I am AP but dd isn't?!?? is this possible?

[momof2princesses]

DD who is 15 1/2 months old...squirms, and sleeps restless all night when she is in the bed with dh and I. She has plenty of room, it is a king bed. She wants to be "attached" to the bo*b ALL NIGHT when she sleeps with us and we both get hot and sweaty and I lose sleep she is squirming around lossing sleep....when I put her on a little "bed" that I nmake in the floor for her (futon type) we sleep fine (all of us) I mean, she gets up to nurse and I nurse her back to sleep and them lay her down. The problem is ME!!!

I MISS HER!!! : I know it is no big deal and she is jsut right in the floor beside me but dd#1 snuggled with us until she was 3 and I feel she got full benefits of Cosleeping and she stopped when she wanted. But I feel a little bit disconnected to dd#2 partly b/c this cosleeping thing is not working...WHY?

Am I concerned over nothing?

[duckling]

I'm sorry you're missing your little one, mama.

Perhaps consider sidecarring a crib to your bed? That way, she's close enough to enjoy the benefits of the family bed while giving her enough space to sweat and squirm without keeping you awake all night. Also, she's at your level visually, as opposed to on the floor, so you can see her and maybe feel more connected.

Good luck!

[EviesMom]

I certainly don't think it means she's not AP just because she wants her own space when she's sleeping. It's just her personality. If you think her nursing or your smell might be rousing her prematurely, you could try putting her next to your dh and away from you. Or do a twin mattress next to your bed at the same height.

[L&IsMama]

Some kids *do* actually sleep better on their own. I do not,personally,have one of those children,but I hear it is common. I think she did actually get the benefits of co-sleeping. The fact that she is sleeping independently without any fuss shows she's pretty secure,yk? Plus,there's really no set amount of years that one must adhere to cosleeping to be "ap". Sounds like she's very secure and happy (even if it is in her own sleeping space),and really that's all that matters.

[Red Sonja]

Around 16 months my DS started wanting his own space to sleep. He had just night-weaned on his own (I was ~12 weeks pregnant with DD) and he became very restless in the family bed and didn't sleep well. He wanted to sleep completely sprawled out with nothing touching him. He started sleeping in his own bed and he slept great, I was the one the woke up several times a night to check on him. Just listen to her cues, she'll help you know what she wants.

[L&IsMama]

Originally Posted by Red Sonja

Around 16 months my DS started wanting his own space to sleep.

Lately my ds2 sometimes sleeps longer in his own space. But it's hit or miss as to how often it actually happens.

[greenmansions]

My DS has been in his own bed since he was about 14 months old or thereabouts. His choice. I went through withdrawal tho - I missed him. He did great, and still does, with regard to sleeping.

My DD I think will be in with me a long time, which DH isn't thrilled about...

[ejsmama]

My DS #1 moved into his on bed at around 8-9 months, and slept much better from then on. Even today, if we sleep together when he is sick or we are traveling, he is VERY restless (all over the bed). And is totally great when he has his own space.

[CallieA]

I had a similar situation with DD2. She slept with me as a newborn, but as soon as she became mobile, it was completely obvious she would sleep better in her own space - she was just restless and fussy. No fun! She slept in a Pack 'n' Play at the foot of our bed until she was about 12 months, when she moved into a crib in her own room. Slept SO MUCH better in her own space! She now (at 15 months) still comes into bed with me a couple mornings every week (around 4-5 am - YAWN!). But 95% of the time, she's in her own crib and sleeping reasonably well.

I co-slept with DD1 for 15+ months and it was fantastic. But DD2 just wasn't into it! I felt sad - I had really looked forward to having her sleep close to me for longer! But she definitely made her preferences known! And I totally believe what Dr. Sear says - something about the right sleeping situation is whatever allows EVERYONE in the family to get a decent nights sleep!

Good luck to you and your family in figuring out the right sleeping situation for you!