LAZY! A RANT

[herbmama3-7]

I can't seem to muster up the gusto get my house in order. I just have the energy to do what I have to and then thats it. I don't know why, but had major nesting with ds and NONE this time around, WTF? I can't stand my house it is soo gross, but I just can't seem to want to do anything. I feel like I am soooo big and can't stand picking up toys that will get thrown on the floor in 10 mins again. We are actually moving in 2 weeks, so I guess I feel like I will have to mop then, why do it now?KWIM, please tell me you KWIM. Anyway is anyone out there feeling a lack of nesting and hating it? This is so not like me, I hate having a dirty home, it is driving me bananas!! :

[Ks Mama]

It comes & goes in spurts for me... one day I'm on my hands & knees wiping the floor, the next I am trying to get all games played from the couch.

One thing that really, really, really, really has helped me since DD's birth, was hiring a cleaning crew that comes in once a month - they do all the really big stuff - floors, baseboards, blinds, scouring the tub, stove, etc. as well as general all-around cleaning... so I don't worry about that stuff so much the rest of the month. It's not that much for one visit, and its made such a difference for me... for everyone in our home! Maybe you can consider it as a pregnancy gift to yourself?

Also, I have found that taking a QUICK shower in the afternoon helps lift my mood & get me motivated, as well as putting on music. DD always wants to dance when I put on music... and you certainly can't feel down or like not doing anything when you have a 2 year old asking to dance!

Finally, have you tried making a list each morning - a REALISTIC list, like 4 or 5 things to do - three of which are things you NEED to do, and 1 or 2 things you'd LIKE to get done? If its a nice short list, it makes it much easier to get through it, and seeing things crossed off my list always makes me feel better.

Hang in there... not too much farther to go!

[willoLevin]

If it helps, that's exactly how I was during my first pg. I never felt ANY of that "nesting" urge others talked about.

Is it possible you really want to be doing a different project? I think I am only energized to do stuff this time because I am finally getting the kitchen remodel I've dreamt of since we moved into our home in 2001!

If I had to move, I think I'd be lazy, too, and calling full-service moving companies.

--willo

[saratchka]

I nested like a fiend last time, but much less now. I have no less desire to get things done, but running around after DD takes enough energy that I can't seem to all the housework that's looming over me.

It would be hard if I were about to move, though. That's always a frustrating time in terms of housekeeping for me.

[wombatclay]

I've got a funny mix between "lazy butt" and "nesting maniac". Basically, my hormones want all these nesting style projects DONE. But my energy levels and the reality of WOH and a toddler and belly bean's current use of my cervix as a trampoline when I move to fast means I don't want to DO any of those jobs.

I just want to wake up int he morning and find them done.

[awallrising]

So you must be packing? How can you nest when you are moving? Take it easy on yourself. Moving sounds pretty stressful at this point. Sometimes feeling overwhelmed can activate feelings of inertia. Plus you are PG & it's hard to bend over, you get breathless easily, are tired all the time, etc. It's a full-time job growing a baby.

Like wombatclay, I vacillate between nesting & inertia. Although I'm definitely feeling the nesting urge, I still cannot keep our house in order. I feel like a major failure at times.....I don't work & have no kids yet (well, I have 4 fur babies that deposit hair everywhere). Sometimes, I have dishes in the sink, unfolded laundry, etc. and feel utterly exhausted & amotivated. I have gotten some stuff accomplished, but it's never enough. If I work on "nesting" stuff, I can't get the house basics in order.

If you can afford it, hire a house cleaner. Although it wasn't originally in our budget, I'm having someone come in at least once a month. There is no way I can manage everything myself & no one else can do the nesting stuff for you.

Again, take it easy on yourself. You need to move before you can even focus on nesting.

Good luck!

-Amy

[scrappingmom]

I know EXACTLY how you feel! Infact I think I said in so many words.. almsot word for word... what you did in your post just yesterday...

Those toys can just stay out.. those are teh ones played with most and we're moving in two weeks.. theres no point and we have to scrub down the place then anyway! Kids thought that planned work... but then i sent them to their rooms to pack their toys...lol

We are also moving in two weeks so I totally get that feeling! I"m MENTALLY having the nesting urge... but as mentioned.. how can you nest while in the mids of moving? We're moving from a large 6brm farm house to a tiny 3brm trailer(where we'll be camping for the summer without running water or much electricity.....) So i have to think out every single item to think if we need it or not... and guess what to take for a baby who wouldnt show what it is(The one time I "needed" to know..go figure! )

Hang in there!... we can hold on together!!!! Just tell yourself theres at least 1 other mom feeling EXACTLY the same! Does the need to do sssooooo much make you feel even lazier??? it does to me

[sebarnes]

Originally Posted by wombatclay

I've got a funny mix between "lazy butt" and "nesting maniac". Basically, my hormones want all these nesting style projects DONE. But my energy levels and the reality of WOH and a toddler and belly bean's current use of my cervix as a trampoline when I move to fast means I don't want to DO any of those jobs.

I just want to wake up int he morning and find them done.

Amen! This is EXACTLY how I feel!

[herbmama3-7]

Originally Posted by scrappingmom

Hang in there!... we can hold on together!!!! Just tell yourself theres at least 1 other mom feeling EXACTLY the same! Does the need to do sssooooo much make you feel even lazier??? it does to me

YES!!!!

It makes me feel much better that I am not alone. I think you said it right when you are mentally wanting to nest, but can't "really" do it until the move is done. I think I just have to have patience, which in my humble opinion is very hard to have in pregnancy! I am not patient when I am pregnant!
Good luck scrappingmom on your move, that sounds like a huge move that could take some getting used to. Hang in there!

[Marvelleaux]

I've been peeking at this post but have been too LAZY and UNMOTIVATED to write my complaints out the way I want to!

[Jilian]

Originally Posted by Marvelleaux

I've been peeking at this post but have been too LAZY and UNMOTIVATED to write my complaints out the way I want to!

I go from being lazy to frantically nesting. Then I always regret the nesting because it makes me even more tired.

[willoLevin]

I'm home from work and I really, really MUST get the rest of the kitchen cleared out, but all I can think of is having a little rest on the couch. My sink could be disconnected as soon as tomorrow morning, and I have on other water source on our main floor, so if i don't get every dish we use today washed, I'll be doing it in the bathtub tomorrow. Talk about motivation! Yuck.

--willo

[herbmama3-7]

Just a thought, I remember in my last pregnancy, I had preterm labor and just before that happened I had a huge nesting urge, DS stayed in until full term, but I remember the same urge hitting right before he was actually due. So...maybe it is a good thing I am not nesting a lot, baby wants to stay in for the haul!

[torio]

herbmama,

I KWYM--I'm with you. And believe me, I'll bet my house could give yours a run for its money in the dirt contest. We do have 6 dogs so perhaps it's an unfair advantage.

Lucky for me DH seems to have started nesting. Yesterday he dusted, vacuumed and mopped all the floors. (I hadn't done any of that for at least 3 weeks... )

[StephNelson]

I feel all of you... We live out in the country in an OLD farm house, I used to dust and sweep everyday, now I am lucky to get it done like.... once a week...if...

I have 2 cats, 1 indoor dog, 10 goats with thier own dog and several other assorted critters mine or not that I feed.. The does are milked once a day and I also have to do that..soooo...:

Even though this is our first baby and I really really really want to get everything done and ready for him I seem to be going at it at a snails pace...

Lucky for me DH is a teacher and will be out of school for summer as of May 22nd and he will be able to help me get all the stuff done then that is not done...

Whew! I need a nap!