Ugh, yes to all of the above! I always laugh (bitterly) to myself on other boards when people are asking "is this a good list for my hospital bag?" Because I realize my only answer could be "All I had when I was admitted straight from the OB was my purse, and somehow I managed..." which really just doesn't take the conversation anywhere productive, ya know?
Which leads me to another "you know you're a preemie mama..." It's when you find yourself opening and closing reply windows on pregnancy boards, because you realize your experience just doesn't relate to the normal experience and isn't really helpful. All those "Can I eat lunchmeat?" posts are out of my league. If I say "Yeah, I ate lunchmeat and I was fine" who is going to accept that? Yeah, you ate lunchmeat and your babies were born at 29 friggin' weeks. Nevermind that the two are totally unrelated. I just feel like anything I could possibly weigh in on is warped, so it's not worth answering.
My mother asked me what outfit I wanted her to pack for the baby to come home.. Mind you I was only 27 weeks and at the hospital because my water had broken and had not even delivered yet.. She just did not understand that when he was born that he would not come home.
My bag that I packed for the baby to come home was ridiculous.. I mean.. who takes their baby straight from the NICU to somewhere that they will need 4 or 5 bottles and a million diapers??