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post #501 of 832
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Originally Posted by Unreal View Post
I think, and I promise I'm not trying to talk for you Jesse , that the problem is that they are giving what they can each week--so frequently the month's rent isn't paid until the end of the month.

Which at $5/day would be a heck of a lot of $$

Either way is pretty rotten though

getting closer to dh's job would be awesome tho
That's ok

I have decided, that although I personally feel like "we dont' deserve it" (I feel we DO deserve it but I mean in their eyes), I'm going to stand down the new late fee "offer"/order and ask to stick to the lease. Our lease is valid until the end of Sept. btw. What do I have to lose here but more money

Actually the underlined sums it up...we give what we can out of each paycheck (almost all of it) and the rent is not "paid in full" until the third or last week or the month and then we have to start all over again.

This is scary...if they turn us down about the lease, then we just can't afford this period and will have to leave, but to where? WIth what money saved up? All of our tax refund went to these guys already. I'd be loathed to ask to borrow money, from my dad, who'd be the only one who would let me borrow money - but I'd never hear the end of it and he himself just doled out for taxes so I know he's tight right now anyways. (cringe just thinking about it) I can't ask him. He helped me pay off my school loan when things were tight and he's sunk a couple thousand into our car for us so we'd have something reliable for transportation...if anything I'd ask him for money for the car repairs before it gets worse.

Kbecks has a point, it would be cheaper for us to talk them into the old terms than to sign and agree to the new ones. Maybe I'm totally pessimistic now adays, but it's like they know we will be chronically late now so they are just taking atvantage of that by coming up with "tough" late fees, in an "effort to get us to not be late". It really feels like we are being punished, and they would really rather us just leave. FTR, they really have gotten almost all of our money that we have made, almost as soon as we've made it, and honestly the whole "sick of chasing you down" bit shocked me because she does call a lot, however I have always called her back promptly, and I usually call right away as soon as I have money in my pocket that is substantial enough to be worth a trip over here to her.

I see no point in calling on a Tuesday to say "Well, you know payday is Friday, but I dont' know if Dh will have a chance to cash his check on that day, and maybe not on Saturday, but maybe he will, I don't know, he may have to work straight through until Sunday night and then I won't have the money until Monday afternoon." I don't like to call people and say "I don't know" - it's rather pointless to me.

Starting last Thursday the toddler got sick and by Sunday night everyone was sick and I was so tired I coudln't see straight and the other day that is what I get "sick of chasing you down!" on the evening that I myself got sick.

Well the only way we can make an effort of not being late is if they would stop cutting dh's hours at work : They schedule him overtime which would be wonderful but then they cut it b/c they have to worry about labor hours.

I did pick up a babysitting gig but I am not charging a lot of money at the moment. Two days into it (babysitting) and it hasn't been bad at all but when both twins are awake at the same time that gets pretty challenging, so I'm thinking of asking for 50 cents more hr/ until the mom gets things in order with DSS. The money I make will be extra to go towards bills, since we really haven't had much extra for bills at all. TBH most extra cash we have goes into the gas tank so dh can drive back and forth to work.

As it stands now, our phone/internet bill is going to be due again shortly, we owe about $240 to the electric/gas, the car still needs work and now it's "making a noise" as of last night, and I'm still dealing with collection calls for piddly debts (like, $40 and whatnot).
/vent

Oh, and I'm still finding that to move closer to where Dh works, the average rents for smaller places than we have now (not that I mind smaller, just to give an idea of how market rates are) are more expensive. We're in a rather cheap county, depending on what town you are in or if you are in a extremely rural setting, even cheaper...it's the case with the next county over where Dh works but the throwback to changing counties is to have to go through the whole DSS ordeals again.

We definately have to move from this house, that is for sure. We just can't keep up and the BILs aren't helping enough, even the ones that have made a consistant effort - they just dont' make enough.

After all of that and, ahem, certain other discussions here, I'm just totally bummed out that we can barely keep things going, and that has been with gov't help. I guess I should not let how other people feel affect how I feel, since it's really a reflection of how crappy I feel about our whole situation...wonder if that made sense.

Ok the kids need me.
post #502 of 832
No concrete advice but plenty of sympathy for your situation.
post #503 of 832
hrmmm

what if you found a more reliable roommate situation?
You are around enough colleges over there to maybe have a student for a roommate?

If you can find someone who is from a large family and isn't going to panic over kid chaos, it could work well.
post #504 of 832
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Originally Posted by Unreal View Post
hrmmm

what if you found a more reliable roommate situation?
You are around enough colleges over there to maybe have a student for a roommate?

If you can find someone who is from a large family and isn't going to panic over kid chaos, it could work well.
: We live in a college town. I just haven't fancied a college kid trying to study in their room with the noise and chaos my house is usually in...but maybe there would be people out there who wouldn't mind, or could study, etc at the college library or whatnot...
post #505 of 832
I'm confused by the posts saying that thread like this aren't allowed? : Are people being sarcastic or is something going on that I missed?
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Just was linked to this thread. I'll be back later.
post #507 of 832
Thread Starter 
OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Nothing like this has ever happened to me!!

While I was at my working interview for the childcare center (an interview *I* asked if I could have) the newspaper called.

When I got back I called and he offered me the job!!!!!

So I weighed the pros and cons and decided to take the job at the paper!!!!!

HAHAHAHAHHAHA!!!! I am jumping up and down and could just pee!!!
post #508 of 832
Thread Starter 
Sorry, was talking to my mommy.

Anyway, I start Monday and the only glitch is that the hours are from 10-2 instead of 8-12.

I just need to drop two classes (electives, well my last to english courses) and find one online course.

But, I can take kailey to school and pick her up every day and have time to do errands, household stuff and class work while Kailey is at school 8-10 am.

And who knows where this job will lead. it may be a urn in my future.

The crazy this is that I have always daydreamed about writing for a newspaper- weird huh. I could easily change my major from english ed to english or evcen journalism.

I'm thinking to far ahead now for sure, but don't we have to make our own future?

WOOHOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just call me Teresa Kent, or Teresa Parker
post #509 of 832
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Originally Posted by JesseMomme View Post
: We live in a college town. I just haven't fancied a college kid trying to study in their room with the noise and chaos my house is usually in...but maybe there would be people out there who wouldn't mind, or could study, etc at the college library or whatnot...
*cough*move-to-ithaca*cough*

wow..I've got to go see a dr about that cough.....

post #510 of 832
oh PD That is awesome!!!!

YAY!!!!!!

And starting Monday!! Wow!!!
post #511 of 832

Congrats on the newspaper job!

Just wanted to offer congratulations on the new job. That's very exciting. Enjoy meeting new co-workers and trying new things.
post #512 of 832
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Originally Posted by Potty Diva View Post
Sorry, was talking to my mommy.

Anyway, I start Monday and the only glitch is that the hours are from 10-2 instead of 8-12.

I just need to drop two classes (electives, well my last to english courses) and find one online course.

But, I can take kailey to school and pick her up every day and have time to do errands, household stuff and class work while Kailey is at school 8-10 am.

And who knows where this job will lead. it may be a urn in my future.

The crazy this is that I have always daydreamed about writing for a newspaper- weird huh. I could easily change my major from english ed to english or evcen journalism.

I'm thinking to far ahead now for sure, but don't we have to make our own future?

WOOHOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just call me Teresa Kent, or Teresa Parker

You go girl! Women get down and we wallow in self pity for a day or two and come back fighting!
post #513 of 832
Thread Starter 
we are THINKING about moving to Ithaca dear- ya crazy thing.

I'm always planning on moving out of this hell hole- but, gotta graduate first. Rockingham suck the big one.

I've also planned to move to Germany, back to Oregon, Australia, back to Virginia, etc...

I'm all over the freakin place.
post #514 of 832
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Unreal View Post
*cough*move-to-ithaca*cough*

wow..I've got to go see a dr about that cough.....

LOL! Ok I am a silly woman. I thought you were talking BLAH!
post #515 of 832
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Unreal View Post
oh PD That is awesome!!!!

YAY!!!!!!

And starting Monday!! Wow!!!
I am sure it is just for training. There is a woman who is meticulous about data entry and will be training me. Now that I think about it I am completely petrified!

But excited.
post #516 of 832
Jesse, hope my post about the rent late charges wasn't a big downer for you. I started reading this whole thread two nights ago and have been thinking about you and PD and others and the money struggles some are experiencing. These situations sound extremely tough, and I'm hoping and praying for the posters and their concerns that have been shared here.

Good for you for not taking the new late fee agreement. From what you've shared it sounds like you've accurately decided the place you're living is just too expensive. I'm sorry you're dealing with that.

I may be an optimistic fool, but I wonder if your current apartment manager would provide a reference for you if you let her know you are looking for a place that is more affordable. She wouldn't be able to deny your lateness, but you could ask her to spin it positive, saying something like you will do better with a lower rent. Yes, I think you are right on that the apartment people are imposing the fees because they think you should move to a place you can better afford. And if that's what they want, maybe they will help you get there, KWIM? Maybe I'm dreaming, but perhaps it could be made into a win-win. But it depends if you feel you can trust them. I've been worrying for you about a deposit for a new place. Maybe you could also ask the current apt. people to help you with that, like release a portion or all of your deposit to you faster so you can make an easier transition. I guess the worst they can say is no.

Please know I am thinking of you and wanting to be helpful, if that's possible.

ETA: ITA with you that it makes no sense to call your apt. mgr. with an I don't know... I didn't originally understand that it's taking the whole month to make the payment.
post #517 of 832
Thread Starter 
Satori~ I can't let crud get me down for too long Although in the moment, yikes!
post #518 of 832
Congrats PD!!
post #519 of 832
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Originally Posted by Potty Diva View Post
I am sure it is just for training. There is a woman who is meticulous about data entry and will be training me. Now that I think about it I am completely petrified!

But excited.
It's great to be excited. I'm sure the training will go great. Try not to be nervous, you are a smart and talented person and you will do fine.

It can be very helpful to take notes during training, especially if there are specific processes or techniques that need to be used. (And if the person training you is meticulous, it might impress her.)

Have fun Monday!
post #520 of 832
I'm very scared right now. My partner Mark has been working at a company for 7 years, via a temp agency. He's stayed there this long in hopes of his position being made permanent, because the company offers great benefits like tuition assistance and a pension on top of insurance, 401K, etc. Finally this year, they've created the position they've been promising him. And instead of just giving it to him like they always said, they advertised the position and are interviewing other people for it. Mark has his interview on Wednesday. There are 6 other people (that we know of) who are interviewing as well. If one of them gets hired, Mark's out of a job.

At first, we figured he would be hired no matter what, because his boss and his boss's boss are part of the interviewing process, and because he was told this position was being made FOR him. But as luck would have it, the boss's boss is leaving the company and a new person is stepping in. This new person told Mark's boss to "have an open mind and don't assume anything". Ugh. Mark's worked for them for chump change for SEVEN years, with NO benefits, because they've been dangling this permanent position in front of him, and now they're hinting that they're going to hire someone else. It makes me nauseous.

I'm terrified he's going to lose his job. When we were told his position was going permanent and paying $40,000 to start (almost double what they've been paying him), we made plans to try for another baby because we could finally afford it, and we really started seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. We renewed the lease on our apartment at a higher rent because we were told this job was "in the bag". Now we just feel sick.

I'm trembling as I write this. I hate being so scared.
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