I think, and I promise I'm not trying to talk for you Jesse , that the problem is that they are giving what they can each week--so frequently the month's rent isn't paid until the end of the month.
Which at $5/day would be a heck of a lot of $$
Either way is pretty rotten though
getting closer to dh's job would be awesome tho
I have decided, that although I personally feel like "we dont' deserve it" (I feel we DO deserve it but I mean in their eyes), I'm going to stand down the new late fee "offer"/order and ask to stick to the lease. Our lease is valid until the end of Sept. btw. What do I have to lose here but more money
Actually the underlined sums it up...we give what we can out of each paycheck (almost all of it) and the rent is not "paid in full" until the third or last week or the month and then we have to start all over again.
This is scary...if they turn us down about the lease, then we just can't afford this period and will have to leave, but to where? WIth what money saved up? All of our tax refund went to these guys already. I'd be loathed to ask to borrow money, from my dad, who'd be the only one who would let me borrow money - but I'd never hear the end of it and he himself just doled out for taxes so I know he's tight right now anyways. (cringe just thinking about it) I can't ask him. He helped me pay off my school loan when things were tight and he's sunk a couple thousand into our car for us so we'd have something reliable for transportation...if anything I'd ask him for money for the car repairs before it gets worse.
Kbecks has a point, it would be cheaper for us to talk them into the old terms than to sign and agree to the new ones. Maybe I'm totally pessimistic now adays, but it's like they know we will be chronically late now so they are just taking atvantage of that by coming up with "tough" late fees, in an "effort to get us to not be late". It really feels like we are being punished, and they would really rather us just leave. FTR, they really have gotten almost all of our money that we have made, almost as soon as we've made it, and honestly the whole "sick of chasing you down" bit shocked me because she does call a lot, however I have always called her back promptly, and I usually call right away as soon as I have money in my pocket that is substantial enough to be worth a trip over here to her.
I see no point in calling on a Tuesday to say "Well, you know payday is Friday, but I dont' know if Dh will have a chance to cash his check on that day, and maybe not on Saturday, but maybe he will, I don't know, he may have to work straight through until Sunday night and then I won't have the money until Monday afternoon." I don't like to call people and say "I don't know" - it's rather pointless to me.
Starting last Thursday the toddler got sick and by Sunday night everyone was sick and I was so tired I coudln't see straight and the other day that is what I get "sick of chasing you down!" on the evening that I myself got sick.
Well the only way we can make an effort of not being late is if they would stop cutting dh's hours at work : They schedule him overtime which would be wonderful but then they cut it b/c they have to worry about labor hours.
I did pick up a babysitting gig but I am not charging a lot of money at the moment. Two days into it (babysitting) and it hasn't been bad at all but when both twins are awake at the same time that gets pretty challenging, so I'm thinking of asking for 50 cents more hr/ until the mom gets things in order with DSS. The money I make will be extra to go towards bills, since we really haven't had much extra for bills at all. TBH most extra cash we have goes into the gas tank so dh can drive back and forth to work.
As it stands now, our phone/internet bill is going to be due again shortly, we owe about $240 to the electric/gas, the car still needs work and now it's "making a noise" as of last night, and I'm still dealing with collection calls for piddly debts (like, $40 and whatnot).
Oh, and I'm still finding that to move closer to where Dh works, the average rents for smaller places than we have now (not that I mind smaller, just to give an idea of how market rates are) are more expensive. We're in a rather cheap county, depending on what town you are in or if you are in a extremely rural setting, even cheaper...it's the case with the next county over where Dh works but the throwback to changing counties is to have to go through the whole DSS ordeals again.
We definately have to move from this house, that is for sure. We just can't keep up and the BILs aren't helping enough, even the ones that have made a consistant effort - they just dont' make enough.
After all of that and, ahem, certain other discussions here, I'm just totally bummed out that we can barely keep things going, and that has been with gov't help. I guess I should not let how other people feel affect how I feel, since it's really a reflection of how crappy I feel about our whole situation...wonder if that made sense.
Ok the kids need me.