Originally Posted by UberMama
I am so sorry. No bashing from me. We've had to go without insurance temporarily as well. DH was even caught once, but the officer let him go as long as he promised to get insurance that night (and we did.. somehow).
Okay, since it's difficult to ask your Dad, I'd write him a letter. Tell him you will pay him back within X months or by X date. Explain why you need it, and that if he says no, that's okay. Explain that you tried to ask, but got nervous basically.
TY...I was really scared to admit we didn't have ins. on our car and maybe there's lurkers who are judging but oh well.
The other thing that made my jaw stay open and not "talk" when I was on the phone with my dad earlier this week was that he found me a guitar and he wants to buy it for me because, it's a good deal and for guitars good deals go very fast. And then he goes on about how I need some happiness from music in my life (yeah that would be nice) and wouldn't it be nice if we could play together again. And then he goes on about how he can't really afford it at the moment...I was/am so torn. He had told me a few months ago that he would keep his eye out for a decent guitar that could play (his best friend is a luthier/dealer) but I didn't think it would happen so fast...
Then I had to tell him that one of my BILs was back living in our basement now and if he did snatch it, he had to keep it until my BIL was gone out of here for good because stuff turns up missing again...one time a few months ago we found our things dispersed around various pawn shops...now it's change out of our kids changes buckets, grrr.
Anyways I was torn...my dad complains about money in one breath and then in the next is hellbent on doing this nice thing for me. OTOH we have borrowed so much (and no paid back in the past even when we offered he refused) and he has paid for most of the car himself, and that hasn't been fair to him...I just can't do it. We'd of already been even more screwed without the help he has given us so....we've got to try to figure out a way ourselves.
One way I would get 210% support from my dad is if I somehow got back into school. With four kids (almost) 8 and under, online stuff looks the most feasible at the moment. Now that I've decided this...registration is due by like next tuesday, whoops! Then Dh tells me last night we have to cut the internet and cable. I was all for cutting the cable (it was all a package deal) but I can't do online stuff if I have no internet. I know my dad would pay for the internet in a heartbeat if it meant I was enrolled somewhere. (I just can't seem to decide where. It likely will be within the SNL system
PD - great idea!
Originally Posted by UberMama
I'm going to be sick. We hadn't gotten a gas bill in two months. I kept calling asking where it was. They finally said they sent it earlier this week. We got it today. $345 OMG. And then we got our electric bill. $165.
We can't do this AND move. We can't. I am feeling like I have a need to vomit
I know how you're feeling.
Our gas bill was over $300 just for one month and combined w/ electric the bill shot up over $1,300 before the cold weather was even over (that was just from Jan. to March). Our state's heating assistance program saved our rear ends from freezing, is that a possibility for you? That just stinks, having to choose between one important thing or the other, I'm too familiar with it.
Originally Posted by unreal
It always seems like you guys are just one break from being okay
That's what it feels like, over and over again. I don't even know what to do about it but laugh.
ANd then I always feel like the things we do next is always the wrong decision. I'm trying to think of what would be the right one but am skeered to actually choose
Originally Posted by mamamoo
which My dh just got garnished for recently. The whole thing sucks. I so wish I could do something to help out mama. something comes to you and quick.
You're always such a sweetheart
Dave is really good at argueing traffic tickets in court...he's a great driver, there are just shiesty cops out there! (never been in an accident since we've been together either) In the past he's had three different tickets and argued his way out of them. I dont' see how to argue out of not having insurance for months but hopefully he can get them reduced if we take care of the car and get ins. etc. That's one silver lining we have.
Now if I could just get paid for this week for babysitting (hmmm) I'd have another $35...not much but better than nothing!