I am a loss mom (our triplet sons died shortly after birth) who has a newly adopted child (since 2/27). When our new son first came to us, as a loss mom I was so reluctant to let him out of my arms for even a second. Now--at 4 1/2 mo.--he is accustomed to falling asleep in my arms, with me bouncing him and shushing in his ear. Sometimes I have to bounce him and walk really fast back and forth to get him to relax.
I am unable to nurse as he was already 3 mo. old when we adopted him and very used to the bottle. I tried unsuccessfully with a lactaid, but that is another story for another day.
Sometimes if he is very very tired he will fall asleep with the bottle. But often--even after exhibiting strong sleep cues--he eats until he is full and then cries and cries until I do the bouncing and the shushing and the pacing. There is also a pacifier involved in this ritual which I am fine with, except that he is constantly spitting it out and then cries until I pick it up and put it back in his mouth. I am realizing that as he gets heavier, the entire sleep ritual is going to become harder and harder to do.
Any advice or experience, with or without an adopted child?
I am unable to nurse as he was already 3 mo. old when we adopted him and very used to the bottle. I tried unsuccessfully with a lactaid, but that is another story for another day.
Sometimes if he is very very tired he will fall asleep with the bottle. But often--even after exhibiting strong sleep cues--he eats until he is full and then cries and cries until I do the bouncing and the shushing and the pacing. There is also a pacifier involved in this ritual which I am fine with, except that he is constantly spitting it out and then cries until I pick it up and put it back in his mouth. I am realizing that as he gets heavier, the entire sleep ritual is going to become harder and harder to do.
Any advice or experience, with or without an adopted child?
