Yes, I agree with the "watch your baby, not the calendar" idea. I think new moms are so bombarded with old fashioned advice, it is a crime!
All babies should be weaned/sleep alone/sleep all night/talk/walk/potty train by x months or years.
What a a crock!
Every child has their own timetable. If you ap, you respect that. Forcing them to meet a new milestone when they are not ready will always backfire, sooner or later.
(Personal note: I was weaned from my bottle at about 1 yr. I secrectly sucked on a wet washcloth I would go get for myself after that. I guess my mom knew I did it for a while, then tried to shame me out of it, but I kept doing it til I was 5, when she caught me again [I can still remember the day!], and this time the shaming worked. So, I stopped sucking until I started sucking cigarettes [nicely modeled for me by her and Dad] at 16!)
And I am in the camp that says, babies should not hold their own bottles. Feeding is meant by God or Mother Nature, to be a bonding time with mom or trusted relative, not just about getting food in quickly and efficiently.
If a baby/toddler gets off the lap and starts dragging the bottle around from pillar to post, you are asking for bacterial growth in the milk.
Luxuriate in these blessed baby/breast/bottle days! They grow up all too fast.